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writes:I am 55 y.o. And my wife is 53. We’ve been married for 12 years.She never has had orgasm via intercourse with me (only via oral sex), but she had more than 30 sex partners before we knew and she had orgasms with many of them including a squirt with one of her exes (FWB).I realized that I am the problem. Surely I lack of the proper skills in making love. Now, many years of marriage can’t still get over this subject. Any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2021): Maybe she'll like a little more adventure, maybe a lot more. Do it in the backyard, in your SUV, play hired handyman/ floozy housewife. Maybe have her play a prostitute that meets you a cheap motel. Checked all those boxes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2021): I have only ever climaxed during intercourse with one man in my life and I am older than both you and your wife. He obviously had the 'necessary skills' as you put it, but I'm not with him anymore, because firstly, sex isn't everything, secondly, contrary to popular male opinion, having an orgasm via a penis isn't the best way to cum in my opinion. Why do you think it's so important?
I think that because the penis is the pinnacle of sexual pleasure for a man, they seem to think it must be the sexual pleasure pinnacle for a woman as well, otherwise they are doing something wrong. It's hard sometimes I think for a man to believe that penises aren't so important for a woman.
I would be much more upset to learn that my lover had lost his fingers or his tongue, than to learn he had lost his penis! They're not the be all and end all for a lot of women. In fact IMO you have to really love or fancy a man before you can greet an erect penis with any kind of enthusiasm.
If your wife cums through oral sex, then you obviously have the necessary skills in that department. I bet you she is more than happy with that. This is much more about you and your pride, than your wife's satisfaction. And your pride is misplaced, because MOST women do NOT cum through penetration. My advice would be concentrate on taking her to heaven and back via your tongue and forget the Holy Grail that is unachievable for most men through no fault of your own. Sometimes it's just the way two bodies fit together. You know how you can be comfortable cuddling on the settee with one person, but not so much with another? All to do with size and shape of how our bodies fit together.
I can tell you one thing. You're the only one out of you and your wife who is concentrating on this.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (13 January 2021):
 Good sex starts with good communication, and that takes two people. Everyone is different in what works for them when it comes to sexual satisfaction. If she is comfortable enough to talk to you about what she did with previous partners, then she should definitely be comfortable enough to tell you what she needs to reach orgasm.
You also need to bear in mind that everyone's bodies and reactions change as they age. She may have found it easy to orgasm in the past but, given her age, she may find it much more difficult now.
If you can bring her to orgasm via oral sex, why not include that in your love making on a regular basis?
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