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writes:hello im divine from nigeria i dont know how to tell a girl i like her im a very shy person. can someone help me out all my friends have girl friends but i dont im piesed off. help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2021): You have to get her attention, and start a conversation. She might not want to be your girlfriend; but you have to practice opening-up and talking to girls, until you gain confidence. Watch your friends, and notice how comfortable they are being around girls. You're no different than they are.
You must learn to rule your shyness, and not let your shyness rule you!
When you see the girl, say hello to her and give her a smile. Each and every-time you pass each-other be sure to say hello to her. You can't just walk-up and tell her you like her, she doesn't know anything about you. If you get enough nerve, try and chat a little with her. If she seems willing to have conversation; everything else will come naturally. If she seems put-off or annoyed with you, just leave her alone. No-one is obligated to like you because you feel you like them. That's common sense.
Shyness is something you have to overcome; or loneliness will be your only companion. If you can make friends with guys, talking to a girl is no harder than talking to another boy. You just don't say the dumb things you say when hanging with your buddies!
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (30 January 2021):
 You don't need to outright tell someone you like them. You can be a lot more subtle than that but still get your point across.
Smile. A smile always makes you look nicer, friendlier and more approachable.
Aim to make friends with girls. Don't immediately look at them as potential girlfriends. This will not only take the pressure off you a little but will also give you chance to find out if they have a nice personality, as that will be important if the relationship is to stand a chance.
Show an interest in girls as people. They are no different to boys, except in gender. They have the same issues and insecurities as you do so try not to build them up into being something scary and intimidating.
Once you befriend a girl you think you would like as a girlfriend, make it obvious you like her by being friendly, by showing an interest in her. You will soon figure out if she feels the same. Don't wade in with declarations of feelings for girls you hardly know as that is likely to scare them off.
Good luck.
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