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writes: So the guy I like constantly makes comments to me about not liking breasts. He says that he doesn’t like big breasts and ‘more than a handful is a waste’.This is clearly targeted at me because I have really big breasts, is this simply his way of telling me he doesn’t find me attractive and by extension he’s basically not interested!??I feel like the answer to this question is obviously that he isn’t interested but also I feel like other guys I’ve been in relationships with haven’t been breast men, to be fair my exes are usually into bums and that’s ok because they like my bum, but he’s not saying that.
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reader, Random Kid  +, writes (28 April 2021):
If he is only in it as long as they have smaller boobs, then he is an idiot. it doesn't matter what you look like on the outside. it's how you look on the inside that actually matters, and if he can't see that, then he isn't worth the trouble. I suggest finding someone else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2021): *Scratching my head!*
What does it take for you to be offended and to determine when somebody is being an absolute jackass?!!"
If he likes little "titties," let him go find somebody who has them!
Why are you wasting your valuable time by entertaining someone who tells you he prefers somebody with physical-attributes you don't have???
Now let me give it to you straight! When someone online tells you he likes body-parts unlike those that you have, he is a knucklehead! He is showing you blatant disrespect. If you continue to engage in communication; he will figure you out to be slow, or excruciatingly naive. If he's really rotten to the core, he thinks you're stupid and desperate!
You're neither dumb or stupid, nor naive. I would say, you're a little too comfortable with giving men undue-latitude; and maybe somewhat search-weary after a long series of online-nincompoops! Maybe you're a lady badly in need of male-validation to make yourself feel attractive or worthy of attention. None of these are good! You shouldn't be actively seeking dates online, if you don't know any better!
Tell him go love himself; and block him from contact! Remove him from your contacts and social media accounts. He's bad-news and totally disrespectful!!! He's also stupid!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2021): I can understand why you are bothered . Many men now days do look at women as a series of body parts . It comes from the fact the majority of them watch way too much porn which builds its whole premise on breaking women down into body part . One only has to take a quick glance to see a tiny handful of catagories for men ( mainly aimed at gay men and maybe the odd big ... or for the ladies catagory for women ) and the literally thousands of ways they deconstruct women into age nationalities, heights , hair colour , hair amounts , body size , and yes breast size
The minute a guy shows he’s been brainwashed by this type of depersonalisation and objectification of women it’s best to recognise he’s not worth a relationship .
I’d just say next time he says it tell him , don’t worry no women would want a relationship with a guy who judges women based on their body so you shouldn’t worry
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (23 January 2021):
 What is it you like about this guy? I'm a little surprised that a woman in her 30s is wasting her time on an idiot who only views women's worth in terms of the size of their breasts.
If you are that bothered about him, asking him point blank if he would date someone with large breasts, then you will have your answer. If he is saying things like that in front of you - the possessor of big breasts - then he is either trying to drop hints he is not interested or he is an insensitive jerk, or, most likely, a bit of both.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2021): His comments suggest that he is a horrible man, who is not above making crass, crude, personal comments to a woman when he knows full well that those comments are going to hurt.
He is on the path towards making you feel 'less than', 'not good enough' and insecure. He wants you to question your attractiveness for him, so that you will be all the more surprised and supposedly 'grateful' when he gives you his time.
He sounds like a player, one of those horrible people who get their kicks from playing with people's minds and emotions, laughing up his sleeve at the effect he is having upon you.
Don't allow men like this into your mind and most certainly not your heart. He had proved that he is a nasty piece of work.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (22 January 2021):
 I have to agree he sounds like an idiot.
So if he doesn't like big boobs why does he feel a need to let YOU know that? Especially when it's OBVIOUS that you do have bigger boobs?
To me it almost sounds like one of those "pick up artists" playbook plays where the guy "criticize" the woman to make her feel LUCKY that he is even talking to her. It's kind of gross.
There is nothing wrong with your boobs. If he isn't into you, he would just have said so, he didn't need to make any crude comments about your body.
If this is CONSTANT, I would suggest you move on. Why would you sit there and listen to some guy telling you that your body is not OK? When you body is fine.
I get that we ALL have certain preferences, but this guy is going out of his way to hurt your feelings to make SURE you are aware of his preferences. That is a DICK move.
Cut him lose!
You are wasting your time on this one. Find someone who can like and love the WHOLE of you. Not just nitpick your body part by body part.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2021): You have a very low opinion of yourself. Why would you be interested in a man who talks about you as if you are a piece of meat, a sex object, where your personality etc do not matter and only your breasts matter? It beggars belief that you would consider him good enough.
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reader, kenny +, writes (22 January 2021):
 I take it you have known this guy for a considerable amount of time, and often exchange banter of a sexual nature.
I say this because to let someone know your not all that interested by way of mentioning a personal body part is very weird indeed, i have never heard of someone doing this before.
Its a bit shallow if i'm honest, there is more to you than big breasts.
He sounds like an idiot to me, you should forget him and move on.
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