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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

How can I deal with my conservative- verbally abusive living situation?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1938 days ago

31 July 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - How can I navigate my abusive living situation? Background - I grew up in a conservative home ( think our current state of the union remarks) is here my parents care about money- materials and how good their daughters looks and well educated etc for a long time my parents ... (489 words)

I want to trust him but how can I when hes so private about everything?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1938 days ago

31 July 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello and thank you for your advice I did post once before here. I snooped through my husbands cell. I know it was wrong but hes so secretive and if I ask him something he won't answer me. So yes I had a bad feeling and looked through his cell and he was cheating with tw... (166 words)

I think I'm caught in what would be called a roundabout, complicated form of porn addiction

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1937 days ago

31 July 2019 (M)

age 18-21 - Hi everyone. I am sixteen years old. I am a normal bloke, I think. Or maybe I am not. I have been reading this website a lot for the past one week. I generally understand that a lot guys struggle with porn. I also understand that porn has detrimental effects on the mind. I th... (568 words)

Did he lead me on or am I just stupid?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1938 days ago

31 July 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - I've posted numerous times before anonymously. Long story short - my ex and I work together. Friends first then started dating which was perfect...he told me he had a stronger bond with me than he'd ever had before with anyone, after three months he said he wanted us to sta... (792 words)

He wants phone sex but I don't should I give in?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1938 days ago

30 July 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I are long distance right now and will be until Christmas. We're living at opposite sides of the country. We can see each other a couple of times a month. For the in-between time, he wants us to try phone sex. I find the whole idea awkward and cringey and have ... (295 words)

My other half gets angry in his sleep

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1675 days ago

30 July 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - My other half gets angry in his sleep. He will turn to me, shout and swear. It happens around the time he feels anxious and he has a loss of libido. He cant pin point why he's anxious though. He's suffered from depression in the past and has explained that he's good... (90 words)

A guy keeps coming back when he doesn't want a relationship.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1940 days ago

30 July 2019 (F)

age 22-25 - My ex and met online game site 3 years and we hit it off. However, after 5 months he broke it off because he felt like we don’t live within reasonable distance to support a relationship. We live 5 hours away from each other of driving distance. We still kept seeing each other ... (418 words)

Do I have to invite this person to my party?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1936 days ago

29 July 2019 (M)

age - I'm having a birthday party soon.I have to restrict numbers because of budget. Some of the people coming are frinds of my gf- I've been with her for 10 years. There's one particular guy I can't stand. He often makes digs at me, and although never declared, we just don't like ... (166 words)

I don't want to go back to my husband. I'm much happier away from him

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1941 days ago

28 July 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - I've posted here previously about issues with my "in-laws." My partner and I have 3 children together, and we've relocated near his family and issues arose with their boundaries and respect for me. I've gone with the kids to spend time with my family across the country and have ... (536 words)

Weed consumes his whole life

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 1938 days ago

27 July 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi I’ve got a problem hopefully you can help me with my partner is a heavy weed smoker this drives me mad when we first met he had the odd joint now and again fast forward to 6 years later and he spends hundreds on it each month never has any money through the month at all ... (196 words)

Friend inviting me on holiday and professional/personal boundaries.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1941 days ago

27 July 2019 (M)

age 36-40 - Two situations I need help with, that involve professional/personal blurring amongst gay men: - I have this friend; he is very well connected in the art world. He is friends with a hotel owner, who has offered him a full paid up trip in Europe, hotel, food, everything. My f... (448 words)

We broke up but he said he wanted to be there for me but now he's acting insensitive and I'm confused

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1943 days ago

27 July 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi all, My boyfriend of 2.5 years broke up with me because he moved to another country to pursue his MBA. The context is that we have been in a long distance for sometime in the middle as well. He was depressed at the time and not much was working out in his life. I made ... (272 words)

He said he had been celibate but after we had sex he told me he had herpes.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1944 days ago

26 July 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm so afraid right now.Here's a summary of what happened. I recently connected with my ex and we attempted to be intimate but he could not become aroused,he said it was because he was nervous and that he hadn't had sex in 4 years. I found it really strange but we eventually ... (303 words)

My husband wants us to go to a psychic and I think he's lost his mind.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1941 days ago

26 July 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - My husband and I went through some trauma and conflict lately. Well after work last week, he decided to see a psychic. He told me everything they said except the relationship part. I said that he could tell me and it's ok if the psychic said we won't end up together. I said ... (270 words)

What are the chances they are having an emotional affair?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1943 days ago

25 July 2019 (F)

age - We purchased a home for my son and his fiancée and their daughter with his trust. We have been renovating the home to have it ready for them by August . I noticed my husband becoming more and more distant and him working different hours than he ever had before. He owns his... (335 words)

My girlfriend's hoarder sist.er wont move out

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1943 days ago

25 July 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - My girlfriends sister (41) will not move out! My girlfriend (28) and I (27) have been together for about three years...for most of that we have lived together. The first year my girlfriend rented and I moved in with her and not long after her sister followed (sister had lost... (292 words)

My husband is extremely insecure and wants to change

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1912 days ago

25 July 2019 (F) age 30-35 - My husband is extremely insecure. The weird thing is, I've always admired him for his confidence, humor, and many other wonderful traits. He was very direct in asking me out and always made me feel important. We've been together for three years now. Just recently, he adm... (420 words)

A girl I like has told me she might get back with her ex, should I tell her again, how I feel?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1944 days ago

25 July 2019 (M)

age 30-35 - I met a girl who at that time told me that she is still not over her ex boyfriend and wanted to take it as friends for the time being if that is acceptable with me. She seemed cool and I was okay with that at that point. We started as friends and that involved hanging out ... (264 words)

My husband spends large amounts of money on prayer and food for God. I find this strange

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1866 days ago

25 July 2019 (F) age 41-50 - Thanks for your advice My husband does things that I find someone concerning. He is from Africa and he spends large amounts of money on prayer and eats food with God only knows what is in it. When I tell him to pray without giving these people money he gets offended. ... (167 words)

Am I a creep for still feeling the same way about her that I did 2 years ago?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1945 days ago

25 July 2019 (M)

age 18-21 - Hi all. Any advice about my situation is much appreciated. To give some context, I'm 16 years old and have recently finished GCSE's, soon to begin studying an animal management course in college. Over the course of school, me and my best friend stuck together for what was nea... (351 words)

When do I explain to this man about my health?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1945 days ago

25 July 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, I've been ghsv1 positive for about a year or 2 now and have had perhaps 2 or 3 very very mild outbreaks since my initial diagnosis. A while ago I got out of a serious relationship (with the guy who have it to me) and I started talking to a guy I met online, he's fro... (314 words)

Why are these 2 men acting this way to me?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1944 days ago

24 July 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - Here's the sitch: I work at a large department store. Associates flirt and date constantly, so there's no stigma about it where I work. I had an eye contact flirtation going on for awhile with a security guy(B). He'd always do his rounds to purposely be near me, always givin... (481 words)

Why do I feel offended my BF wants to take an enhancement pill?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1920 days ago

24 July 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - Me and my boyfriend have been working our arses off these past few months and have planned a dirty weekend away together in a few weeks. We’ve hardly seen each other in that time because we’ve been so busy with work, family and events like weddings so really need this time ... (387 words)

The way my boyfriend acts makes me feel insecure

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1944 days ago

24 July 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - I’ve been dating a guy for a year now. He’s practically very committed - helps me out around my home, is great with my three year old (loves spending time with him), and talks openly about our future. In 30, have a great job and my own home and he is 37 with hardly any long ... (768 words)

Why do some men perceive women as entertainment

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1944 days ago

24 July 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - Why do some men perceive women as entertainment . I’ve seen this attitude from so many men and even seen it stated here on this round that women are men’s entertainment . Why do some Men think women are here solely for their viewing pleasure and not to be treated equally ... (111 words)

I'm attracted to a married man at work and need to rebuild the boundaries.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1945 days ago

24 July 2019 (F)

age 51-59 - A gentleman in my workplace has been increasingly attentive. He is a little older and happily married. I love having a strong work ally I respect him and his commitment to his family. I have found myself having thoughts about him. At points I wondered what might happen. ... (243 words)

My husband is abusive, where do I go from here?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1945 days ago

23 July 2019 (F)

age 26-29 - I've been agonizing this for a while now. I love my husband more than I've loved any other man, and I see so much good in him, but is he abusive? He's never hit me. I don't think he would ever hit me, but he's really quick to anger. This is really hard for me to talk about, but ... (370 words)

How can I get my partner to be a better parent?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1945 days ago

23 July 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi I’ve been with my fiancé for 8 years we have a 4 year old daughter I have a 11 year old daughter from a previous relationship the problem is not a very good father he has never done any night Feeds or changed a nappy when she was a baby I have sorted nursery and school ... (234 words)

5 months into our relationship and partner is dragging his feet filing for divorce from wife.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1944 days ago

23 July 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - A guy I've known over the years went through a split up with his wife. He was staying at my brothers house but it was crowded there so i told him he could stay with me. I just so happened to be searching for a roommate to help out. It wasn't long before we realized how great ... (412 words)

I'm interested in an older guy, how do I find out if he is married?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 1919 days ago

23 July 2019 (F)

age 26-29 - for the past two months or so ive been wanting to speak to someone who is older then me , a lot of people who ive spoken to about this have give me mixed opinions . its the first time ive ever wanted to speak to someone older , he is older then me by just under 20 years . ... (627 words)

I think I made a mistake getting married. Any advice?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1946 days ago

23 July 2019 (F) age 41-50 - Thanks for your opinions So, I'm feeling a bit frustrated. My husband lives a lavish lifestyle and he lives to impress his buddies. It's almost like he buys their friendship. Our mindsets are very different. He is from a different culture. Where they seem to be obsessed with... (245 words)

Its hard for me to be around my husband's friends when I don't feel accepted

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1939 days ago

23 July 2019 (F)

age 26-29 - Hello! I've been fixating on a problem lately and I was hoping to get some advice. My husband and I are very different -- which is great, and it's one of the many reasons why I fell in love with him. But because we're so different, our individual friend circles are also... (328 words)

Fiance won't end things with emotional affair woman

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1947 days ago

23 July 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - My fiance and I are going through a rough patch. He recently sat me down and told me that there's something he needs to tell me. He told me that for the past three months, he had been texting with a woman from work. He said that although they haven't done anything physical, he ... (385 words)

My relationship is good, except for the sex.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1945 days ago

23 July 2019 (F) age 26-29 - Hello. I am in a relationship with a guy for 4 months now. He is a really nice person. We always connect on so many levels. He loves me and i love him too. He understands me and supports me. He is like a backbone. He is very romantic and very loyal and responsible. Everyt... (189 words)

My boyfriend is repulsing me.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1866 days ago

22 July 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - This is going to sound really bad, but i am starting to get really repulsed by my bf. We broke up breifly this yr n got bk together for the kids but i still feel the same. I see him like a friend, no spark, nothing in common anymore and i honestly find him boring, but hes all ... (136 words)

My partner is into beastiality

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1943 days ago

22 July 2019 (F)

age 51-59 - My partner is into beastialiy Not sure how to deal with this one? I have known for some time that my partner of 6 years has always watched porn and I can’t say I was thrilled about it but I put up with it. Now I’ve recently discovered that he has been watching beastia... (112 words)

My Baby Daddy never follows through on promises, how can I make him happy?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1943 days ago

22 July 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been with my baby Daddy boyfriend for almost two years. I have stayed with him when he was unemployed for 6 months, quit jobs and been broke. I have worked full time even when I was pregnant. We split up for two weeks because I finally stood up to him and told him no ... (351 words)

Is it ok to have a relationship, but keeping my goals first at the same time?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1945 days ago

22 July 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey guys! Despite my usual posts in here, I have a pretty calmed down question/need for advice. I was in a 6 year relationship from 18 to 25. I am now 27 and after a slew of some flings and single dating, I was able to find a really great guy. We've only been dating f... (326 words)

I'm single and pregnant, despite complications with the baby the father doesn't want to know about us.

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 1944 days ago

21 July 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - So I was dating a guy for 2 months, going really well then he ended the relationship due to the fact he didn't like the fact I have children, 3 weeks later I found out I was pregnant with his child, (implant broke) he said when he found out he wanted nothing to do with me or ... (317 words)

How Do I Begin Feeling Happy About Other People Success?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1948 days ago

21 July 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - How do I begin being happy for others? Two years ago, I lost my job and got into a car accident. While I’m trying to get back on my feet, I see that my friends are moving out of my parents’ homes. I still live with mine. A majority of people I know have great jobs and are ... (125 words)

I'm off to a spa weekend by myself, my boyfriend didn't want to come and he wants to stop me going too!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1948 days ago

21 July 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - I have booked myself a spa break in a classy hotel as a treat and my boyfriend is saying its a dodgy place to go in a hot tub with strangers in a bikini for a woman. He kept saying men could try and chat me up. I don't understand this Im going there to relax and have ... (124 words)

He quickly gives offers of help but wont do paid work for me.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1948 days ago

20 July 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - I became friendly with a guy who did work for me. We became friends on facebook so I suppose lost the trader/customer boundary. However he has let me down a few times now but if I have posted about needing something ie a code checker for my car or to borrow a suitcase from ... (132 words)

The first guy I loved is moving to another continent

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1675 days ago

20 July 2019 (F)

age 26-29 - Hey guys. So, something has happened that has me so sad. I met this guy back in 2016, and I haven’t seen him for over a year. The last time we saw each other we had a fight and he unfollowed me on Instagram and I deleted him from Facebook. Haven’t seen him ever since. He did ... (715 words)

How can I tell if he's taking Viagra?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1945 days ago

20 July 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello everyone I reconnected with my ex recently and everything has been going great. We haven't been together in about 8 years so its like getting to know him all over again. He is 28. The problem is when we decided to have intercourse the other night he couldn't get an ... (253 words)

My girlfriend constantly complains about her weight but wont do anything about it!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 1942 days ago

20 July 2019 (M)

age 30-35 - How do I deal with my gf complaining about her weight. I used to pressure her to keep an eye in her weight but she loves eating junk. I gave up about 3-4 years ago as we went from size 10 to 16. She is adamant it’s because it’s certain parts and she is not actually 16. Sh... (280 words)

I don't understand why men cheat

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 1949 days ago

20 July 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - Why do guys cheat? Is it because the sex is no good with me or is it because hes just a man?... (22 words)

Emotionally abusive friendship is there a way out ?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1948 days ago

19 July 2019 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm in an emotionally abusive friendship with another girl, we have been friends for many years. Its so hard to let go because when we get along its like the best friendship ever, we connect she totally understands and supports me, and vica versa, we laugh for hours on end, ... (269 words)

Married to a selfish man but I love him.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1948 days ago

19 July 2019 (F)

age 41-50 - How do i stop caring about what my husband thinks of me!? Hes a very selfish person and i think i made a miatake marrying him. I cant leave because i love him but it doesnt feel like he loves me the same... (43 words)

Do I continue in my loveless marriage? I reconnected with my ex

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1948 days ago

18 July 2019 (M)

age - I have been married about 21 years. The last 7 have been really bad, it is almost just like sharing a house with a roommate. My last kid will be moving out is September. This opens a new chapter. Do I continue this loveless relationship? Anyway I reached out through F... (153 words)

I'm unhappy in my marriage husband cheated may have gotten another woman pregnant

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1948 days ago

17 July 2019 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi all. I am unhappy in my marriage. I want to leave but I know my eldest son would feel so hurt. I can't take it anymore. My husband cheated after us being together for five years. He brought a child into our marriage and it's like I can't get over it. It was just a few months ... (341 words)