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writes:My partner is into beastialiyNot sure how to deal with this one? I have known for some time that my partner of 6 years has always watched porn and I can’t say I was thrilled about it but I put up with it. Now I’ve recently discovered that he has been watching beastiality porn and never watches normal porn.. Yes I did look on his search history as I thought something was wrong and that he might be cheating or on dating sites. This has got so serious that he watches it for approx 2-3 hours a day around 3-4 times a week. He’s sick, right?
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (27 July 2019):
 Sending hugs. This must have been an awful shock for you and will probably stay with you for ever. I really feel for you.
I totally agree with you that you SHOULD tell him EXACTLY why you want out of the relationship. And don't mince your words or sugar-coat what you say. Tell him what you found disgusted you to your core and probably scarred you immeasurably. Cut all contact and block him so he can't contact you again. You cannot force him to seek help; that has to be his choice. Sadly I suspect he will probably choose to keep getting his kicks from the rape of animals.
Take care and stay strong. You deserve so much better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2019): RUN, run and don't look back. And take your dogs with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2019): Strange man, get rid
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2019): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi. Thank you for the replies. We don’t live together which is a god send. He comes to mine approx 3 times a week and he leaves his iPad. Like I said previously I thought he was up to something so I had a look as everything he puts in his search from his phone shows on his iPad. I was not prepared for what I saw. I will end our relationship but feel that I want to give him the real reason as I think he needs help. I don’t feel sorry for him in any way. I feel sick to my stomach. I only clicked on the search and saw a picture and video to play, that was enough. There were so many, I’m talking hundreds. Thank you for your help. I’m hurt and disappointed as I thought I knew this man x
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2019): His choice of porn tells you that he is into rape.
As HoneyPie said, children, animals and corpses cannot give consent. And there are of course people who have mental problems who cannot consent either, and you will find them more often than not participating in all sorts of "sick" porn (sorry I don't have a better word for this).
I'd leave him.
And I kinda know what you are talking about.
When my husband and I inherited a house from his aunt, there was much deculttering to do, old clothes, furniture, magazines, books... His uncle had died decades ago leaving behind a lot of stuff and his aunt was somewhat of a hoarder. Anyway, when we opened one of the metal boxes at the bottom of his uncle's desk, we found his stash of bestiality porn.
We both got sick immediately and we didn't even leaf through the magazines (who would have wanted to?!). One page was enough. We can never unsee what we saw that day.
Have you ever seen any of the images on these sites? If you have, now can you imagine what kind of a person would take pleasure from watching this?
Sorry, but that is my two cents.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (24 July 2019):
Sorry, just re-read your post and realized you are not even married. Get out of there, girl. This is one sick individual.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (24 July 2019):
Now that you know, you will not be at peace until you make a decision about your future. If this sort of thing turns your stomach (as it sounds to do), then I doubt you will ever look at your husband the same again nor feel about him the same again.
In your shoes I would be out of that door, with my dogs, as soon as you have found another place for you all to stay.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2019): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your reply. I didn’t actually know that this sort of porn even existed and was shocked at the amount available to view. It also made me sick just at the thought and I didn’t watch any of it. You’re right that it’s time to move on. Normal porn was one thing but this has totally disgusted me. I have two dogs and I couldn’t even begin to comprehend how people do such things to defenceless animals
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (23 July 2019):
 I'd say that is a TOTAL turn of for me. While I get porn is a "fantasy" there are just certain "genres" that would be deal breakers for me... children, dead people and animals. All who CAN NOT consent.
Is he SICK though? I don't know. I makes me sick to know there is so much of that kind of porn "out there" that he can watch it for 2-3 hours - 3-4 times a week. Gross. I think I just threw up in my mouth a little.
Would I be with a partner who's taste in sex ran that way? No.
So what to do? Up to you. I'd personally, leave him and find someone I was more compatible with.
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