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writes:This is going to sound really bad, but i am starting to get really repulsed by my bf. We broke up breifly this yr n got bk together for the kids but i still feel the same. I see him like a friend, no spark, nothing in common anymore and i honestly find him boring, but hes all puppy dog eyes to me and clingy and thats not for me, its actually gotten worse as the yrs have gone on and its not cute anymore. The bad habits seem like they are a thousand times worse and i cant keep having the same tiffs about peeing all over the toilet seat, picking his nose and eating it and chewing his nails.. Is this nornal in a relationship? Help.
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reader, Dionee'  +, writes (13 October 2019):
 Why torture yourself by staying in a relationship with someone whom you're repulsed by?
Why do people stay together for the kids anyway? All that does is show them what it's like to know what not being in love looks like. It's psychologically damaging. Take it from me, I was raised by that for a period of time. If you really want to do yourself and your kids a favour, just let it go. Nobody said that you can't effectively coparent without being together so it's best to try to sort that out instead of dragging a dead horse.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2019): Hi
I had exactly the same thing with my husband, really lovely man, we didn't argue, we were friends for decades before we got together.
BUT...he picked his nose and ate it. I nearly throw up thinking about that now. He would also eat anything that came off him, scabs, wax from his ears….whatever.
If he went to kiss me, that was all I could think about.
In the end, I finished it. Sounds mad to end a marriage based on that. But what he did repulsed me too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2019): is it the kind of relationship you'd want for your child when he or she breaks up? No being repulsed by your partner is not normal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2019): I just thought that it was common in relationships to go thrpigh a phase like this but maybe its just a sign its over. Hes not bad to me and is a genuine nice guy but there is something missing, is this me falling out of love? Thamks for your advice guys x
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reader, N91  +, writes (23 July 2019):
 Why waste your time? Move on.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (23 July 2019):
 Considering that HE will likely NOT change. Is this how you want your kids to see as the "standard" for relationships? Is this really the "best" for the kids?
You don't love him, you find him gross. Trust me, KIDS are like little sponges that hears and sees things you "think" they don't.
It's NOT working for you. Be honest. That is why you left in the first place.
Picking his nose and eating the buggers, OK kinda gross -- peeing all over the toilet seat.. he should have learned to NOT do that at age 5 (if not sooner)! WHY clean up after him? He is a GROWN ASS MAN!
However, it's still not really fair on ANYONE in your household to live with this resentment.
Why not END it? He can still be a dad to his kids.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (23 July 2019):
 "for the kids",
Is it good for kids to witness an unloving relationship filled with bickering, spats, and tiffs?
These problems were there from the start, but then they were cute now they are repulsive. He hasn't changed, your perception of him has changed.
How does the new love interest stack up?
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