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writes:My husband and I went through some trauma and conflict lately. Well after work last week, he decided to see a psychic. He told me everything they said except the relationship part. I said that he could tell me and it's ok if the psychic said we won't end up together. I said that I won't believe it anyway. But he wasn't comfortable doing so, so I think he believed whatever they said. Yesterday and today, he tried asking for my time of birth (of which I have no idea) and also asked if I could ask my parents. I said that my parents also have no clue because who cares about stuff like that. I told him that I'm not going to let him be ridiculous and go to a psychic for me/us. I then showed him an article I found in which the top psychic admitted that psychics aren't real and that people are better off seeing a therapist. I also semi-joked that I should become a psychic to get easy money from people like him.My husband said I was being harsh and he was just going for fun. But I know that's not true. He's been going through a hard time lately and seems to be clinging onto random short-term obsessions. I am worried for him. I also know that psychics are expensive. If he brings this up again, how can I reason with him? He's never acted this way so it's concerning. We've had a healthy relationship for 5 years.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (29 July 2019):
Hi OP,
You are the smart one here. Psychics are not real. No one can tell you the future and not know their own. If they were so good at what the did, they would know your time of birth on their own.
How rich would I be if I knew the future??? These so called psychics rely on foolish people to pay them big bucks to get rich.
NASA has spent billions of dollars on satellites trying to predict the weather, and they still get it wrong at times. But for a couple hundred bucks you can tell me what will happen in my life??
Stupid things like "You will meet someone important in your life." WHAT!!! If you are that good, tell me who, where, when, and how.
One day you happen to bump into someone famous by pure chance, and the psychic was right!!!
Do not go with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2019): Psychics are quite fun and comforting as long as you don't take them so seriously to the extend to affect your life. They are a bit like doctors really treating troubled minds. I remember and long before I was married a psychic telling me that I will marry twice in my life. Well I am still married to the first wife for the past 45 years and to be honest I don't think at this stage I will ever marry a second one. That shows how right psychics are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2019): People searching for truth and food for the spirit often start-off with divination, psychics, spiritualism, and other hokey (and potentially dangerous) sources of occult nonsense. They sometimes become totally obsessed, and spend a great deal of money.
God is not in this category of thinking, and belief requires no cards or strange artifacts to summon anything. Whether you believe or not; religion in itself is man-made, therefore any issues with it is with man. God is divine and benevolent. He doesn't require you to read cards, spend money for readings, or need to know the time you were born! If you're so psychic, you should know without asking. Right?
You wouldn't feel the deep concern you're feeling either! Something good within you feels uneasy about this. God is the reason for that. Whether you believe it or not. He is a part of us. Intelligent creation and self-awareness comes from somewhere.
People are told all sorts of things at these psychic sessions; and sometimes scheduled to comeback weeks or months in-advance. Like follow-up doctor's appointments. Once some people get hooked, you can't tell them anything. They may go into depression, become isolated, and they'll believe every word these tarot readers and white witches say. These so-called psychic-readers will suggest general things to their clients; and self-fulfilling prophecy will confirm their fake-readings. They try to make their clients regulars; so they predict oncoming calamities and disasters that creates fear to lead them to believe their readings can keep them ahead of it, or help them to avoid it.
They are charlatans! Some practice black magic, which employs the use of potions, dusts, trinkets, or the use of tarot cards. Keep this stuff out of your home. They are using mind-manipulation, and tinkering with people's subconscious-thought. They're objective is to convince you it is real and they are real. Then they'll start increasing the price of their services.
If he really needs food for the soul and is concerned about his marriage; he can stop by a church. Even if you're a nonbeliever, he's the one seeking something to feed a hungry spirit that needs comforting, meditation, and possibly prayer. Only he's searching the wrong sources.
You may not believe in psychics, God, and what have you; but messing around with this stuff exposes your mind to dark places. You start messing with deep corners of your mind that don't really need to be bothered. Steer him from occultism gradually. Being too abrupt or confrontational will only make him rebellious. My guess is the psychic has already told him you won't believe and will try to stop him.
Don't encourage him by participating or giving him information about yourself that you find weird and unsettling. You aren't participating in his mystic-dabbling; and you don't need to end-up where he will. I would love your follow-up in the future. Let me tell you what happens, if it isn't already.
Money will become missing and unaccounted for. He will either lie or give excuses to account for it. He will start behaving strangely, and keeping more to himself. You may start seeing weird artifacts around your home. Your marriage will become strained, and you will become very anxious about it. You are already anxious about it; so ease him away from the occultism. Try not to be confrontational, he will only resist you; because the psychic wants him to comeback, and will make suggestions to him to be resistant if you try to stop him. It is very much like dealing with an addict, alcoholic, or cultist.
You both need counseling together; so he can tell you what's bothering him. He doesn't know how to communicate his innermost feelings, and he's struggling with inner-conflict. Men who internalize suffer alone; and they would rather do that, than expose their feelings and emotions. They consider that weakness. The irony being, hiding and suppressing your pain and/or feelings; or letting them devour you from the inside, is really a weakness. That's where women show more strength. You let it all out!
If you practice a faith of your own; then seek your own faith-counseling through your worship-leadership. They are educated and trained in dealing with these cases. If you are a nonbeliever in anything; then your own intellect is what you have to rely on. You'll figure something out through trial and error. Our advice is very general and opinionated. There is more than one kind of counseling you can pursue. Psychics are not the source of counseling anyone really needs. If you think the belief in God is ridiculous, what gives psychics powers to see or do anything that requires money in exchange for it?
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (28 July 2019):
 People who go through trauma will reach out to sources that will give them life's toughest answers, help them heal and move on. There are real psychics but many fake ones. To pay an expensive fee to take a risk getting a real one may not be worth it. How angry would both of you be if you find out that you pay hundreds of dollars only to feel robbed later? To feel that a psychic took advantage of your vulnerability. Tell your husband if he can believe in a supernatural power. He can also believe in Jesus. Prayers to Jesus, or saying Hail Mary can also be powerful, and free of charge. If your husband has to insist, tell him a medium would be a better choice. A psychic forecasts the future, which would be vague and unpredictable because we have free will to change our path. A true medium has the ability to contact dead family members, correctly say their names, what they look like, the objects, places that identify them and what message they have for your husband. No birth data is needed. If your husband has to pay, let him get answers that are concrete, instead of hotline psychics who might give general answers that suit everyone.
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reader, KeW  +, writes (27 July 2019):
 Hello OP,
Some people believe in psychics and others don’t. It’s no different to believing in God; there’s no proof of existence, just people who say it’s real - which is why it’s up to each individual to decide how they feel.
If he’s spending his money, not your joint money, I’m afraid you can’t “let or not let” him do things, regardless of what you think of them. Therapy is a proven scientific way to cope with things and faith is not, but it still helps some people.
This sounds similar to a poster who’s husband is paying out for voodoo because his psychic mum said he needs to. Perhaps you should ask for marriage counselling, as there’s clearly something bothering one or both of you.
Best wishes!
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