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I know very little about post menopause!

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Question - (4 September 2013) 8 Answers - (Newest, 6 December 2013)
A male United Kingdom age , *SBach writes:

I'm in my late forties, and recently I have been seeing a very nice woman in her mid fifties. We haven't slept together, but the relationship looks like it's heading towards that level of intimacy (I hope!).

I assume that given her age she is probably post-menopausal, and this is wholly uncharted territory for me. So I would like to ask any post-menopausal agony aunts if there are any specific issues I should be aware of concerning sex.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (6 December 2013):

So_Very_Confused agony auntnow that's the kind of follow up I Love.

Congrats OP... glad it's working out!

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A male reader, JSBach United Kingdom +, writes (6 December 2013):

JSBach is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Thank you for all your advice.

We did finally become intimate, and I found it highly agreeable. There was a certain dryness issue, but we used lube, and then everything went very well.

As I said, highly agreeable.

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A female reader, Aunty Babbit United Kingdom +, writes (4 September 2013):

Aunty Babbit agony auntThank you So Very Confused who has brought (very sweetly to my attention) that I have misread your lady friends age.

My advice on menopause still stands though and I still think you're a very considerate partner :)

AB x

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A male reader, JSBach United Kingdom +, writes (4 September 2013):

JSBach is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Thanks Auntie Babbit. That was the kind of advice I was looking for. By the way, it's me who's in my late forties. My lady friend is mid 50s. You wouldn't believe it to see her dancing and singing all night though. I bet she could swim from Cuba to Florida too!

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A female reader, Aunty Babbit United Kingdom +, writes (4 September 2013):

Aunty Babbit agony auntOuch! I'm 42! I'm not post menopausal but having spent 20 years as a midwife and women's health expert I feel I'm pretty qualified to answer your question.

Menopause varies greatly from woman to woman. Most women go through menopause after 50 years of age but, and this will surprise you, we're all different! Some women have been known to have their menopause in their 20's other's not till their 60's.

The menopause can last for years or be over very quickly. There are no hard and fast rules for how long menopause lasts or when it will occur.

If your new lady friend has had her menopause you won't need to worry about contraception but you still need to consider sexually transmitted disease and condoms are the best protection for this.

If she has had her menopause, the main consideration for her sexually would be vaginal dryness which is caused by loss of oestrogen. There are many products available from chemists and pharmacy's for exactly this problem.

She may suffer hot flushes and night sweats depending where in the menopause she is.

All you can do, when you're relationship reaches that point of intimacy is discuss contraception. If she's been through menopause she'll be flattered if she hasn't then you've avoided offending her.

I think it's sweet that you've considered this but in her late forties your new lady is still quite young.

I hope that helps AB :) x

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (4 September 2013):

eyeswideopen agony auntAmen Sage.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (4 September 2013):

So_Very_Confused agony auntwell... what are you expecting a barren sahara?

I'm 53 and I'm not fully post menopausal yet....

let's see... ever done PMS with a woman? yep... hang on the mood swings are a lot like that.

My husband laughs at the covers however... i'm hot, I'm cold. I'm sweating, I'm freezing... all in a span of 15 minutes... usually at 3 am....

IF you mean... will she need lube? PROBABLY... and that is NOT in any way shape or form a reflection of her wanting or not wanting you... just like at 40 something your erections are not belly hugging any more... her blood flow is not as hot either...

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A male reader, Sageoldguy1465 United States +, writes (4 September 2013):

Sageoldguy1465 agony auntI looked this up in the "Guys' Book of whatever you need to know about women, depending on where they are in the life-cycle" Under "post-menopausal" it has this:

"If'n you find you may end up in an intimate situation with a post-menopausal lady, HANG ON!!!... because, absent the fear of unwanted pregnancy, these creatures morph to the most-nymphomanical wildcats that you will ever encounter...."

Hope that helps clarify this matter for you....

Good luck.....

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