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writes:Okay here's the thing, my boyfriend seems depressed lately and I don't know what to do. Recently he's been really distant, not physically, just emotionally. We've been together 2 years now so I knew it was just a phase. However, it seems to be something more. He sent me a text last night basically saying:"Don't worry I just can't ever seem to say things outloud but here's whats up with me: Ive just not been in the mood recently for anything, everything is just boring me, i love you but I was just getting the feeling of going single for abit so I dont drag you down with me because I can see what its doing to you, but I thought otherwise, college and driving lessons doesnt help because it just puts me down and xbox isnt a priority its just the way for me to blow off steam, read this carefully because im not breaking up with you, i love you, i just hope you understand"Now I feel as though he's going through depression and I don't know how to handle it. Advice?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (14 March 2012):
 Let's go to the crux of your question: "Okay here's the thing, my boyfriend seems depressed lately and I don't know what to do..."
The short answer is, you don't do a darn thing. It's HIS problem, so let HIM correct it....
The LONGER TERM answer is: It's HIS problem, so let HIM correct it....
Is that clear enough???? Please don't fall in to that trap that catches so many of you women who feel that you MUST correct/improve/save us men.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2012): Sorry for me this is a huge warning sign...
"i love you but I was just getting the feeling of going single for abit"
Is there not another woman on the scene??
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (14 March 2012):
 I think he actually made the right choice. If he truly is going through depression, and I think he is, then being in a relationship might not be the best thing for either of you.
He obviously still cares about you a lot, that is why he's doing this. If you were to continue this relationship it would only lead to bitterness. Let him deal with this problem on his own first and when he is ready, if he really loves you, he will come back to you.
I hope that helps.
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