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writes:I thought I forgot about my husband, maybe ex husband hasn't divorced yet. So technically not yet.I am not into divorce and I think that marriage should be sacred that is probably why I'm still pushing and hoping that we can still get back together and other things.OK to be honest, right now my life is shit and I guess he is only one I can talk to and be with.WHat anger me though is that he keeps on wanting to be friends with me.His family hates me I suppose he instill the hate because he wanted his 'free time'. He is addicted to porn and stuff like that, I guess he do not want me anymore because he is probably looking for a woman who is younger, I can see from his friend lists the girls he befriends with are 5 years younger than me, and ask him he said they added him randomly, that never happens to me.Anyway, so my question is, what am I doing here?what am I doing, am I just hurting myself? am I letting him hurt me?I had to talk to him because I need his help, last year I didn't want to talk to him anymore, but this year I had to.Well, he messed up again.I mean this is true, my instinct isn't it that he is lying and could be with another girl.He turned off his phone, he said randomly that he will watch a movie, because his boss didn't give him schedule that day, he turned off his phone, he hasn't been in a movie theatre for a while, why suddenly so random that he will watch a movie, then today Friday turned off his phone again and no online, I know he moved on but he won't let me, he keeps on punishing me because I keep my hopes up when he wants to be "my friend" maybe he wants me to be his sex buddy, he ask about this, he said probably fwb, and he have a lot of reasons why he do not want to leave his town.How can I make him talk about his new affair? or he will probably not?Should I just go there and see to myself? and what can I get from doing so? I just want him to stop lying to me and gives me false hope it drives me insaneHelp pls
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (19 March 2012):
 I'll "answer" the only, one question that makes any sense. You write: "Help pls"..... so, here it is:
This guy isn't worth even ONE whit of your concern. He's proven to be disinterested.... Sooooo, YOU need to figure out THAT, and get on with your life, WITHOUT THIS GUY anywhere in it (your life).....
Good luck....
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reader, MajorDisplayerOfInternationalPlayerBehavior +, writes (18 March 2012):
 Listen, you have to always trust your instincts. Your instincts are almost always correct.
Also, you have to live your life for you, not for some guy that is using you and hurting you.
Find happiness elsewhere, divorce this guy and move on.
That is the soundest advice that I can give you.
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