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writes:I have a four year old child by a 73 year old man!we live in the home with him! He refuses to claim her as his child when his family ask him. I have asked him on several occasions to prepare her for the future in case he dies ber=fore e pass away so I can have help taking care of her.I don't want to put him up for child support for the reason of having to fight his family,but I'm seroiusly about to not care anymore because I'm the one that have to do this till she able to take care of herself and it"s already hard. He wants me to have sex with him and I'm not feeling it no more for the simple fact that he want sex but don't want to take care of hert would you do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2012): Why are you having sex with this 73 year old man? You mention wanting to be in his will so that you can help support your child. How do you think the family will react to that, much less child support. If your still having sex with him after he refuses to accept that he's the father, then he obviously believes your having sex with other people! There's no love in this relationship, get the DNA testing, file for child support, and get out of the relationship.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (19 March 2012):
 This submittal provides proof-positive that we men go 'way demented in our upper brains, whilst are lower brain and all that goes along with IT, may keep working for YEARS!!!
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reader, Tom Obler  +, writes (19 March 2012):
 Hi,
Yes file for child support and just for back up get a DNA done as well. Obviously you know he is the father but it makes it clear to the child support as well.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (19 March 2012):
 You need a DNA test and you need court ordered Child support... if he 's getting SSA she's entitled as his child to those benefits NOW as well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2012): AGREED.
Do what is right for your Daughter and fight for hers- child support and DNA testing. That will sort all of it out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2012): If you live with him how on earth can he ignore your daughter? Dont go on about Wills to him,he could live for years anyway, go for child support NOW, get a DNA test done immediately and sort it out.
Even if he does make provision for her in his Will, eventually,I bet you will still have to fight his family, they will be in shock too,so you may as well get it sorted out as soon as possible.
I am assuming he is of sound mind - so he can face his responsibilities instead of ignoring them.He's had his fun.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (19 March 2012):
 Yep have the DNA testing done now, file for CS.
Though I have to say it's a little morbid to constantly remind him to take care of papers for WHEN he dies. Yes, he will most likely die before you, but you both should do living wills since there is a child involved.
Obviously there is no love between the two of you so why stick around?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (19 March 2012):
 File for child support. You've tried everything else, it's time to stop treating him gently and lay on some real pressure.
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