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writes: so i meet this guy six months ago, we had a lot of fun together, no fights at all. His old girlfriends parents see us out together, so she begins to call him! so im sure now he has mixed feelings. They dated on and off for years, one sided from him, she had kids to two different guys, not him, cheated on him numerous times, but now that he has me, she wants him back even thou she has a boyfriend. I told him I was gonna back off, cuz I don't need the drama! Did I make the right move, because I do like him alot!
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reader, GrimmReality  +, writes (23 October 2009):
 Yep...you did the right thing. As long as the this toxic female is around shaking her tail feathers it will affect every aspect of your relationship.
You are a much better person for taking the initiative and acting. This way it puts the onus on your BF to make a decision. he most likely is still under the spell of this woman to some extent, and your relationship cannot grow with this pariah in it.
In the mean time please be prepared to move on if need be. It seems like if the parents of Miss Toxic 2009 reported back on your relationship that this will continue.
Best of luck...,and yes, young lady, you did good!
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (22 October 2009):
That certainly is drama that you don't need--it sounds like his ex has some issues! I agree that you need to talk to him about it before backing off completely. If she's calling him but he's not responding to her because he's with you and wants nothing to do with her, then that's what he should be doing. However, if he's "confused" about this woman who treats him like crap and now doesn't know what he wants to do, then you should back off completely. If he's stupid enough to take her back then they deserve each other. Good luck!
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reader, robinp93401 +, writes (22 October 2009):
You absolutely made the right decision. We should all be more like you, brave. He's going to crawl back on his knees!!!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (22 October 2009):
More than anything, you need to talk to him. You have done the right thing, because there is clearly a lot going in in his life. All you can do is speak to him and ask where he sees your relationship going. Good luck.
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