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writes:how can i unborn a baby i am 2 month of pregnat and if i tellmy dad he willkilll me and send him to jell i dient know i was pregnat me and him was pretecting are self but i dont know what happing and when plz help me dont tell me to go to a clinic because i can bay 500 dollar to unborn a baby dont juge me if u dont know what i have been trow and hows my life with my dad Reply to this Question
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reader, Lola1  +, writes (2 November 2009):
 I understand that you are scared and confused, but I am going to ask you to THINK hard about this.
You do not want the baby, but you are aware that you can not turn back time to "unborn a baby", or make yourself "un-pregnant". The only way to terminate a pregnancy is to abort the baby. The only SAFE way to abort a baby is to go to a clinic. I hope you are not asking for advice on how to abort this pregnancy on your own.
It IS possible that there are clinics around who offer help to unwed, teenage girls who are pregnant. I strongly recommend that you spend some time researching what options may be available to you. It is possible that you can gain the information you need from seeing a doctor. This doctor does not have to be a family doctor. Perhaps there are walk-in clinics in your State.
It's also possible that this link may be a good starting point.
http://www.pregnancy-info.net/teenage_pregnancy.html
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2009): im in your same posistion but i live with my mom not dad. im terrified of telling my mother.. im afraid if i tell her then i will lose everything with her... i love my mom.. but i just cant break her heart like this.. I do have a friend i can trust though who is goin to help me : ) Mayeb you should ask a close female friend or mom?
sincerely,
Anonymous
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reader, Ravenxx91  +, writes (25 October 2009):
 Ok ok... none of us are here to judge you at all.
Im kind of confused as to what you were writing. From what i gather you are 2 months (8 weeks) pregnant, aged 13-15 and scared of telling your parent.
The rest confused me.
"if i tellmy dad he willkilll me and send him to jell i dient know i was pregnat me and him was pretecting are self but i dont know what happing and when"
Ive translated that to...
"If i tell my dad he will kill me and send him to jail. I didnt know i was pregnant. Me and him was protecting ourselves but i dont know what happened and when."
So to answer that part. What happened is you had sex unprotected 8 weeks ago.
Secondly im a little worried. Do you mean your dad will put the babies father in jail or your father has been having sex with you and is the baby's father? Sorry if i have mis interpreted this but its kind of un clear and im a rather blunt person.
Anyway if you dont want this baby the only way you can not give birth to this baby is to have an abortion (im way against these unless it is the thing i have mis-interpreted it for - but thats none of my business)
Anyway to do this you need to go to a doctor. He wont tell ANYONE what you have said and he will make sure you are kept safe.
Having a backstreet abortion for something like $500 is very dangerous and may probably kill you so just be careful about that.
Anyway go to the doctor. This nonsense of "dont tell me to go to a clinic but i want to 'unborn' my baby" is ridiculous. Thats te only way - the only SAFE way.
If you want to be grown up and do gorwn up things like having sex then you need to try to grow up to deal with what situation you are dealing with.
So go to the doctor, stop being silly.
Try to tell someone as well, someoen you can trust.
and finally.. USE A CONDOM OR GO ON HORMONE CONTRACEPTION!
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reader, Ich_liebe_dich  +, writes (25 October 2009):
 pinktopaz was right i guess, how can we give you some advice here if you already block some idea which is maybe better for you! Ok if you dont wanna tell to your Father and also to the clinic that is understandable in this age im sure you are totally nervous and mixed up. Well i would say, go and talk to some friends or relatives of course must be older than you are and has already experience about this pregnant matters or abortion matters. what about sisters? or where is your mother by the way? If you have somebody you really need at this time i promise you that is your mother. not maybe" but its for sure that she will get mad at you but no matter what she' will help you. its already 2 months now so better make an action now. Goodluck.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (25 October 2009):
Unborn a baby? Do you mean abort a baby? You don't want us to tell you tell your dad, and you don't want us to tell you to go to a clinic--what answer are you looking for, because those are your only 2 options. You can't magically make things change. Go to planned parenthood--it's free and they can give you advice on what to do. You have to figure out a way to deal with it, you were doing adult things and now you need to make adult choices.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2009): I agree, you do not have an option - you need to tell an adult.
Start with thinking what adult seems responsible and who you trust and feel most comfortable telling.
You will feel much better if you are able to have an adult help you through this.
Take care
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (25 October 2009):
You can't just unborn a baby. I won't judge you at all. I'm not here for that. But I will tell you the facts. At this point, you need medical help for your safety. If you can't tell your father, is there anyone else you can go to, such as a teacher. You really need medical help, there is no other way than an abortion.
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