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writes:here is a dumb question. I still love my wife and i know she still loves me but she has alot of pride. I want to save our marige but i dont know how. Ive tried convincing her to go to counsling with me but she refuses. What would happen if i refused the divorce in court? I know its dumb but im courious a to what would happen if i just refused to sign the divorce.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2009): American girls are particularly difficult "problems" when it comes to these things. She is probably going to strip the shirt off your back before you get safely out of that one. Did you get her to sign a prenuptial agreement? Kids? Uh oh. Be thankful that it came to this at this stage of your life, at least you're young enough to start over and didn't have to waste many more years in a marriage with a "proud" women like yours.
It will take time, but it will be ok in the end. You will be free of her for good and can get on with your life. Remember, you don't need a women to be happy. Besides, now you can really go to town and enjoy yourself. Why not start seing several girls at a time? Its party time my friend. Explore avenues that were forbidden to you in past years. Try a threesome. Get yourself a nice lap dance or two.
Do you remember all the buzz in the tabloids about that John guy getting a divorce from that pushy abusive wife, Kate, when they had a show about their 8 kids? It was revealed that John had hooked up with a fresh young university student and what did that nasty Kate end up with? That's right, holding the "bag."
Don't worry a bit my friend. In fact, perhaps you should stop acting so desperate. I wonder what she would think if, all of a sudden, you were pleasantly casual about the whole thing, and even offered to help her with the details of the divorce? You: "Can I help you with anything else to get this resolved for you quickly? You see, I have plans and not much time for this." I'll bet that would give her something to think about.
On the other hand, if you have abused her in some way or she caught you cheating, etc., then she has every right to get away from you and I have no sympathy for you.
Otherwise, stop worrying and get the party started!
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (15 October 2009):
I don't think any judge in 2009 is going to force a woman to stay married to you if she has a decent reason to want out.
If you hit her or cheated on her then you are stuffed I'm afraid.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (15 October 2009):
Yes, I think it also depends on the state. But regardless if you sign or not, the judge can still grant it in some states.
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reader, passion1123  +, writes (15 October 2009):
Dont give divorce.If she wont go out with u for counselling then let the court do it for u.
Ask her why she wants it ...be clear about reason.U cant ruin ur marriage because "nowadays" she is not feeling well about ur relation.Have concrete reasons and if it turns out that they are unsolvable go for divorce.
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reader, queenbee21 +, writes (15 October 2009):
 Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you? I don't think you can force her to stay married to you. It'd just drag out the divorce process. It sounds like an affair to me too female reader!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2009): I know in the state of Ohio, it doesn't matter whether you sign the papers or not. The judge grants it to the person filing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2009): I think it depends on your state laws....but I'm not a lawyer. Sounds like she wants out pretty quick. Affair?
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