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writes:My husband and I are friends with another couple. He and the other guy hang out a lot but I know my husband and the guy's wife get along well, too. Problem is she is GORGEOUS. Like model-gorgeous. Fairly lean, big boobs, good legs and butt, clear skin, pretty face, blond hair. She loves her husband and he seems okay that she talks to my husband.Do you think my has noticed she's gorgeous? Do you think he likes talking to her because she is so pretty? Should I be worried if he makes 'small talk' and glances across the room at her sometimes? I really trust them both but it hurts my feelings that he pays attention to someone prettier than me.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (14 October 2009):
I'm going to take a guess here, but if YOU noticed she's gorgeous, then I'm pretty positive that he has.
Guys are going to look--as women will too. If I see a handsome guy, sure I like to look at him or even think maybe he's paying some sort of attention to me. Even if I was in a relationship, I still enjoy eye candy--it doesn't mean I'm going to act on it.
Like others have posted, all you can do is trust your husband. If it goes beyone small chit chat and a glance here and there, then do something about it. For now it's not a big deal...and you may be noticing things that you wouldn't normally notice because of her looks. If he was chatting up the hag next door you probably wouldn't care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2009): If it hurts your feelings that he is staring at her while with you, then let him know it, it is rude really for him to do that. I don't think it is a problem him talking with her and being friends, she is after all married to his friend. If she is that attractive, hell I'd probably be staring at her, too, just because it is unusual to see someone so pretty....that said he really needs to be made aware that it hurts your feelings and to pay you some attention when around her....nothing wrong with that either.
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reader, creamsauce +, writes (14 October 2009):
Forgive me for being brutally honest, but if you've noticed how gorgeous she is, then chances are, so has he. It's just how men are, and women, for that matter. We automatically 'judge' somebody's looks the moment we meet them. We notice when someone is attractive. We notice when they're not. It's a natural human instinct, for lack of a better word.
With all that said - I don't think you need to worry. You said you trust your husband, and his friend's wife. It sounds like you all get along fairly well. Small talk is just polite conversation.. it probably doesn't mean anything more. It might be natural to feel a little jealous or insecure, but try not to over analyze it. There's really no reason to feel hurt, unless you truly suspect something. Trust your gut.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (14 October 2009):
 umm q? The first poster was a male.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (14 October 2009):
Unless your husband is visually impaired you can bet the farm that he's noticed how gorgeous she is. There will always be someone who is prettier than you, just accept it and then forget about it. You trust him and you trust her I wouldn't go borrowing trouble if I were you.
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reader, YourDestiny11 +, writes (14 October 2009):
 Im sure he has noticed the fact that shes gorgeous but that doesnt mean thats why he talks to her! The truth is most women notice before men! You have nothing to worry about! Thats great you trust them! Good luck!
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reader, the_phoenic  +, writes (14 October 2009):
if you bothered him he can easily hide what he doesnt want you know especially that the pretty woman and your husband are friends...but try to get close to her and assure that they are meeting only when you are present there withthem and speek frankly about her beauty with him from a time to another to know what is real going in his head..
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