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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2009): is it wrong? that is a daft question of course it is wrong! when he finds out the truth its not his baby you will break the poor mans heart as well as damage the child. that is not fair at all. keep trying with your boyfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2009): Oh boy, public school morals and biology knowledge. There are only a couple of days per month when you *can* get pregnant. If you were on the pill and came off then it will probably take a couple of months to get your body back to regular ovulation cycles. So in the time period you mention there were probably only 12 days or so that it was even possible for you to get pregnant. If you had some fairly common issue like only one ovary working it would be half that. Way too early to push the panic button. In the meantime, why dont you two try raising together some of your previous children and see how that goes?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOkaaay, damn! I know I am being selfish for even thinking to do something like that. That's why I thought I'd come on here for some honest advice from different people. I guess I will just let what happens happen. Thank you guys!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2009): is it wrong? are you for real? look at what your asking!!!you want to cheat on your boyfriend who you claim to love, get pregnant to another man, then decieve your boyfriend into thinking the child is his.my god woman, I think you need to do alot of growing up before you even consider having a baby.
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reader, HonningKanin  +, writes (23 October 2009):
 Just to let you know, jerking off increases sperm count. Someone who does it quite a bit is forcing his testicles to produce more sperm than someone who doesn't.
The chain smoking might lower it. It also might not have any effect at all.
The fact that you have had other pregnancies prior just mean you have been fertile. Who knows if your last pregnancy didn't damage something and so the fertilised eggs have cannot implant themselves on your wall.
Personally I have to agree with all the posters before me. It is very wrong because you will be lieing to everyone. You will be lieing to your boyfriend about his fatherhood. You'd be lieing to the him about your faithfulness. You'd be lieing to the other guy you slept with for not letting him know he IS a father and you would be perpetuating a lie to a child ALL HIS LIFE. How would you like to find out the man you called your father, wasn't really your father? If that doesn't sit well with you why the hell would you do it to your own child?
For fuck sake stop being so selfish and think of the other people who would be involved for 2 seconds.
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reader, GrimmReality  +, writes (23 October 2009):
 Well he probably jerks off 2-3 times a day becuase he realises he has an idiot for a girlfriend, and would rather have sex with his own hand.Did you discuss this with your Co-workers at MacDonald's?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2009): It's an outrage that people can get caught purposely sticking the wrong man with supporting a child and not go to prison for it. This should be a felony.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2009): Oh yeah, brilliant idea. You might even be able to get the biological father to secretly pay maintenance too.Do you really want a baby by a chain-smoking wanker?Is it wrong, you ask. What the f*** do YOU think??
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2009): I agree it is wrong. I think it is wrong to have children with "boyfriends". I am sure the government is paying for their deliveries etc.....what a lifestyle you have going for yourself there....
Go get some help, see a counselor on why you think you need to bring children into this world under these kinds of conditions....
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (23 October 2009):
Just because you've had 2 pregnancies before doesn't mean that there isn't anything wrong with you. I've known plenty of guys that chain smoke and jerk off and get women pregnant just fine (okay, I'm assuming the jerk off part but whatever).
Cheating with another man to get pregnant and say it's his is just morally and ethically wrong. Are you crazy? Where are your 2 other children? Maybe he doesn't want to have kids with you so he keeps jerking off. Who knows? You need to talk to him like an ADULT instead of even considering what you're doing unless you want to be a guest on The Jerry Springer Show.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2009): If you really need to ask something like that, then you are clearly not ready to have a child!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2009): Don't do it. Think in his position finding out his girlfriend - dating two years- cheating on him just to become pregnant. He'd be pissed off! If you really want a baby do the following: Break up with him, Find a nice guy, Fall in love with him than have a baby knowing that its yours and his.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2009): Unbelievably wrong. I hope this is a joke.
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reader, foolishlyinlove  +, writes (23 October 2009):
definitely not!!!11....its almost like cheating on him!!....on top of that I dont even think it would be fair to your child...
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2009): What do you mean, is it wrong. In what way could this be ok. You want to lie, cheat and deprive someone of knowing their child. It is WRONG in sooo many ways.
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