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writes:My question is why does everyone associate being lonely not having confidence?I think that I am a lonely person, but I have plenty of confidence. My issue is just that I cant get anyone.I have a high IQ im athletic, I have 3 businesses, Im good looking, I feel good about being me, I just cant get anyone.I live alone and thats a big part of my issue I think. I spend night after night alone, and being alone turned into being lonely.
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reader, Lonely soul +, writes (23 October 2009):
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reader, L*  +, writes (23 October 2009):
I'm glad to have read your question as I feel the same way. I'm 23, just finished my postgrad degree, landed a good job, I'm fit and attractive and feel good about myself. Despite all of this, I still feel lonely and find it difficult to make 'real' friends. I'm quite approachable and most people (colleagues and acquaintances) think that I'm very outgoing. For this reason, I can't understand why I'm spending so much time alone when I'd rather have some company.
So for me, loneliness and confidence are two different things..I'm confident and happy with myself and how things are turning out in my life but I just can't seem to shake off the loneliness phase :-S
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2009): Maybe women are scared of you. If there's a really good-looking guy who's got smarts and everything you'd ever want they might think you're a snob, unavailable, player etc etc.
What women look for is neither of those things you listed. We want a nice guy, with good sense of humour, loving and can make us breakfast in bed :) Someone who knows how to treat a lady right and prioritize right.
Maybe you're looking in the wrong places. Make a list to yourself about what you look for in a woman, what is important to you. Then think back on that list when you meet new women and maybne you'll find what you're really looking for.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (23 October 2009):
It's natural to feel lonely. No worries, it can only take away from your confidence if you let it. But everyone gets lonely from time to time, it doesn't mean that they have no self confidence.
There's plenty of people that are confident and fine being alone, but even they get lonely--if they said otherwise, I would assume that they were lying. I guess some may think that when you're lonely you may become desperate to fill that void. But you sound like a smart and emotionally stable person and you should't worry about anyone thinking that about you, including yourself.
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