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writes:How do I attract good guys, I dont know what I am doing but I always seem to attract bad guys. Lots of people think that I want bad guys but the truth is I dont notice their bad behavior til later on and I do leave always. So my question is if I did have a chance with a good guy Id take it and how do you attract good guys? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2009): 1. Don't listen any of your girlfriends' advice. Unless your girfriend is a tranny or was a man in another life, she knows NOTHING about men. You have to BE a man to really know about men and what they really want.
2. Know yourself, your limits, your favorite "type" of guy, what you want from him.
3. Never attempt to "pick him up." Instead, "reel" him in. If he cannot be reeled in, then he is not interested or a social retard. You are not interested in either of these. Move on to the next target.
4. Be sure to show off your cleavage in tight shirts, wear short skirt and heels/sandals, show as much leg as you can as much as possible. Do not hide your best "stuff" covering it under protective "layers" (come on now girls, you know your bodies so don't play stupid). Guys want to see as much as possible. This will get their attention unless they are gay. Trust me.
Don't worry about looking slutty. Having well developed assets and showing them doesn't make you a slut - but jumping into bed with twenty different guys a week a bragging about it to everyone might. Showing off your good stuff just makes poor, unfortunate less attractive girls jealous and makes guys notice you and your "hotness." This is exactly what you want to have happen and an important part of your plan.
5. Project a super sweet, fun, cute personality, but don't go overboard. Make it seem as natural as possible. Don't talk too much. Don't insult him or make him feel stupid around others. Feel free to insert sneaky, flirty comments without heavy sexual connotation into your conversations with him. Try to build up his ego with indirect compliments.
Guys really eat this stuff up. They are secretly really hungry for it and yet because so many clueless "too cool for school" hotshot modern girls don't think or want do it, it's going to put you at a huge advantage over the rest of the bimbos in the competition. Trust me, you'll have a monopoly.
Still confused about what is required from you? Rent old films from the 40s and 50s for ideas on how to turn yourself into a classy hottie like Audry Hepburn or Grace Kelly. Ask any honest man. You can't you wrong with examples like these.
6. NEVER ever let in to his sexual advances right away until you're totally sure you've got him well hooked first. Make him wait. If he is truly interested, he will wait as long as it takes - even if he hates it and threatens, bitches, complains. In a short time, he will start getting the idea that you are the nice marrying kind of girl/girlfriend material. Even if you think this is silly or your friends (see #1) tell you otherwise, try it. It has worked miracles for countless girls since the beginning of time. If he is looking for an easy **** than he will drop you pretty quick so he can move on to some bimbo.
How will you know went you've got a tight grip on him? Does he want to show you to his friends, parents, brothers and sisters? Is he willing to spend a lot of $$$ on you without your having to even ask? Does he easily acquiesce to your demands and requests? Does he seem concerned about preparing for your dates, his wardrobe, hair, breath, colognes, etc. to impress you? Trust me, you will know as he will more than likely make it VERY obvious. If he doesn't, then just move on until you get a guy who will.
7. If you do get physical with him, do not mention it to others. Keep it a secret between you two. Don't yap away about it with your clueless friends. It's none of their **** business and after they know about it the info probably will end up getting around and make you look like a slut, i.e. not marriage/girlfriend material in the guy's mind, not to mention a big blabber-mouth.
If you are even mildly attractive and you have observed #1-7 you should be successful in reeling in good candidates in a short time. However, to be honest, if you are not very good looking/unattractive personality/not very feminine, I'm afraid not much can be done to improve your results as heterosexual men are nearly all biologically programed to look for these things exclusively. That's life.
Hope this helps...
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2009):
Isnt your question really how you locate good guys? I'd bet if you went to your friends and asked them candidly they probably could have told you that early on they saw trouble in the guys you were dating and knew they were 'bad' way before you found out. So you are probably ignoring the signs.
Its a well known cliche that woman your age go for bad guys- but it got to be a cliche because its true. Eventually the girls get jerked around enough that they get tired of it.
The thing about good guys is that they will over look a lot of your faults... so you dont have to worry about "what they are looking for" or how to attract them. The good news is that almost every married couple knows some good guy that they'd love to set up with a nice girl. Ask around. Mothers are also a good source of info on good guys. They like nothing better than to be a match maker and will work the mom network to find college educated guys with a steady job to introduce you to.
Note: You will not find good guys in a trendy night club with dance music. So stop looking there.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (12 October 2009):
The only way you find out is by getting to know them. I think it's true that a lot of has to do with who you are attracting. Sometimes we don't realize who we are attracting, then we figure out it's a bad guy after we get in deep enough and are emotionally attached.
I agree with what caring guy said, but in addition to that, what I have found is helpful is to not jump into anything too fast. I used to have a problem with just getting into a relationship with someone before I REALLY knew them, and then I ended up screwed over because he turned out to be the not-so-nice guy that I thought he was. So take some time to get to know them. It can be hard especially if you're really attracted and infatuated with someone, you look at everything behind rose colored glasses and only see their good qualities. So it's really good to evaluate someone before you decide to take on a serious relationship with them.
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reader, Heartbroken in love +, writes (12 October 2009):
Simple really. The guy who isn't part of the swarm of guys trying to talk to you at the club. The guy who is so confident to come up to you is confident to go up to any girl really so sorry its not like he picked you out of the crowd. Yea and that guy that you think is the nicest guy but you never think about dating. He's a good guy. If your attracting assholes just simply stop going out with a guy who comes up to you and has a couple of good lines. This is not to say that every guy who has the courage to come to you is bad but yea as Boo says pay attention to his opening lines. Oh yea and don't be so quick to be swept off your feet just because a guy is attractive. This will get you everytime. good luck
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (12 October 2009):
Good guys look for women who are confident, approachable and happy with themselves. They look for women who have goals and aims in life, and just take life a little seriously rather than playfully all the time. They look for women who can talk and listen. Really good guys look for girls who make them work a bit. So don't give yourself away. If you have the chance, take your time getting to know him and just be yourself.
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reader, Beybii_Boo +, writes (12 October 2009):
 Nice guys or good guys? when you meet a guy or start talking dont start off says alright babe or any words like babe,babes,darlin,gorgeous or anything. Get to know them ask them questions get them to tell you a bit about themseleves swap storys find out what there into if they say oh i do a bit of weed then you know there not a good guy, find a guy whos nice attrative cracking personality and who does well in his life and doesnt get into trouble, you dont need that kind of drama in your life.
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