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writes:Hey everyone.Well basically, I was with my boyfriend for over 8 months... my first proper relationship. He dumped me on Thursday, saying that 'he didn't want the commitment of a girlfriend right now.'Yep, I know what you're thinking, another commitment phobe!So even though I was heart broken and crushed, I wished him all the best with his life, and he did the same.He said he wanted to stay friends, but I told him I didn't think it was a good idea because it doesn't give us much chance of moving on and finding other people - I don't think that's unreasonable.I didn't beg or plead for him, I just let him go.But... He's done this before. The last time was about a month ago. He said 'I'm sorry I can't do this anymore' and we agreed to go our separate ways, we'd go a couple of days with no contact, and then he'd literally come crawling back on his hands and knees begging for me back, and me being naive and young I'd take him back! This has happened 3 or 4 times before, but he has always come back to me.I'm just wondering... is it for real this time?Or do you think he'll probably come back to me again?Obviously, if he did come back, I wouldn't be taking him back this time for a long long while, maybe until he's matured significantly.But my friends seem to think he might just want a bit of time to be a lad and to figure out what he wants, and that he'll probably come back to me.What do you think?Thanks for your help x
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2009): As someone who has been in this type of relationship on both sides let me tell you, that he doesnt want to be with you but is probably scared to be alone.When he does come crawlingh back and he will, do yourself a favour and tell him to get lost. Take some time for yourself and meet someone new.Dont worry bout it so much. You are still young. Leave this serous stuff until you are older and the guys are more mature.play the field and get upto mischef lol.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (5 December 2009):
I think he's the worst thing you need right now. I have a feeling he's playing the field and coming back to you when there's no one else. Never rely on someone who treats you like this. You're just wasting your time. How many more times will he come back and leave you before you realize he's treating you badly? Be brave, let him go permanently and find a guy who does care about you instead.
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (5 December 2009):
We probably know about as well as you do if he comes back or not. You don't sound like a stupid girl, so why do you even care if he'll come back? First off, yes, he probably will. Douchey behavior is usually repeated by a douchebag. However, have you ever thought about why he always leaves and comes back? Maybe it's because you let him! He knows he can break up with you and sweet talk you into coming back and you'll take him back. Don't take him back...EVER!
Mature significantly? How old is he? I know grown men pushing 30 who still haven't matured significantly. Move on from him and quit being his doormat. I think you're way too smart for that and you know it.
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