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writes:My partner and I have been together for 5 years - he's never cheated on me but he texts his ex who is the mother of his daughter everyday. Sometimes up to 36 texts per day. I've asked what do they talk about and he responds with "things about our daughter" He's promised me that he's not interested in her and that he loves only me and wants to spend the rest of his life with me but he doesn't believe in marriageI'm starting to doubt that - ex's are supposed to be ex's.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2012): 36 times??? Have a look at the messages. That should clear the air for you. But be prepared for what you may already know is happening. Ridiculous
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2012): I too had a similar situation to this. My husband texted ex partner - mother of one of his children constantly. I would ask why he was doing this and it would be things like 'oh she needs advice on this, just checking on that etc etc'. It was also quite secretive. When I looked at the phone none of it was about the child it was all about 'do you remember this and I have seen so and so remember him etc', the child was never mentioned. I would be very wary here and I think you must be a saint to have put up with it thus far. I am sorry to say I would get rid of him as no woman could put up with that amount of texting and it would be more than enough grounds for unreasonable behaviour.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2012): I found myself in a similar situation a few years ago with my partner. But I snooped and found out he wasnt being honest about the texting. He was still hung up on his ex and using their children as a way to excuse his frequent texts to her. I am not suggesting you snoop or that your partner is lying to you but I would definitely say his contact with this ex is excessive. If there was a problem with the child, they would make a phone call not text every half hour all day! That`s just strange.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2012): yeah..I hear you. My boyfriend's daughter is almost 30 years old and he and his ex are constantly talking to each other...angry or not. Their only child. Iv'e been with this man for 10 years. His ex had a boyfriend for 4 years that she lived with..but alas, they broke up and now the ex-wife is down the street from MY boyfriend...but they seem to still be very very codepenent in their relationship. I'm thinking of ending it...I just can't here "Marrrrrrrrrrrrrrrgieeeeeeeeeeee this and that anymore...had enough...
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2012): I don't know anyone who texts even their significant other that much that often!something is not right. I don't believe they are texting only about their kid, how much can they talk about their kid in one day every day?? unless it's an emergency but then again for real emergencies it's more appropriate to talk on the phone, and surely there isn't a kid-related emergency every single day.He may not intend to go back to her, for now. But he's certainly keeping that door open as a future option, I think. that and the fact that he told you he doesn't ever want to get married to you, despite loving you, is to me an indicator that he wants to keep his options open. He's happy with you, for now. But he may be stringing her along giving her hope that there's future options.
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reader, oldbag  +, writes (19 April 2012):
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36 times a day after 5 years is very extreme the child must have a multitude of problems , are you sure its his ex he is texting? A phone call would be quicker surely.
Parents do keep in contact but not multi texts daily more like a call once in a while about access or the odd problem .
Its your shout but its time he strongly cut back on their conversations , he is with you now and he needs reminding
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (19 April 2012):
 36 times a day seem a tad more then just mom/dad talking about a child.
How old is said "child" ?
And how much does he text you in comparison?
I don't think that exes are in the past when you DO have a child, they are ALWAYS part of their life.
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