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writes:hey, i would like abit of advice, see if people think the same as me. My hubby has a iphone and its not an unlocked phone, to use his iphone he jailbroke it and unlocked it that way so he can use his sim card in the phone. Doing this way causes his phone to die at like 90% and signal to keep being lost when using locational services. Theres a hardware patch that stops this which he has installed so his iphone works ok now. The thing is whenever he goes out (for like 3/4hours at a time) 3 out of 4 times his phones off, he says its dead yet he charged it before going out, i know it dont randomly die now because it doesnt at home. It gets me so fustrated because what if i need to contact him reguarding something serious (we have a nearly 3yr old) i needed to contact him the other day and his phone was off, i left voice messages and i even wrote on his facebook telling him to contact me and asking him why he turns his phone off. It worries me because it feels like he doesnt want me to know what hes up to. Even when his phone is on, he doesnt answer it and texts me around 5mins later. Iv spoke to him and said its not fair on me as if i need to contact him i cant and told him, its making me insecure, but all he says is 'im sorry it died, ill charge it next time' he did sent messages to 3 girls about 2weeks ago (apparently mates although i know he likes 2 of them from the way he was talking, saying they look hot and the history between them, they never dated but i have a feeling they were fwb maybe?) arranging to meet up with them, i dont know if he has/is but reading this and then his phone always off.. any advice?
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reader, Flashtony +, writes (1 May 2012):
Sounds dodgy.... he's upto something, you're also imagining the worst... confront him or 'trap' him..
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2012): I smell a RAT! Something is not right & you are on it! What was the phone situation like before he had the iphone? Did he answer more? The fact that he has message other women to get together with them...did you know about it or only found out after the fact?
This is your HUSBAND, not a boyfriend, so I come first & I don't care what your doing!!! I should be able to have access to you at all times within reason. It's not about the phone......he does not want you to know what else he has going on. He blows you off & treats you like your some casual chic.....oh...I'll call her later!
Something is not right & I would say to follow your intuition here. Do your homework...
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2012): Your husband is nothing but a cheater. He has no business ever talking to any other woman other than his mother or his sister or sisters and that is it. Other wise he is a lying cheater and if he is texting this other woman he may be asking her when he can see her next for only you know for what reason. He is married to only you and no one else and you need to ask him some personal questions like this; Do you love her more than me? Do you want our marriage to work out? If so, are you willing to drop this other woman you are texting totally and completely and repent of your sins? Are you willing to get some kind of help like marriage counseling if I go with you? Are you willing to work this out with me? Or do you want to end our marriage now and go on with her and do your thing? If he answers any of these questions with a negative answer other than the positive ones then he is only playing around with you and is not going to give up his other girlfriend. There for you should seek a divorce. Other wise he might be bringing to you some kind of sexual disease and if this happens then you will know that he has definitely cheated on you. This happens all the time with men and they are the worst of all men. They think that sinse they are married they have the right to do what they want and talk to this woman and that woman and that their wife has to like it. NO SHE DOESN'T. There is a thing called divorse court and many people use it every day. Once you have given him a chance and if he doesn't change, the wrath and judgment of God abided on him and you really should consider a divorse cause marriage ia a very serious thing and ALL MEN need to treat it that way.
From the internet preacher man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2012): Hm... I cannot speak for people who have jailbroken iphones, but it sounds to me like he's a little bit shady... if the case is really like you have mentioned, that "it never ran out of battery at home"... Some other points I also find quite shady are he doesn't pick up your calls and replies you about 5 mins after you have texted him... although these alone can't be proofs that he must be cheating, I'm just saying if these are combined with the fact that his iphone "never ran out of battery at home just happens whenever he goes out" and also based on my own experience...I used to have a bf whose phone would be "out of battery" and it only happened when he was out, turned out he was cheating on me. I understand exactly how you feel though, one time I was really sick at home at night and tried calling him to go to the ER with me, his phone rang forever then got turned off!!! I was really helpless but yet he was screwing another chick on bed, thinking back it really makes me feel disappointed and angry so I ended up breaking up with him because I had major trust issues toward the end... whenever I couldn't find him it drives me crazy!!Things like these usually drive a person crazy because you FEEL something's wrong yet you can't do anything about it because you don't have any "evidence" to prove. I do not want to freak you out... because I can relate your case to my own past, however I don't know anything about your relationship but I know having a child together makes things more complicated.Try talking to your husband about how much it makes you feel insecure and helpless, maybe ask him to get a really cheap phone, get a prepaid SIM and insert there for emergency, even if the iphone ran out of battery, you would still be able to reach him, if he still tried to blame his iphone!!! I mean how much does that cost you per month, if it is just for your wife to feel better and to avoid arguments, that wouldn't be a lot of problem. If he really is lying, chances are he will probably refuse such thing, even if he didn't refuse it at the end, he would have "reasons" for not picking up the "cheaper" phone, then you should worry at that point. If he is still unwilling to change and blames you for being "paranoid", he probably doesn't want to give up his "secret single life" yet, he is your husband, and is MARRIED!! He should be more responsible for his wife and child.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (30 April 2012):
 Hi
I hear alarm bells ringing. Listen to your gut feeling and watch him closely. Dont accuse him of anything till your certain but because of the texts to other girls and his fone hardly working when he isnt with you, it sounds suspicious.I have an iphone and no problems with it.
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reader, Mummy-bearX +, writes (30 April 2012):
 Iphone's do not hold a good charge at all. My boyfriend had one previously and his was the exact same, always running out of battery and loosing signal. This did cause alot of arguments as we also have a child aged 2.5, on the case about texting other female's this is just a sign of jelousy and being over protective. There is no law stating that male's in a realationship cannot speak to other females. If you cannot prove that your man is upto something then don't accuse as you will just push him away and you will regret it. I hope this advice is useful.
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