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writes:I ended a 2 month 'relationship' three weeks ago coz the guy didnt know if he wanted one or not. We didnt talk to start with as i was hurt by it even though i ended it. But in last two weeks we have been talking near enough everyday. The only thing is- even though he always seems pleased to talk to me, he doesnt contact me first, he waits til i do. Why do you think this is? Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (21 April 2012):
 I agree with the others, and I have been in this situation myself.
Essentially, you like him more than he likes you. YOU are the one putting all the effort into contacting HIM. Left to his own devices, and out of choice, he wouldn't contact you. He replies to you, because you are a toy...and it flatters his ego.
The test would be to stop contacting him, and see if he bothered to talk to you.
But I bet you couldn't do that could you.... because you are more emotionally invested in this than he is, and you would be worried that he WONT talk to you?
I think the key to this is something you said "I ended a 2 month 'relationship' three weeks ago coz the guy didnt know if he wanted one or not."
He doesn't want a relationship with you.
You will feel better if you stop contacting this guy, and move on. You are worth more than this.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (21 April 2012):
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He doesn't get the chance to contact you because you ring him almost every day. Why would he make the effort when he doesn't have to. He knows you will ring him even though you ended the relationship, because you have. So basically he has you dangling and chasing him, in his eyes.
Men like a challenge and your too available.Try to not contact him.If he enjoys talking to you enough he WILL ring,if he doesnt then you know he just isnt that into you.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (21 April 2012):
 Because he does not want you to think that he is more interested than he actually is, and that he'd want to restart the relationship, as you very probably would if he were to initiate contact.
And because he likes you- up to a point. The point where he does not mind talking to you , if you put in the effort ( and the cost of call or msg ) , but not enough if it's him who has to do that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2012): Because he likes you but not so much he wants to pay for the conversation. If he wanted to talk or date you he would be chasing you. You ended it then began initiating contact just 7 days after splitting. Thats telling him you are after him again
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