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writes:Is there anything wrong with wanting a girlfriend but NEVER wanting kids? Am I being too unflexible? Should I compromise my belief to some extent? How does this work? Reply to this Question
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (20 May 2012):
 I dont want kids, never did, and I'm 29, so I'm old enough to know exactly what I want. Its a personal preference, nothing right or wrong about it. Just make sure you and your partner are on the same page, or it could lead to problems
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (20 May 2012):
 it's perfectly fine to not want kids... I Have many friends who are child free by choice...
my fiance is 38 and never wanted kids. I'm 52 and my two kids are grown and no longer his responsibility. He's fine with the concept that one day he may be "grandpa"
that's his compromise an older woman with grown children.
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reader, MrWombat  +, writes (20 May 2012):
 No. It's pretty usual these days. What's also pretty usual in that situation is for your SO to have an oopsie with contraception.
Just letting you know.
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reader, oldbag  +, writes (20 May 2012):
 Hi
Nothing wrong with it at all, I know women that never want children.....all you have to do is find a one who has the same outlook as you. When a relationship gets to that point of discussing such things, be honest about your views.
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reader, sexychi2x  +, writes (20 May 2012):
You are okay, there is nothing wrong with what you want. But if you find a gf you like, before it get serious you have to be completely honest that you are not ready to have a kid, and I'm sure she will try to understand ou if he loves you but tell her too the reasons why you don't want to have kids. My ex-boyfriend and I are both like you. Fom the very beginning when we started going out and talking more and things gotten serious a bit we say things exactly how we felt about stuff like that. We just kinda talk about just life in general, like you are just telling a story. But be real. Well, honesty is a good policy. But unfortunately we broke up and we had to sit down and mature enough to resolved it. But what I'm saying is you are okay, if that's how you feel about that. now! Good luck with finding that girlfriend! Cheers
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reader, Dataluke +, writes (20 May 2012):
 It is completely fine to want a girlfriend but not kids, lots of people feel the same way.
My sister in law has a boyfriend but is absolutely set on never having kids, and everyone is fine with it, her boyfriend has no preference to wanting kids.
You don't even need to worry about that kind of thing yet, if and when you get to that stage it is something that you and your partner can discuss together. Until then, don't worry about it.
All the best, Dataluke
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