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30-35,
*uzzycushion
writes:Hey everyone I'm here looking for a little advice.My girlfriend left me three weeks ago and it's been hard, I understand we were arguing a little but that was because its so hard to be with someone who doesn't want to talk about issues or communicate.Anyway we were together going on 9 month, she said we were together but wouldn't give me the label of a relationship because she said she was scared of commitment and I believed her.A week before she dumped me we had a fight, it was because I hadnt seen her in three weeks and she was acting distant because a week before that I asked for a relationship and it caused a massive argument. So a week after that she goes out to a club, and as much as I've worked out she met a guy there (I'm questioning if they met each other before this for her to just leave). The day after that she dumped me, told me she just wants to be friends, after telling me she wants to work everything out because she misses us.This was sent in a text, then she ignored me for three days until she came back, I thought it was because she wanted me back but it wasn't. She asked to be my friend to make things right, I said that's pitty friendship so no thank you. After that conversation three weeks ago she hasn't spoken to me, I tried mailing her 4 days ago she ignored it.That guy she met at the club, they started dating the day she dumped me, it's possible they slept together that night before then she dumped me. She is also in a relationship with him and is at his pretty much everyday, that's what hurts the most. She gave him the relationship with labels and it took him only two weeks to get it, after 9 month I still wasn't aloud it. Everyone in the past never got it but i was her longest relationship, what's so good about? Does his ass smell of roses?Ever since she dumped me for someone else she deleted me out of her life and never spoke to me again. It's been three weeks now and it still hurts to never honestly know why it ended, because she told me he was nothing. How do you cut someone out of your life like that and not care? How do you walk away from one person to another? She was my first love and it's broke my heart but I know life goes on, I just don't know how someone can change like that.Any idea why she did what she did, all I can think is that this is the person she is but I never seen this side of her.Thanks, I'm a guy btw I don't know how to edit my settings.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2012): She's your first love and so you are bound to be very hurt and I expect you will always remember this. But, clearly the relationship was not working. She didn't want to commit, you say there were arguments, communication issues. So she's moved on pretty quickly now someone else is on the scene. It happens. You are not going to meet the totally right, special person first off the blocks (unless you are very lucky) and actually you are better able to recognise the real thing when it comes along. Most people have a few failed relationship when they are young, it's all part of life. Painful, but you are not alone.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (20 May 2012):
 HiAlways hard when we get dumped, but you have to come to terms with the fact she wasnt who you thought. I think she just likes having a guy around so she saw your relationship differently to the view you had.I think this guy had been around a while and until he made her his girlfriend she didnt finish it with you. The signs were there you just didn't see them We dont when we want a relationship to work. You didnt do anything wrong, you just weren't right for her.Just be pleased shes not in contact, its the easiest way to get over her. You may not see it now but it wasn't meant to be. One day you will see that, one day you will find YOUR match. So get out and enjoy your life, she is one of many you will meet and date. Tomorrow is another day as they say.
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