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writes:Ok I need your opinion and advice. I'll try to make it as short as possible w/painting the entire picture. Originally my boyfriend and I were getting a house w/his best friend and his girlfriend. But she cheated on him and moved out they are working on things.He wants to work it out.So now it's me, my boyfriend and his bestfriend in the house. Last week the bestfriend started texting me after a night we all went out.Now we text while at work like 20 times a day. Normally I know this would be wrong but because he is my roomate and we are becoming friends I am not sure where the line is drawn.1st I thought they were testing my faithfulness so I'm very careful as whats said.But he has started asking sexual or personal questions and has even texted me while we all were home and all in the car together.(just talking crap to me) None of us can change the living situation so I don't want to cause drama. I don't have much opportunity to make my own friends here in my new state so I want to be close friends with him. My boyfriend and I have been having some small issues and the friend is the only person I have to talk to. He suggested not sophicating eachother and that I need to get out, now he said we should grab a drink during the 4 hrs an evening my bf spends on the internet. Where should the line be drawn?
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reader, Hannan  +, writes (6 June 2009):
Hey girl stay away from him.He's feelin lonely nd needs some1 4 d moment.Moreover,i actually don't buy d idea of movin in wt ur boyfriend.I'll tel u something,there re issues dat only survive in marriage but won't survive such rships.Get a life of ur own til u re ready 2 tie d knot.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (6 June 2009):
 You are being tested. The friend sounds lonely and hurt and he is reaching out to the closest woman, who happens to be you. Don't fall into his arms though, because not only will you lose your relationship but your boyfriend will either 1) lose his friend and blame you or 2) they'll stay friends and both of them will blame you.Try going out on your own to meetups, volunteer groups, things like that. Check the events listing on your local Craigslist. You'll meet lots of new people that way.Also, stop texting him so much and don't go out with him alone.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (6 June 2009):
 The answer should be obvious and that it isn't suggests that you are thinking of cheating on your boyfriend.
You are apperently not getting the emotional support you need from your bf and are getting it somewhere else.
This often leads to sex. Your friend, well, he claims to want to work it out with his gf but is hitting on you. So that doesn't pain a very nice picture of him. He is NOT good boyfriend material.
You got ask yourself, is it worth it to safe your current relationship. He doesn't seem to be there for you. Either you fix this relationship or end it.
I would stay away from the friend, he is no good and will proceeding with this will just hurt you and everyone else.
The line should have been drawn long ago, you crossed it and know it. Why?
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