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writes:Why does my husband only want to try and have sex with me after I am already asleep and then when I wake, he will not kiss me, love on me or anything, just wam bam, and if I try to proceed any other time he turns me away, it is always only when he is ready? Reply to this Question
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reader, rocknroll +, writes (6 June 2009):
He apparenly has issues, and you both need to create quite time and discuss them, maybe with a little wine and fireplace.
He sounds a bit like the old style male, and how he was raised and what was expected of him as a child, which grew into his adult life. He can be changed, but it will take some patience, honesty, compassion and caring.
Something like a private Mantra class might benefit him, or a sexologist with Mantra experience too.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (6 June 2009):
 Has he always been like this? It sounds pretty old fashioned to me. If he was always like this, he might not know any better. If he used to be a more caring lover, then what has changed between the two of you?
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reader, pyan  +, writes (6 June 2009):
Hi
could it be that he is bored, have you tried anything new, you should talk with him about it and try and add the spark back. my wife and i have been throught this from time to time. she is the one that will not talk about it. message if you want any more thoughts. good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2009): Does he do anything else to show his love for you? You must be honest with yourself and if the answer is no, then you must ask yourself why you are in this marraige. Sometimes no matter how much we love a person we cannot force them to love us in return. Then we may have to make the biggest decision of our lives whether to stay and accept things as they are in the knowledge we cannot change this person or else walk away, depending on which one we find the less painful.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (6 June 2009):
 Have you talked to him about this? He seems pretty selfish. Sit him down and tell him you need foreplay and affection and you're not getting what you need.
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