Do people stop using condoms in a committed relationship?
Q. I am a foreigner dating an American and in the country I came from it is quite natural if you are in a committed relationship to drop condoms and using other types of birth control such as loop or pills. The other day my boyfriend said t...
A. 14 April 2009: Well if you both go and get tested for STI's and then you are on a REALLY reliable form of contraception then you could talk to him about it.
But if he wants to use them then you are going to have to put up with it.
Sex is ALWAYS a risk, n... (read in full...)
He didn't see the funny side and now is barely talking to me!
Q. I think I've messed things up with my boyfriend and need some advice. We've been dating for 6 months, haven't been intimate yet - just kissing, etc. He's a fairly shy guy but only at first. Last week I came to visit him in his dorm. When I got ther...
A. 14 April 2009: Wow, you were pretty insensitive (why didn't you knock?!!)... and then telling him you were going to tell people about it will have been THE worst thing you could do to the poor boy.
Give him some time to calm down. You've humiliated him and thre... (read in full...)
I'm dating a married man... but he's seperated!
Q. I have been seeing this guy for about 3 months now but he is married. He has been separated from his wife for about 8-9 months now. She does not want a divorce so of course she is not going to pay for it. He recently got scammed for $3500. This is ...
A. 14 April 2009: I'd play it safe and stop seeing him for a while.
You are the one with it all to lose here. He could very well lead you on and then hurt you badly.
Tell him you really want to be with him, but not while you are going to be "the other woman."
... (read in full...)
I love her but she hates me!
Q. I'm in love with my best friend but then I told her how I felt and now she hates me. I don't know what to do, plz help me!...
A. 14 April 2009: I'm sure she doesn't hate you.
She's just angry because she thought she could trust you and all this time you've been lusting after her.
Try and get over her and move on. Hopefully you can be friends again on some level at some time.
Go... (read in full...)
How do I learn to love myself?
Q. hello aunts...im 28yrs old and im wondering how do i even begin to work on myself meaning 1)get to know myself and 2)love myself? alot of responses to questions involving bad relationships always get around to saying that one should get to kn...
A. 14 April 2009: Yeah, that's right, my life is and always has been perfect.
I put a fair bit of effort into my answer to you so I'm sorry you couldn't take anything from it.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I want a mini me!!!!
Q. Ok, I'm kind of freaked out. Yesterday, my mom's friend came over with her baby, who's just at the walking stage. She's so cute! And I loved the way she was hobbling around in circles. I used to never like babies, so I thought it was odd that I w...
A. 14 April 2009: Yeah your hormones ambushed you.
But you know this feeling is exactly the same as the feeling that you get during PMT.
It's not real.
You know you saw the baby at it's cutest.
Go back and offer to change her nappy, have a good sniff. Se... (read in full...)
Large tipped condom does ????
Q. my boyfriend and i bought a variety pack of condoms. Ribbed and Studded, i completely understand, but what is the large tipped one ment for? When he put it on it was just like the top was all baggy and didn't do anything for either of us. Is this ...
A. 14 April 2009: As far as I know they are just designed to hold his cum better and less likely to split.
It's not one of the "fun" designs, it's just practical.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Somewhere different, something different to do!
Q. its mine and my boyfriends 2 year anniversary coming up in septemper. i know its a while off yet but i really want to do something really special, out of the ordinary and different. my boyfriend is quite cultured, into historic things, educatio...
A. 14 April 2009: I'm taking it you've been round the museum in Liverpool since they did it out?
Have you been down the tunnels?
My husband went on an indiana jones style stag doo in Liverpool and the best man had set up a massive treasure hunt round the city. ... (read in full...)
I can't please everyone and its really starting to get to me!
Q. Lately me and my boyfriend have been fighting and the fight is always the same thing. It is about how he well never spend time with my family I hear so much shit about this from my family that it's starting to drive me up the wall. Evertime my ...
A. 14 April 2009: Yep. Tell him you really want him to meet your parents as it would really mean a lot to you and they have invited him for dinner.
Tell him it can be a casual thing and everything else but you really really want it to happen.
After all tha... (read in full...)
Why didn't you give in to temptation?
Q. Has anyone ever been tempted to cheat? If so- how didn't you give into the temptation?...
A. 14 April 2009: It's exactly the same as if you were in a shop and the shop assistant went into the back. You could steal a bar of chocolate and no one would ever know.
You could, or you could be a decent human being and not a thief.
If you want to cheat th... (read in full...)
I feel guilty because I am not physically attracted to my b/f
Q. iv been with my boyfriend for 6months now.. his loving, caring, senstive all the things a girl can look for in a guy and i do love him the only problem is im not psychically attracted to him and i feel really guilty about it.. his always telling m...
A. 14 April 2009: This can go one of two ways and it depends what you want in a relationship.
If you want a basis of friendship and all the other physical stuff keeps you both satisfied but is not high on your list of priorities then no problem!
However, if y... (read in full...)
Why do I bottle things up?
Q. Hey, so i am 20 years old i've had alot going on in my life since i was about 12, loss of family family fueds so on and so forth, but my main problem is i always keep things bottled up. if something in my family goes wrong or something upset'...
A. 14 April 2009: Because you are British!!
We don't cry and go to therapists and talk endlessly about ourselves like the Americans you see on TV.
In this celebrity obsessed age I think I know more about Jordan's pregnancy than I do about my own Mother. But ... (read in full...)
I can't please everyone and its really starting to get to me!
Q. Lately me and my boyfriend have been fighting and the fight is always the same thing. It is about how he well never spend time with my family I hear so much shit about this from my family that it's starting to drive me up the wall. Evertime my ...
A. 14 April 2009: If he can't even be bothered to meet your family then he obviously can't care that much about your relationship.
If he cared about you then he'd put the effort in.
Give him one more chance and invite him to a pub lunch with your parents thi... (read in full...)
How do I become dominant? I thought I was but he considers me submissive!
Q. So today is my one year with my boyfriend and he's always said that he love having sex with me, but it bugged me one day when I was trying to be the dominant one he said that i was submissive. This was a while ago and tonight i want to show him that ...
A. 14 April 2009: You don't need to buy stuff.... just use a tie, or the cord from a dressing gown, or something so you appear to be doing it spontaneously.
Then tie him down and tell him that you are in charge and he has to be a good boy if he wants somethin... (read in full...)
He's started making comments about large woman on tv..is he dropping hints to me?
Q. I am a large woman. I was a large baby, child and nothing much has changed. A couple of times in my life, I lost a lot of weight but it always came right back. I have been with my husband for almost two years now and have put on a few more po...
A. 14 April 2009: He might be, he might not, either way, if you have put on a few more pounds than your body is used to, then it is in your (and his) interest for BOTH of you to get a dog for a day and head out to the country and go for a long walk, or a swim or a ... (read in full...)
Self conscious about bikini & men on the beach
Q. i going on holiday i feel very strange wearing a g-string bikini. i am feeling very self conscience but some girls arent .i saw in swim suit competition on foreign tv and she was a g-string bikini there was group of young guys were watching and the ...
A. 14 April 2009: The answer is in the question.... foreign TV, and beauty contest.
Have you ever watched "the fast show"?
That took the piss out of Spanish TV for constantly having topless women bouncing around in thongs for no reason during the weather fore... (read in full...)
College classmate is putting the moves on me and I'm not sure what to do!
Q. I need advice. I've been married for quite a few years, have a wonderful husband, and we have 3 kids. I never went to college before, we got married young, and I stayed at home with the kids. Now the youngest is in middle school, and I don't need to ...
A. 14 April 2009: I think you can deal with this on your own to be honest.
You do not want excessive drama.
Mike is going to avoid you like the plague as no man is going to want to keep pushing a girl who called him "small."
Just remain civil and polite ... (read in full...)
My b/f said "I want to sleep around because I feel like I'm missing out"
Q. My boyfriend is 19 an I am 17. We have been together a year and a half now and we are still going strong... so I thought. As I am 17 I can't always get in clubs. I understand my boyfriend wanting to go out with his friends in clubs. He wnet o...
A. 14 April 2009: You did the right thing by staying strong and telling him to bugger off and sleep with other people if he wanted to.
But as you say, you can't just forget he said that.
He needs to work to rebuild some trust in your relationship and... (read in full...)
Will a special encounter with a female help me?
Q. I am 22 years old. I am most confused. I don't have a reason to wake out of bed. I still haven't had any real special encounters. I have no experience in the dating game whatsoever. I hate to use the dreaded "V" word if you know what i mean. I ha...
A. 14 April 2009: Sweetheart sex is an emotional rollercoaster, and if you can't walk through a store without worrying then I think it would simply make you a nervous wreck.
It does seem to me that you have some real problems and I don't think the internet will be ... (read in full...)
Ok for me to make the first move? Or wait for him?
Q. I've started messaging a guy online that I used to work with but he moved to a different branch and he's really nice. is it ok for me to make the first move or should I wait for him? He's said its nice to be talking again...is this a good sign?...
A. 14 April 2009: Flirt like crazy with him one night and then just throw in "so are you ever going to invite me out for coffee? Or shall I die of a broken heart?!"
It's over dramatic enough that you can pretend you are only messing and therefore not desperat... (read in full...)
How do I learn to love myself?
Q. hello aunts...im 28yrs old and im wondering how do i even begin to work on myself meaning 1)get to know myself and 2)love myself? alot of responses to questions involving bad relationships always get around to saying that one should get to kn...
A. 14 April 2009: Sorry, I'm only 26, but I'll have a go at answering if that's ok.
You say you are scared of being alone and I think that is why you are having these problems.
The first thing you need to do is learn some self confidence that you are fine ALO... (read in full...)
Should I keep trying?
Q. ok. so i like this girl that doesnt want a boyfriend but she really likes me.. should i keep goin or end it here...
A. 14 April 2009: Ask her out and tell her you want to be her boyfriend.
If she says no then it's sad but you just have to back off and leave her alone for a while. Tell her that you have feelings for her and need to get over them before you can hang out again.
... (read in full...)
Ideas on twin boys' names please.
Q. I know this site is mainly for relationship advice but this is my last resort. I am being induces in the morning and my husband and I still can not agree on a name for our twin sons. From the moment we found out we were prenant we agreed on naming ...
A. 14 April 2009: Britain is a great name! It's Great in fact haha.
Why do you want them both to be BE? That will cause SO MUCH confusion in later life with initials.
Talk to your husband and agree to rethink them but put your foot down if you don't want to na... (read in full...)
Why the sudden change in using protection?
Q. Why after 4 months of (2 times a week) having unprotected sex with my married "boyfriend" does he want to START to use condoms? ( I can't get pregnant either)...
A. 14 April 2009: He's probably heard of a case where someone got caught because their Mrs caught clamydia from their cheating husband.
Either that or he's got a New third girl that he's shagging and she hasn't been for her STI check up in a while.
Either that o... (read in full...)
After 4 years together, stay in or get out?
Q. Hi everyone, My fiance and I have been together nearly 4years now and i think the spark has gone. We argue a lot of the time, we have no money, huge debts, we hardly make love and if we do I don't enjoy it, I just do it for him because he has a...
A. 14 April 2009: After 4 years it's no wonder you see him as your safety blanket, and you don't want him to disappear off with any one else.
BUT, you can't move on if he doesn't.
I think you know that this relationship has come to the end of the line and you... (read in full...)
Turning 30 and no first kiss, no boyfriend. So sad ...
Q. I am scared of turning 30 and never having no boyfriend ever and never even got my first kiss Am I a joke?...
A. 14 April 2009: No you are not a joke.
You just need to get out and meet more people.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Has anyone tried Lybrel? Experiences?
Q. Hello, I'm on a birth control (Lybrel) with the only purpose to end my periods. That is the function of Lybrel. However, I've been taking the pill for almost four months now and I've been bleeding/staining EVERYDAY eversince. I want to know if anyon...
A. 13 April 2009: This happened to me!!
I was on a different pill but it had the same effect. Isn't it horrible???
I went back to the doc and they put me on a different brand and I'm still having issues a bit but no more perma-period.
Have you thought abou... (read in full...)
What kind of friendship is she looking for ?
Q. hello people ...i broke up with my gf 2 weeks ago because it really had no future and i had a strong reason...she is and will always be the most special person for whom i care a lot in my life.... she is really sweet and very understanding and want...
A. 13 April 2009: She's scared and doesn't want to lose you. She still cares about you.
Also, we girls ALWAYS want to be friends with all of our ex's. It's just a girl thing. We value you as someone to come shopping with us and tell us we look great.
Give he... (read in full...)
We broke up after we had a three-some. I felt so disrespected by him.
Q. Hi guys, My fiance and I went out last night after having a 3some with another woman the night before (his idea) We went to a bar and he kept reacting around a certain girl who was out. I asked what was wrong as he kept gasping, stopping still a...
A. 13 April 2009: It sounds to me that although he probably did want to keep you to be his little wifey, he wasn't quite ready to be a one woman man.
So when you had a threesome, he took it to mean "yeah you can have sex with as many other women as you want as ... (read in full...)
I just don't know how to tell him that I would love to marry him some day
Q. So my boyfriend and I were recently talking about marriage and I said some things I now wish I hadn't. I admit I was kind of trying to lure out of him his feelings on the topic (in general) and I kinda had the impression that he didnt really want ...
A. 13 April 2009: You've together a year and you can't be honest about your feelings?
Hun you are no where near ready for marriage if you can't even tell a guy that you might want to get married one day after being together for a YEAR.
A lot of girls would be t... (read in full...)
What is a "courtesan"?
Q. what is a courtesan?...
A. 13 April 2009: A courtesan is basically a woman of low social rank that is kept around to have sex with the King when he feels like it.
Back in the day obviously all the high class women would not have sex before marriage. Plus you didn't marry for love as it wa... (read in full...)
Are all guys like to have skinny girlfriends?
Q. just looking for body advice.. Im 61kgs and probably around 165 cms maybe a bit taller. Im not fat, im curvy. I like my bum i like that i have one. The only things i dont really like is my boobs, there a bit small but im not that phased. The th...
A. 13 April 2009: No your boyfriend is being an arse.
Next time he says anything turn round and tell him to shut the hell up. I bet he's not got perfect abs so turn it on him and tell him that he needs to get his fat arse to a gym and work on his massive lack of ... (read in full...)
Should I ask her about this other guy?
Q. Dear all, I am in a relationship with my girlfriend for a year now, and things are going pretty well. We get along quite well, laugh a lot, and have many things in common. We see there is a future for us. I must say that sex life is rather dull t...
A. 13 April 2009: It sounds like she may have a crush on him but if he's married then she knows nothing will ever every happen in a physical way.
However she may be getting a bit too close to him emotionally.
I think you need to sort this out. I bet you backed o... (read in full...)
Is there a way to salvage a verbally and emotionally abusive relationship?
Q. is there a way to salvage a relationship once it has gotten to the point where the person your with is continuously disrespecting you? my boyfriend is always calling me a slut, whore even a cunt. He is overly jealous and tries to make me feel guilty ...
A. 13 April 2009: So glad to hear you say that.
You'd be amazed how often I give that same bit of advice to girls who then come back and say that I obviously don't understand and that they LOVE HIM and deep down he's a wonderful caring cuddly guy, he's just str... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to like being a tease?
Q. is it wrong to like being a tease? I used to have very low self esteem and guys would use me but as i have grown up i am a more confident woman. being honest, not trying to sound like a snobby bitch but when i go out clubbing i feel like i can get ...
A. 13 April 2009: As long as you only tease guys who are after you in clubs for sex... you GO FOR IT! It's just playing the same game they are, but on a slightly less hardcore level.
The only thing you have to be careful of is:
a) don't do it to shy guys who hav... (read in full...)
Pulled out during orgasm and ruined it for me. Was I wrong for getting mad?
Q. I'm not sure I was totally in the wrong in this situation, so please just let me know what you think. Yesterday my boyfriend and I were having sex in the morning and right when I was orgasming, he pulled out and ruined it all for me. It felt like...
A. 13 April 2009: Well why not show him what it's like?
Give him the best blow job ever and tell him you have a special treat for him so he has to tell you when he's nearly coming.
Then when he's about to orgasm, stop and walk out the room.
See how he like... (read in full...)
Is there a way to salvage a verbally and emotionally abusive relationship?
Q. is there a way to salvage a relationship once it has gotten to the point where the person your with is continuously disrespecting you? my boyfriend is always calling me a slut, whore even a cunt. He is overly jealous and tries to make me feel guilty ...
A. 13 April 2009: The answer is no. There is no way he is suddenly going to wake up and decide to put in effort when it is so much easier for him not to knowing you will take it.
Besides, he's found that the more horrible he is, the more effort you put in so it's ... (read in full...)
14, in love, and both of us are ready for sex. But I'm scared of the pain.
Q. OK, I don't know what to do... I started a relationship with this guy I've known for years about a month ago. So far, we've only had oral and manual sex. It's clear he wants to go all the way, but he's reassured me that he won't do anything I'm ...
A. 13 April 2009: Well if he's older then that is the decision made for you.
If he goes any further than kissing then technically he is committing a sexual offence. I know it's stupid if you consent to it and feel you are ready and everything but the rest of the w... (read in full...)
Pulled out during orgasm and ruined it for me. Was I wrong for getting mad?
Q. I'm not sure I was totally in the wrong in this situation, so please just let me know what you think. Yesterday my boyfriend and I were having sex in the morning and right when I was orgasming, he pulled out and ruined it all for me. It felt like...
A. 13 April 2009: That is a horrible thing to happen! I'd be well pissed off.
Unless you are completely silent and still as a statue, then there is no way he would have not known you were on the verge... and the fact he chose to turn you into some kind of degraded... (read in full...)
What's it like the first time you see your boyfriend naked?
Q. Girls respond… I have a good relationship with my bf. What is it like to see your boyfriend naked for the first time? What is it like to have your boyfriend see you naked for the first time? How can it be a good experience? What can be ...
A. 13 April 2009: It's terrifying!
Even at 25, I still get that "am I normal looking" worry that he is going to point and scream and run away.
The way to do it is in stages. Do stuff like kissing with your tops off so you have both got used to the top half. Th... (read in full...)
14, in love, and both of us are ready for sex. But I'm scared of the pain.
Q. OK, I don't know what to do... I started a relationship with this guy I've known for years about a month ago. So far, we've only had oral and manual sex. It's clear he wants to go all the way, but he's reassured me that he won't do anything I'm ...
A. 13 April 2009: You've only been with him a MONTH!!!
Many adult women would wait longer than that to have sex with a guy - LET ALONE lose your virginity to him!
I know you have known him for years, but that doesn't matter.
You need to work up to sex a lot ... (read in full...)
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