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writes:I'm not sure I was totally in the wrong in this situation, so please just let me know what you think. Yesterday my boyfriend and I were having sex in the morning and right when I was orgasming, he pulled out and ruined it all for me. It felt like he was just taking all the good feeling out of me and then came on my face and hair. It put me in a really bad mood for the most part of the day. I just couldn't get in a good mood for anything. I had just came off my period and was pretty excited we finally got to have some lovings. He didn't apologize at all for what he did. He just did this to me last week also. I was put in a bad mood then also, but it didn't last all day that time. I'm not sure if this has happened to anyone before, but it seems like one of the worst feelings ever! Please let me know if I was totally wrong for getting upset. It don't seem like a big deal, but the feeling I got was so horrible! I'm just hoping he don't do that any more to me. I would rather not have any orgasms then having someone pull out right when I am having one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2009): Your boyfriend is just istrested in his own pleasure Ill bet he is watching lots of porn that where he gets that idea from .I think any good man makes the girls have her fun first and then he has his least thats the way I like to do it love to watch a girl loose control but then I am married and never have sex any more .
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2009): glad ye talked it out, when it comes to sex it really doesnt matter what we think.It matters so much what you feel. I personally get a kick out of the whole cumming on my partner thing but if she doesnt want that, id far rather leave it rather than spoil the fun for both of ye. I wouldnt recommend being aggresive about it, just tell him what you want and need and take it from there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2009): Emilyanswers' answer makes me laugh!
Its great that you've talked to him openly about this.
Has he actually apologised and given you some assurance that he'll try not to let it happen again?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Nina! I'm glad I'm not the only one to know how horrible of a feeling that is. I told him that if he keeps it up I'm definitely not having sex with him for awhile. I just hope he realizes how upset I get and try to do better next time. Either not let me finish or just let me, no in between, it's the worse. Thank you everyone else for your advice as well. We do love eachother very much and sex is, for the most part, fun for both of us. This situation has only happened twice and coincidentally it was in the past week. Hopefully no more though! Thanks again!!!!
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (13 April 2009):
Well why not show him what it's like?
Give him the best blow job ever and tell him you have a special treat for him so he has to tell you when he's nearly coming.
Then when he's about to orgasm, stop and walk out the room.
See how he likes being that frustrated!
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, nina203 +, writes (13 April 2009):
OMG! when i read ur story it reminds me of me...i so understand the feeling ur talking about and horrible it is ...ur not alone, i have felt that way several times with my long term boyfriend whom i dumped and moved on from (several other reasons)..but he used to do the same thing not all the time but occasionally (not the cum in the face or hair thing) pulling out right before im done...the only thing i can tell you is that he is selfish...there is no other way to put it...yes u can talk to him and explain but her wont get it... i would get so angry at my boyfriend that i didn't even want him to touch me and sometimes i ve cried of how mad i would get he would apologize and try his best not to do it again but i guess he couldn't help his selfishness...so i did what i had to do and punish him...NO SEX! ...i told him if he continued doing that to me that he was not gonna be allowed to touch me or even have sex with me...but of course dont take it to the extreme and take to long to give him some just make sure he learned his lesson
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe don't normally pull out when he's finishing. I have always let him finish inside me. I have been on birth control for yyeeeaarrsss and he knows this. We have been sexually active for about 6 years, this shouldn't even be an issue, it's something that just came up last week.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2009): well in that case... like i said, he has to pull out when he finishes and may not know that you're right in the middle. I know it must very upsetting at that moment but think about if he finished inside of you.. wouldn't you be mad? Tell him when you're about to cum and maybe he can hold off a little longer. Also, if you wouldn't normally be mad about the face and hair thing, then you can't care about it when he interrupts you either.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2009): If he's having an orgasm, he has to pull out and probably doesn't know that you're right in the middle of one anyway. But coming in your face and hair in completely inappropriate, and the medic guy is right.. he is probably bragging about it to his friends... i say you confront him about where he waves that thing around when he's finishing. My husband did that once but it was a total accident.. it squirted like3 feet.. lol, and i was pleasuring him, we weren't having sex. He apologized to no end, but i thought it was hilarious.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI actually don't mind the coming on my face and hair. It's not it happened that pisses me off. Not letting me finish what he started and THEN putting cum in my hair and on my face does make me a bit upset though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI also have told him how I feel. I told him the last time how horrible that feeling was. He knew I was orgasming as well because I am very vocal when I orgasm, so it's not anything about him not knowing I was orgasming.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe have been together for over 4 years. I am on birth control and this has never been an issue before. It just started happening. Sorry I didn't include all this information. No he wasn't wearing a condom, we never use condoms.
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (13 April 2009):
 oh lilpixie just pointed out something there, never mind the pull out method we all know that doesn't work, but why wasn't he wearing a condom?
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reader, LilPixie +, writes (13 April 2009):
 Where you using condoms? If not maybe both of these times he was about to ejaculate and pulled out so that he doesn't cum in you.It's normal for a guy to cum over the girls body, but tbh I'm not liking the fact that he did this over your face and hair, and from what you have said I'll take it that you don't like this either.You need to talk to you boyfriend about this to make sure he doesn't do this again. I don't think you're wrong to feel upset about this and it's completely understandable.Good luck
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (13 April 2009):
You need to educate this silly boy on what women like because his sex education has come from cheap porn and what will make it worse is he will probably brag about it to his childish mates.
In fact don't educate him, DUMP him right now, what an idiot! (him not you)
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (13 April 2009):
That is a horrible thing to happen! I'd be well pissed off.
Unless you are completely silent and still as a statue, then there is no way he would have not known you were on the verge... and the fact he chose to turn you into some kind of degraded bit of porn by coming on your face rather than pleasure you is selfish and just NASTY.
It sounds to me like:
a) his entire understanding of women is from porn and he is stupid enough to believe that women LOVE having horrible gunk squirted on their faces and this make them orgasm...
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b) he's a selfish horrible little man who is just using you for his own pleasure and nothing more.
You don't give an age or any details about your relationship, but to be honest, I don't think I'd want to be with a guy who did that what ever his excuse. Even when you said you DO NOT LIKE IT he did it again!!
This kind of thing is what gets you dumped and I think you should seriously think if a guy who can treat you like that is worth being with.
I'd buy him a blow up doll and tell him that since that is all he wants you for he can have it and you are off to find a real man and not a pathetic little boy who spends too much time on the internet.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (13 April 2009):
 Tell him how you feel, discuss this and tell him how you feel when he does it, he may think you like it if you don't talk to him about it. Ask him why he does it!
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