I am wondering when is enough enough? Can a person ever change?
Q. I have been dating this guy for six years now, we live together and he has been lying to me. He has been talking and texting other women. Comments like hey sexy, hey beautiful. We have been through this before twice already and I am wondering when ...
A. 15 May 2009: You need to decide that you don't want to be with him, that it was never going to happen and you are ready to move on.
THEN you can start getting over him.
Look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that you are worth more than him an... (read in full...)
How do I handle this guy?
Q. i met a guy... we lived in same apartment... first... he acted very very nice to me...i have never been treated that nice before... we became friends... he talked to me everyday... it was fun. but things went out of control... he started making me ...
A. 26 April 2009: You continue to ignore him.
He's getting desperate to keep you around because a girl who will let herself be used as a doormat and cheap sextoy is hard to find.
Keep ignoring him. You KNOW he's going to use you again if you let him.
Good Luc... (read in full...)
I am wondering when is enough enough? Can a person ever change?
Q. I have been dating this guy for six years now, we live together and he has been lying to me. He has been talking and texting other women. Comments like hey sexy, hey beautiful. We have been through this before twice already and I am wondering when ...
A. 26 April 2009: Well this is like pulling a wax strip off.
Only you can do it, and you just have to get on with it.
Go and put all his stuff in a bin bag, and put it in a cupboard.
Then you just have to make a call or whatever and tell him.
Call your g... (read in full...)
Is it wrong or what? I'm 20 and she's 14 but it's online only.
Q. Ok, long story short. I'm 20 and met a girl online 3 months ago. She told me she was 16 and we got along great! We laughed with each other, flirted, you know, things like that. Eventually I developed feelings for her. I couldn't help it because she ...
A. 24 April 2009: Well flirting is very fun, so if this is the first time for you then it's no wonder you are enjoying it.
But remember that you are wasting time here and it's not helping you.
Leave this girl alone and go out and talk to some actual women, no... (read in full...)
Alone too long...
Q. I am a middle aged man who has let his sexual life become none existent. It has been ten years since I even considered getting close to someone. How long is too long without any personal physical contact or a relationship?...
A. 24 April 2009: Some people would say that a week is too long. Some people are content never to have someone.
If you want a lady in your life then go and find one.
If you don't then be happy and have great friends.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
How do I handle this guy?
Q. i met a guy... we lived in same apartment... first... he acted very very nice to me...i have never been treated that nice before... we became friends... he talked to me everyday... it was fun. but things went out of control... he started making me ...
A. 24 April 2009: Honeygirl is right.
He uses you when he's in the mood and then dumps you.
He doesn't like you, he just knows that you'll give him what he wants.
Get him out of your life. You deserve better!
No woman should allow herself to be used ... (read in full...)
How does one classify romance/lust verses friends with benefits verses the friend zone?
Q. Hello! I wonder if someone would kindly tell me once and for all whether there are two distinct states of relationship i.e. romance/lust vs the friend zone and can one move from one into the other and vice versa. A hybrid version of this is of co...
A. 24 April 2009: So you don't like her, you fancy another woman but you fancy a no strings shag so you have written an essay about labelling relationships to try and find out how to do it?
Well it's simple.
Ask her out. When you are out, have fun, talk, tell ... (read in full...)
Concerned about partner's nephew's feelings towards me...
Q. Ok here's the thing a couple of days ago I spoke about my concerns over my partners nephew, well I have noticed that in the last 3 months he has visited our town 7 times when ordinarilly he normally visit once every so many years. I do try to av...
A. 24 April 2009: I always find there is no excuse to cheat.
If you are not happy with your husband, then tell him you need to get it fixed. If he won't fix it, then leave.
You had sex with another man and I'm afraid that you need to pick. Either cut conta... (read in full...)
"Boys don't work like that!!!"
Q. My boyfriend and I spend a lot of time snuggling and we haven't seen each other for the last week so I asked him if he was missing our cuddles and he said boys don't work like that. Is that right or am I overthinking things and being worried for no ...
A. 24 April 2009: I think you missing the point of why men are so great.
My husband is in the army, he's a big scary Sergeant who's job is to terrify people into doing what they are told. He works with tanks and guns and straps up broken bones.
But when he i... (read in full...)
Wishful thinking or the Real thing?
Q. Is it possible to feel a connection to someone you have never met but have conversed with via e-mail, IM and phone for the past 6 months? Has anyone had this happen before? Also, what are the chances upon an initial meeting that there will be no ...
A. 24 April 2009: They say that only about 40% of communication is using words.
You've used the phone with him so you've got the tone and the pauses and the unsaid things, but you've never really SPOKEN to each other.
It's very possible that you could meet up an... (read in full...)
How can I hide a relationship from my parents?
Q. how can i hide a relationship from my parents?...
A. 24 April 2009: Just don't tell them.
At your age you are only going to be friends with a bit of kissing and hand holding so it's not a big deal.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Met a guy online, he said he was 21 but he's really 17!
Q. Hi im 19 and from the UK, and i met this guy from Canada on a game. to play the game you have to be 18 and he said he was 21. we've spent every night tongether for the past 4 month talking for a minimum of 5 hours per night and over this time ...
A. 24 April 2009: There is only 2 years difference.
He's only your online friend so it's not really a problem morally and he's over 16 so I don't think there is any legal problem.
Do remember that he's only showing you the bits he wants. He could be lying t... (read in full...)
Can't let go of my married man because he's good in bed.
Q. hi im 18 and i am seeing an 21 year old guy who i really like and care for but the problem is he is married i tried leaving him before but always go back to him i dont expect him to leave her and im happy with him am i doing the wrong thing he also ...
A. 24 April 2009: The reason he is the only guy you have had good sex with is probably because you are 18!!
Most teenage boys have no idea what they are doing with a woman.
Accept the fact that there are guys out there who are better than this one.
Plus ke... (read in full...)
He wants me to "worship" him! What does this mean???
Q. My Boyfreind wants me to worship him and i realy want to but i dont know what to do or say when doing it. Like he wants me to worship is dick but how. When i worship is dick what do i do. What kind of things should i say to him and should i tease ...
A. 24 April 2009: So he said you could use his account to ask complete strangers on the internet something rather than tell you himself?
I have not heard the phrase "worship" use to describe a seual act before, but it sounds incredibly arrogant what ever it is.
... (read in full...)
Is he really bi-sexual? or just confused?
Q. Hi my question is can i young teenage guy THINK he is bisexual but really is confused? i no teens tend to "experiment" with these kinds of things so is it possible he will..grow out of it? (for want of a better term)...
A. 24 April 2009: Well it depends on the circumstance.
If he's "bi" in that he looks at gay porn or thinks he may be attracted to boys, then yes it could be a phase. Same goes if he's kissed someone just to try it.
If he's "come out" to people and has open rel... (read in full...)
Should I leave my abusive and demanding man? He says he'll leave me as soon as the sex stops anyway.
Q. "I have been living with a man that I am very much in love with for almost 4 years now. We are both nurses and he is 52 and I am 39. I have had some problems with drug addiction but have gotten help and continue to go to meetings and have a sponso...
A. 24 April 2009: You really have to ask this situation?
This man does not love you. He does not care about you. he has made it clear he is in it for the sex and has gotten VERY nasty and VERY abusive to get his own way.
Real men don't act like this.
Do you ... (read in full...)
Weight! should I drop it or him?
Q. Dear Cupid; I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years and lately our relationship is very rocky. We just recently got the internet, and since then, our communication has virtually come to a hault. I work at night and he works during the...
A. 24 April 2009: How DARE he make a demand like that.
Have you pointed out that you'd have to diet DANGEROUSLY to hit that deadline?
He's basically saying "harm your health for my pleasure" and that makes it very clear that he does not care about you. He do... (read in full...)
In love with my boyfriend but so lonely in love!
Q. I met my boyfriend almost a year ago. We worked at he same company but not necessarily on the same "team" or "job". We never crossed paths until a group of co-workers all went out to a new bar opening and we finally met. I am 32. He is 52. He ...
A. 24 April 2009: Well it does appear that he's cooled off.
It's easy for me to assume the worst about him as I don't know him, but yes, you could have been a rebound if the marriage was over in his head but not in reality.
You could also have been young and v... (read in full...)
Is it wrong or what? I'm 20 and she's 14 but it's online only.
Q. Ok, long story short. I'm 20 and met a girl online 3 months ago. She told me she was 16 and we got along great! We laughed with each other, flirted, you know, things like that. Eventually I developed feelings for her. I couldn't help it because she ...
A. 24 April 2009: The chatting and being friends is not really wrong... the flirting and thinking about her all the time is.
What I suggest you do it find a picture of a really really horrible young girl. I don't know what you find attractive in a woman but find... (read in full...)
Should I go back to my friends house after this "incident" ?
Q. last weekend somthing scarey happend at my best friends house i dont want to say much but the police came and my best friend didnt get hurt but her dad did somthing scarey to her mom. that same weekend on saturday we went to the movies (the acci...
A. 24 April 2009: Why can't your friend (the one with the violent dad) come to this other girls house too? Why do you have to choose?
If you just say to her "well everyone else is meeting at Sarah's place so why don't I pick you up and we'll go there?"
You nee... (read in full...)
In need of help with a friends with benefits situation!
Q. i've been in an FWB relationship with a guy for four months. we first dated but then he deicded he didn't want a real relationship, so i agreed on friends with benefits so i could keep him around. every time we're together, we spend the night at...
A. 24 April 2009: So you are in a relationship where you are JUST FRIENDS with ocasional sex - basically using eachother for sex when you are both in the mood.
(you want more but you are too desperate to have him around to say you don't like being used for sex.... (read in full...)
I told my crush of 6 years how I felt. Now I'm confused about what happened. Help me!
Q. I'm too lost now after what happened recently... I've been crushing on this girl for 6 years now, since I was 13 years old, freshmen in high school. She's the same age as I was, she is the most intelligent, quietest, absolutely beautiful girl I...
A. 24 April 2009: You can't keep her locked up just because other guys are going to look at her.
Accept your girl is beautiful and SHE'S WITH YOU!!!
Enjoy the attention and put your arm around her, they are paying you a compliment after all.
Glad it went we... (read in full...)
Do you think my wife is having an affair?
Q. I have caught my wife having text sex in the past, she is now secretly in contact with her ex, texting a lot whilst masturbating. I also discovered she has bought condoms, do you think she is having an affair? And what should I do?...
A. 23 April 2009: Sounds dodgy as hell to me.
Confront her with what you know in a CALM way and ask her what is going on.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Birthday question for the ladies.
Q. I am a married man and my birthday is coming up soon. The thing is, the gift I would like to recieve is a little out of the ordinary. I would like to ask my wife to give me the gift of letting me watch her get a massage from another woman. I'm ...
A. 23 April 2009: So you want to make her swallow, AND try lesbianism?
What do you do for her?
I think you need to work on one thing at a time. If you are going to ask for something for your birthday then you are basically saying "do this on this date or RUI... (read in full...)
Will our childhood relationship last?
Q. I'm 15 and my girlfriend is 14 and we are seriously thinking about moving in with eachother when im 20 and she's 19 are we crazy? Are we going to last that Long?...
A. 23 April 2009: No one can tell the future.
You may live happily ever after and have 5 million children and breed kittens.
You may break up next week.
Making plans for the future is fun. My husband and I regularly plan how we are going to build a big hou... (read in full...)
Tried to impress my friends with my 23 year old boyfriend but they just got mad at me!
Q. At School, My friends were talking about their boyfriends and Girlfriends and stuff. And my friend Melinda* look at me and was like "To bad you don't have one." Everyone kinda looks at me. and I smile. I said "what are you talking about? I have ...
A. 23 April 2009: The thing about teenage girls is that they are all talk.
This is why we get so many high and mighty 13 year olds telling us that it's fine to have sex because everyone else is doing it.
They are just worried about you and unfortunately th... (read in full...)
I am wondering when is enough enough? Can a person ever change?
Q. I have been dating this guy for six years now, we live together and he has been lying to me. He has been talking and texting other women. Comments like hey sexy, hey beautiful. We have been through this before twice already and I am wondering when ...
A. 23 April 2009: The first or second time is enough. If you let it go on for years then you end up in love with them and tortured about the fact that he will NEVER change because he knows he can do what he likes, then say "he wants to be with me and me only" and ... (read in full...)
My friend is desperate for a baby and is sleeping around!
Q. I have a friend who wants a baby but she is 17 years old but she keeps sleeping with all kinds of guys so she will have a baby. What should I do, be a good friend and tell her not to do that or just stop talking to her?...
A. 23 April 2009: Point out that if she doesn't know the medical history of the people she is sleeping with then her baby could be born with:
Downs Syndrome
Various childhood cancers
haemophilia
cystic fibrosis
muscular dystrophy
sickle cell anaemia
thal... (read in full...)
To be or not to be? A question on love
Q. Hey guys I've posted a question about being in love before but I think that this is the final straw in my situation. Basically im in love with my friend. Its the first time i've felt this way and to be honest, its crippling me. She has no idea...
A. 23 April 2009: I think you'd have to be REALLY subtle, and then that might not work.
If you are going to do this then I wouldn't come out with anything big and scary like "I'm in love with you!"
If I were you I'd go for something along the lines of just te... (read in full...)
Caught in an emotional affair - now what?
Q. I need advice. I am in my mid 30's and have been married for 12 years. I have three children. My marriage has been rocky for years(high financial stress, low level of affection). I have never even looked at another man until a few months ago when I ...
A. 23 April 2009: You say you are there "for the kids."
So you I think you need to know that you tried your best with your husband.
He now knows that there is something badly wrong and in a way this is good as it'll force him to face the problems of the ... (read in full...)
To be or not to be? A question on love
Q. Hey guys I've posted a question about being in love before but I think that this is the final straw in my situation. Basically im in love with my friend. Its the first time i've felt this way and to be honest, its crippling me. She has no idea...
A. 23 April 2009: Oh dear, you have let it go far too far and got stuck in the friend zone.
The thing is that if you just don't tell her and carry on being "friends" then she is going to be REALLY angry when she finds out. She thinks she can trust you at the mome... (read in full...)
Lesbian cheats on girlfriend with boy
Q. I have a really big problem and I am so upset by it I think I'm going to therapy. On Sunday I got at 5:52 a.m. a call from my girlfriend. She was sobbing and screaming and saying something that I couldn't understand. I thought she was saying s...
A. 23 April 2009: If she has admitted that then it is a different matter. You weren't quite clear on your original post.
It sounded incredibly dodgy, but if she says that she consented to sex then fair enough.
Well the fact is that you have been cheated on ... (read in full...)
I turned her down so now she is telling everyone I'm gay!
Q. Hi, there is a girl in my class and we used to be good friends. We´d sit together and talk about all sorts of things. Then she told me that she loved me and wanted to go out with me. I didn´t fancy her, so I said ´no´ nicely, as I still wanted t...
A. 23 April 2009: She was hurt and obviously wants to hurt you.
She obviously needed a lot of courage to ask you out and had probably liked you for ages.
Leave her to calm down for a while and ignore her.
In the mean time go and ask out a girl you do like. ... (read in full...)
The way I look is holding me back in life!
Q. Hi I'm 19 and I've never had a boyfriend. I've wanted one since I was 11, but its never happened for me. I've read through the other 'never had a boyfriend' questions and read the advice... I have plenty of male friends (probably more than...
A. 23 April 2009: You don't say what it is about you that makes you so "ugly."
You also say you have never actively tried looking for a boyfriend.
I think your best bet is to tell a friend that you'd really like a boyfriend and get your female friends to take ... (read in full...)
My wife thinks she is in love with another man yet our marriage is still good!
Q. My marriage is in trouble again. My wife had a fling last year with a guy she used to bump into while out clubbing, all very casual, but destructive and hurtful nonetheless. I gradually uncoevered the whole thing, and...I forgave her. She said she ...
A. 23 April 2009: Personally I could not forgive a cheater, but you are not me and you really don't want to break up with her so you'll have to figure something else out.
I would suggest counselling first of all. You need to work out if you can stay together... (read in full...)
How can I let her know how sorry I am?
Q. I'm in need of some advice a while back my wife found out i was having an affair with a co worker who was also married this is not the first time that i had been unfaithful each time with married women at the time my wife never knew about the o/w ...
A. 23 April 2009: I don't think you can.
You've cheated repeatedly and when she got upset about it you got VIOLENT!
To be honest I think you need to let her go. I don't think I could ever forgive you for cheating, let alone for hitting me.
She needs to ge... (read in full...)
Happy alone but being harrassed for my choice!
Q. All of my friends and new people that I meet tell me that I'm ugly, boring, and unattractive the second that I tell them that I've never had a boyfriend or even been asked out on a date - and people never fail to ask about this topic. I am very ...
A. 23 April 2009: Where do you LIVE?
Everyone you meet tells you that you are ugly and boring???
Jesus you need to move and get some new friends. That is not normal.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Want to get pregnant -- any advice?
Q. Ok so my boyfriend and i have recently decided that we want to start trying for a baby. I came off my pill last month and we had lots of great sex, however i got my period the other day although it only lasted three days. This is confusing me as ...
A. 23 April 2009: You've only had ONE period? Since coming off your pill I mean?
Well of course you are not going to be pregnant yet!
Your body probably has been told every day for the last few years that it should not release an egg. So it's going to take a ... (read in full...)
Why does he need porn if he has me?
Q. Iv'e just found out my boyfriend has been watching pornography and i feel betrayed and inadequate if he loves me like he says he does why does he need to look at porn?...
A. 23 April 2009: Why do you need Chicken McNuggets when you have Marks and Spencer?
Because sometimes, junk food is lovely.
With you, sex is an act of love and requires thought and feelings and it's tiring emotionally.
With porn the girls are just there to ... (read in full...)
Digging for treasure with a blindfold on
Q. Ok , Im new to this , and I do feel ... very odd asking people I've no idea who are for advice on these ... very personal issuse . But Gotta swing the bat before that blood ball will fly don't I ?... Here we go . So , I am ... odd shall we say . A...
A. 23 April 2009: Well first off you need to calm down.
I know a lot of people like you (I've always been a none human too. Although I think of myself as a true human and the others as sheep.) and because they are so happy alone living the simple life, when a b... (read in full...)
My parents disapprove that I go back to China to be with my girl
Q. One hundred per cent of background is Chinese but my Ma, Pa, I move to America two year prior when I sixteen. I hope my English OK. Two year prior, I left behind girl, my best mate. We knew us since before primary. She want me back in China an...
A. 23 April 2009: If you really love her then you will want to provide the best life you can for her.
What good is a peice of paper saying you are married if you have to live in the streets? Do you not think she deserves better than that?
Don't you think she de... (read in full...)
Does he love me enough to stand up to his mother?
Q. Hi everyone, I need some serious advice. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost five years. During the third year of our relationship we had some problems and both of us were to blame. We broke up for about six months at the most and have ...
A. 23 April 2009: Are you sure he's 30? Are you sure he's not 17 and in disguise?
You haven't said "IT'S HER OR MEEEEEEEE!!!!" and asked him to disown his family, you have simply said that you want him to tell his family about you.
The fact he says that it's j... (read in full...)
Do women like sensitive guys?
Q. hey there, i need to know you girls opinion....folks around me told me that i am sensitive, do women like sensitive guys?...
A. 23 April 2009: Some girls LOVE a guy who is sensitive and needs looking after.
Some girls will find that adorable for about 3 weeks and then want you to stand up for yourself a bit.
Some won't be interested at all.
We, shockingly, all have different taste... (read in full...)
Should I go for the new girl or stay in my shaky relationship?
Q. I have been in a long term relationship (5 years) with a woman and I have recently met another woman that has given me all these strange feelings, i dont if you would call it love, but i cant stop thinking about her and im longing to be near her so ...
A. 23 April 2009: Kellyxxx is right that this stuff fades and it could just be your subconscious reaching out and grabbing something as a nice distraction from your relationship problems.
But I would say you should use this as a kick up the bum to sort stuff ou... (read in full...)
It's great when we talk, but he doesn't have much time for me
Q. okay I've been going out with my boyfrend for about 2 years . I am 17 and he is nearly 20 , this whole year all he does is work and ONLY lately like the past few weeks he's hardly been talking to me , im always the one to call him , I always have to ...
A. 23 April 2009: Well you say you can't leave him but why not just stop chasing him for a while.
You don't have to speak to him or text him every day. Just leave him for a few days and see what happens.
If he is stressed out with work (and lets face it, he may ... (read in full...)
Lesbian cheats on girlfriend with boy
Q. I have a really big problem and I am so upset by it I think I'm going to therapy. On Sunday I got at 5:52 a.m. a call from my girlfriend. She was sobbing and screaming and saying something that I couldn't understand. I thought she was saying s...
A. 22 April 2009: Ummm.... if she is drunk and passed out and he had sex with her then it's still rape.
Do you really think she would have done this if she's a lesbian?
This is why you should never get that drunk.
It will never stand up in court as she proba... (read in full...)
I told my crush of 6 years how I felt. Now I'm confused about what happened. Help me!
Q. I'm too lost now after what happened recently... I've been crushing on this girl for 6 years now, since I was 13 years old, freshmen in high school. She's the same age as I was, she is the most intelligent, quietest, absolutely beautiful girl I...
A. 15 April 2009: I'm really happy for you hun!
I thought it was a good sign that she kissed you but I didn't want to get your hopes up as I wasn't sure what kind of kiss it was.
And well done on making sure she knows that it's a no pressure date. I think yo... (read in full...)
I told my crush of 6 years how I felt. Now I'm confused about what happened. Help me!
Q. I'm too lost now after what happened recently... I've been crushing on this girl for 6 years now, since I was 13 years old, freshmen in high school. She's the same age as I was, she is the most intelligent, quietest, absolutely beautiful girl I...
A. 10 April 2009: Having someone poor their heart out to you is a bit scary to be honest.
I mean when someone says "I love you!" there is no way you can respond to that unless you are saying "I love you too!"
I know you wanted to sing it all to the skies about ... (read in full...)
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