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writes:hello people ...i broke up with my gf 2 weeks ago because it really had no future and i had a strong reason...she is and will always be the most special person for whom i care a lot in my life....she is really sweet and very understanding and wanted to keep the friendship at least ..but i refused as my outlook is different for that and i think friendship after an affair is nothing but bullshit...it always brings those feelings back and we feel hurt at every point of time ...she said we can get adjust to it slowly and will get alright with time and that she cant lose a good person like me completely from her life... but i asked for a break and have not called her since a week ..i appreciate that she has not called me at all and is giving me plenty of space...but she keeps asking my friend about me every alternate day whether i am alright and am doing well or not? i know she is using this friendship just to stay close to me ...i have cleared the message that she shouldnt keep any hopes about our relationship and she is fine with it ....i know she has no inentions but wants only me which makes me feel smothered sometimes...she is a real sweetheartand i respect her more than anyone and want to stay with her ...but cant be with her all the time(or keep the serious friendship )...what kind of friendship is she looking for ? things have relaxed a bit in these 2 weeks and it is not so painful now ...should i call her or give it more time which will probably help her think more practically ...
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (13 April 2009):
She's scared and doesn't want to lose you. She still cares about you.
Also, we girls ALWAYS want to be friends with all of our ex's. It's just a girl thing. We value you as someone to come shopping with us and tell us we look great.
Give her time and don't cut her off but try and see her with your other friends rather than alone.
Slowly she will realise that you were not that great after all, and will find new and better friends than you could be to her.
Good Luck!! xx
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