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writes:Lately me and my boyfriend have been fighting and the fight is always the same thing. It is about how he well never spend time with my family I hear so much shit about this from my family that it's starting to drive me up the wall. Evertime my family has a little get together I invite him but he always has some excuse no or I'm tired, It's not a good day, I had a really bad day at work. I'm sick of this B/ac than they get on me like oh what are you telling him about us that he does not want to see us. I'm to the point that I can't please everyone anymore and I just don't know what the hell to do anymore. Please help me out.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (14 April 2009):
Yep. Tell him you really want him to meet your parents as it would really mean a lot to you and they have invited him for dinner.
Tell him it can be a casual thing and everything else but you really really want it to happen.
After all that if he still won't go then you'll just have to accept he's not serious about your relationship. Meeting the parents shows that he's serious about you and your relationship. If he's not willing to make any effort for you then you should stop making effort for him, use him for fun and dump him when you get bored of him.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Kat_21 +, writes (14 April 2009):
Kat_21 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey thank's for the advice everyone I do tell him how much it means if he would show up to if but still it's the same. I go to places all the time with him that i don't want to but I'll try the *if i go to this than you go to that*
Again Thank's.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (14 April 2009):
If he can't even be bothered to meet your family then he obviously can't care that much about your relationship.
If he cared about you then he'd put the effort in.
Give him one more chance and invite him to a pub lunch with your parents this weekend. If he won't come then dump him.
Not a massive scary family celebration, just you, him, and your mum and dad.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Jmo +, writes (14 April 2009):
 Oh, I forgot to say, with regards to your family, just tell the truth for the most part. Tell them he fells uncomfortable. Hopefully they'll understand.
Good luck
-Jmo
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reader, Jmo +, writes (14 April 2009):
Oh hell, I know what you're talking about. The thing is, after awhile, you need to do some negotiating, such as *I go to this if you go to that* or you could give him a guilt-trip (which I do not suggest). Actually, I could think of a million things but that's not the point. The point is, if he doesn't want to go, it probably means he feels uncomfortable. Don't make him but don't feel afraid to show that you would really appreciate it. And it won't be as bad as it seems. Quite honestly, I hate going to my boy's family functions (they have so many) but I know how much it means to him. TELL HIM HOW MUCH IT MEANS TO YOU... but don't get upset. Would you want to go somewhere where you felt incredibly out of place?
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