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writes:So my boyfriend and I were recently talking about marriage and I said some things I now wish I hadn't. I admit I was kind of trying to lure out of him his feelings on the topic (in general) and I kinda had the impression that he didnt really want to get married ever. So I said that I thought marriage could be good, but then I think there are bad things about it too, and rambled on about how many people get divorced these days etc. But then he commented that he thinks that for the right two people he thinks marriage is a good thing. Now I am wishing I didnt say what I had said! I really love my boyfriend tremendously and want to stay with him regardless of whether he wants to get married or not, but now I feel bad like maybe he did actually have some romantic thoughts about us getting married some day and I just messed it all up. We have only been together for a year but we have talked about moving in together and having children in the semi near future (within a few years). I just dont know how to tell him that I would love to marry him some day, I just thought that wasnt what he wanted and I dont want to seem like I'm being wishy washy about it.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (13 April 2009):
You've together a year and you can't be honest about your feelings?
Hun you are no where near ready for marriage if you can't even tell a guy that you might want to get married one day after being together for a YEAR.
A lot of girls would be taking their guy out ring shopping and not giving them a choice.
Why are you so scared of talking to him?
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2009): Just tell him that you do want to get married, but you want to make sure that he's in it no matter what and that's why you made those comments. Next time you are talking about marriage tell him that you can see yourself getting married to him and having a family together and even if he doesn't want to get married you still want to be with him no matter what. Then see what he has to say back and if he brings up the comments you made then just tell him you don't want to pressure him into getting married you want him to make the right decision minus any biased from you.
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