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30 October 2010: I have tried to keep my relationship problems away from this site as I do not want my advice to be assosiated to my own questions. However I have now learned an important lesson that I want to share with the rest of you, in the hopes that you will ...
What I've learned from my family.
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How one person changed my life
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8 June 2010: I've been an aunt on this site now for quite a while, at first I started as an anonymous, until I finally took the step to make an account and dare to be identified somewhat. As I've gotten to know a few people on here, albeit still strangers ...
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All the girls go for my good looking friend instead of me!
Q. A friend of mine is the total opposite of me. He is 6'2 with blond hair and has stunning looks and he works out. I'm 5'8, work out and play sports, but don't look stunning like he does. I've been told I am handsome by older family and that is it. ...
A. 22 November 2012: I guarantee you, this will be a funny memory. And you're not later than other teenagers, they all tend to go through this at this age. They just make sure to keep it a secret so no one knows how awkward they truly feel. ... (read in full...)
All the girls go for my good looking friend instead of me!
Q. A friend of mine is the total opposite of me. He is 6'2 with blond hair and has stunning looks and he works out. I'm 5'8, work out and play sports, but don't look stunning like he does. I've been told I am handsome by older family and that is it. ...
A. 21 November 2012: You've tried and failed with 4 girls. I've tried and failed numerous times before I got the hang of it. I don't keep count, I have no idea how many times I've been rejected. I'll still get rejections, mind you. But my scoring rate now can easily be ... (read in full...)
All the girls go for my good looking friend instead of me!
Q. A friend of mine is the total opposite of me. He is 6'2 with blond hair and has stunning looks and he works out. I'm 5'8, work out and play sports, but don't look stunning like he does. I've been told I am handsome by older family and that is it. ...
A. 20 November 2012: "by the time we get together, all thoughts of a fulfilling sex life and adventure with her would be gon e since she would want kids soon."
Don't worry, most women I know of don't want children with a man they barely know, so you'll get to have at ... (read in full...)
All the girls go for my good looking friend instead of me!
Q. A friend of mine is the total opposite of me. He is 6'2 with blond hair and has stunning looks and he works out. I'm 5'8, work out and play sports, but don't look stunning like he does. I've been told I am handsome by older family and that is it. ...
A. 19 November 2012: And btw, my boyfriend is a nice guy and super sexy as well, yet was a virgin until he was 24 and didn't think anyone would be interested in him. He thought all the girls went for his "good looking" friends, who in reality are.. well, fat and below ... (read in full...)
All the girls go for my good looking friend instead of me!
Q. A friend of mine is the total opposite of me. He is 6'2 with blond hair and has stunning looks and he works out. I'm 5'8, work out and play sports, but don't look stunning like he does. I've been told I am handsome by older family and that is it. ...
A. 19 November 2012: At 19 you really haven't lived long enough for the phrase "all my life" to bear any meaning. "All your life" in this context is a matter of 3-4 years. I didn't have my first boyfriend until I was 18, but I didn't go around saying "Men have ignored ... (read in full...)
What is wrong with people these days? They say I look like some-one that I don't look like.
Q. people say i look like sheldon's girlfriend from the big bang theory. i do have thick stright hair and glasses but i don't think i look as ugly as her, i have long straight hair (some people say it looks silky) i have some reading glasses, no ...
A. 18 November 2012: I think it's like when people say I look like my mother. They don't mean to say I look twice my age, you know. We aren't the same heigh, don't have the same haircolour, don't have the same body (she's given birth to two children after all). What ... (read in full...)
All the girls go for my good looking friend instead of me!
Q. A friend of mine is the total opposite of me. He is 6'2 with blond hair and has stunning looks and he works out. I'm 5'8, work out and play sports, but don't look stunning like he does. I've been told I am handsome by older family and that is it. ...
A. 16 November 2012: You're not a car. As people mature they stop thinking of humans as objects. That's my response to your follow-up. Give it a few years, and you will mature as well and stop seeing yourself as a second class car, and instead see yourself as the unique ... (read in full...)
GIrls: Do you like hairy guys?
Q. Hi This question is for mostly for girls. Do you find attractive "hairy men"(hope you understand), who has hair in chest,back and legs,or maybe you will dump them.Also do you think guys with classic beard are attractive, even I think this depen...
A. 15 November 2012: This varies so much. I welcome a "hairy" man, but I would not like a hairy back. However he can have hair everywhere else and I think it's just great. I love facial hair. But I don't know any other women who do, everyone I've talked to about this ... (read in full...)
What is wrong with people these days? They say I look like some-one that I don't look like.
Q. people say i look like sheldon's girlfriend from the big bang theory. i do have thick stright hair and glasses but i don't think i look as ugly as her, i have long straight hair (some people say it looks silky) i have some reading glasses, no ...
A. 15 November 2012: http://www.entertaintrain.com/files/2012/08/mayim-bialik-sierra-club.jpg... (read in full...)
What is wrong with people these days? They say I look like some-one that I don't look like.
Q. people say i look like sheldon's girlfriend from the big bang theory. i do have thick stright hair and glasses but i don't think i look as ugly as her, i have long straight hair (some people say it looks silky) i have some reading glasses, no ...
A. 15 November 2012: Btw, I saw "Sheldon" in a British costume drama not too long ago... It was hilarious, but he really is good looking as well. It's all in the acting, and he's a good actor. ... (read in full...)
What is wrong with people these days? They say I look like some-one that I don't look like.
Q. people say i look like sheldon's girlfriend from the big bang theory. i do have thick stright hair and glasses but i don't think i look as ugly as her, i have long straight hair (some people say it looks silky) i have some reading glasses, no ...
A. 15 November 2012: Amy from Big Bang theory is actually pretty. Uhm, they just make her hunch over and have a frown on her face, and they have make-up on her to not enhance any female features, lol.
But if you saw the episode where she and Leonard went to a weddin... (read in full...)
All the girls go for my good looking friend instead of me!
Q. A friend of mine is the total opposite of me. He is 6'2 with blond hair and has stunning looks and he works out. I'm 5'8, work out and play sports, but don't look stunning like he does. I've been told I am handsome by older family and that is it. ...
A. 15 November 2012: You don't need to be "better" than him. It is not a competition. Give it another 2-3 years and you'll have a good nose for your own type of girls, the girls that will solely go for guys like you, while ignoring guys like him. They exist. But you ... (read in full...)
I've only ever had sex with prostitutes. Should I continue or try having a relationship? And should I keep my past secret?
Q. Hello, I have been using prostitutes for about 4 years. I lost my virginity to a prostitute and ever since I only had sex with "working girls". The reason I do this is that it is so much simpler than picking-up women and far more straight...
A. 15 November 2012: Doesn't seem to me like these "sluts" in bars were trying to hide the fact that they wanted to sleep with you. So your real conflicting idea is that you think women actually pretend to not want sex when they clearly show you they do?
If you find... (read in full...)
Why do involved guys send texts to other girls?
Q. My boyfriend has been sending dirty texts to other girls and he knows that I know. Why do guys send dirty message to other girls if they're in a relationship?...
A. 15 November 2012: Guys in general do not do this, sorry. This is your boyfriend specifically who is doing this, not guys in general. So the question is, why does your boyfriend do this? Why can't he stay faithful? Why does he not respect you?
The answers to these... (read in full...)
I get sick when I give blowjobs and swallow but husband wants me to do it!
Q. My husband wanted me to try swallowing when i give him a blowjob. Ive tried before but the thought makes me feel really sick and when i tried it i was sick which was pretty embarrasing/horrible. Its nothing personal to my husband its just not ...
A. 15 November 2012: The thought makes you sick? So you never actually tried it? Is it the taste you dislike? Have you tried taking it in your mouth, and then spit it out?
I don't understand the part where you say you tried, but were sick. Were you sick when you trie... (read in full...)
How old were you the first time you had sex? How was it?
Q. Hello I'm curious to know in what age you had first time sex(intercourse), and how was it?...
A. 14 November 2012: I had just turned 17. Age of consent in Norway is 16, so perfectly legal.
How was it? It sucked. It was okay, I guess, from what I knew at the time. Later I discovered what sex really should be like, and it was a whole lot different from my first... (read in full...)
How do we tell our parents that my 17 year old girlfriend is pregnant?
Q. I really don't know what to do with this situation. I'm 21, in my last year at undergrad (pursuing my PhD), and have a 17 year old girlfriend back home who, after a very passionate end-of-summer date in August, is now three months pregnant. And she ...
A. 14 November 2012: What are your thoughts about statutory rape? Have you looked into possible consequences there? I would advice you to consult with an adult. Even though you are 21 it is evident that you are not old enough to handle all of this alone. And her being ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend and I have a fight over why I didn't take a shower???
Q. Need some advice on an argument I had with my girlfriend. So a few weeks ago, we were invited to my godson's birthday party. My gf decided she didn't want to go, so I went alone. A couple weeks later, my gf and I go out to brunch, but before we ...
A. 14 November 2012: Did you tell her you didn't shower because you had slept on the couch and didn't sleep much? I'm thinking, your fighting is the cause for why you were on the couch in the first place, right? So this is a merry-go-round: you fight so you sleep on the ... (read in full...)
Teenager finds 50 year olds attractive?
Q. I'm 16 and I find men in their 50's attractive. Is this normal?...
A. 14 November 2012: Are we talking about real live men at 50, or, say men like George Clooney, Brad Pitt or Daniel Craig (close enough)?
If it's the latter, then no worries, totally normal. If it's the first, then you aren't the typical teenager, but each to their... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants to remain a virgin until marriage, but what if she breaks up with me and has sex with the next guy?
Q. my girlfriend and i have been dating a year now, but she still a virgin at the age of 25. we fool around alot and i go down on her and give her alot of orgasms and my finger gets more sex than me and i havn't had sex for over a year. proble...
A. 12 November 2012: What makes you think the "next guy" will get intrecourse from her before marriage? What makes you think there will be a next guy? What makes you think you're not having sex, because sounds to me like you're getting a lot of sex. You're just not ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend proposed! During sex... Thoughts?
Q. my boyfriend proposed to me during sex. he called it making love and he asked me to marry him while his **** was inside me. i said yes but thought the whole time if he was joking and how could he ever think that this was a cool idea of proposin...
A. 11 November 2012: I think you're making a big deal out of it, but in the end, if it is important to you then it should be important to him. If he knew it was important to you, then he should have been more considerate. Then again, you should have said no if the p... (read in full...)
I did something with my boyfriend I wasn't comfortable with because I don't know how to say no. Any advice? What should I have done? How can I say no?
Q. A couple days ago I was hanging out with a couple of my friends, and my boyfriend at school durring lunch. He wispered "I love you" in my ear then lead me out to a secluded place neer the edge of school field. We were just making out, and he went to ...
A. 11 November 2012: You say "no". Have a stern talk with your "boyfriend" again. If he truly is your boyfriend, and not just a guy who is using you for sex, then he will respect your no and NOT beg, or attempt to try it on again after you've said NO.
This action f... (read in full...)
Would I be happier with someone I've known for 15 years rather than my fiance who I've known less that a year?
Q. Please help!! I'm so confused.. I'm engaged, and my fiance and I have had no problems what so ever. We recently became engaged about two months ago, but have only been together about 10 months. Up until last week, I was very happy. An old f...
A. 11 November 2012: What I'm thinking is this. You've known your boyfriend for 10 months. You recently got engaged. So, first off you barely know your boyfriend. Second, you're jumping ahead.
Stay engaged for now, but do not plan a marriage just yet. Wait until th... (read in full...)
Do you think a girl that sleeps with every boyfriend is a whore?
Q. Hi!! The other day I was talking to my mom, and somehow she ended up telling me how she thinks that a girl that sleeps with all of her boyfriends is a whore. She didn't say strangers, or guys you have only known for a week or so, she meant real rel...
A. 11 November 2012: Depends on the lenght of these relationships. Any relationship that hasn't lasted for at least a year is not to be considered a serious relationship.
As for your mother, you need to make up your own opinion on what you believe in, and what you... (read in full...)
I'm very disheartened by my boyfriend's thoughtless birthday gift! Would you be upset?
Q. I wonder if I should be upset? My bday was two days ago. I turned 25, everyone was very lovely to me and I am alive, healthy and happy. On the other hand for my birthday my boyfriend wrote me an email congratulating me. His gift? A lingerie set from ...
A. 10 November 2012: Ah, didn't see your follow-up until after I posted.
"He said he wanted to get me something more personal for US that I will feel sexy in and not a kid's gift or flowers like every year."
I was right about this one, his intentions were ... (read in full...)
I'm very disheartened by my boyfriend's thoughtless birthday gift! Would you be upset?
Q. I wonder if I should be upset? My bday was two days ago. I turned 25, everyone was very lovely to me and I am alive, healthy and happy. On the other hand for my birthday my boyfriend wrote me an email congratulating me. His gift? A lingerie set from ...
A. 10 November 2012: I'll have to tell you to suck it up. I had a boyfriend once who's gift to me was a DVD. How romantic. Typical last minute thing you get at the gas station. At least it was wrapped up. When I was a child my father and aunt would just give me their ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to want an online sex buddy?
Q. Is it wrong that I want an online sex buddy? I'd like to have someone friendly to have regular cybersex/webcam sex with, but is it wrong that I want this? I'm a little unsure....
A. 10 November 2012: As long as you avoid pictures of your face and videos then you should be fine. Sure, it might end up getting distributed, but guy's penises isn't the most interesting thing for other guys to download, and since the majority of people looking at porn ... (read in full...)
I think my friends have ditched me because I'm pregnant
Q. Dear aunts/ uncles. Iv got to be honest im feeling really down the last couple of days. Im 7 months pregnant and I suddenly seem to have lost my friends! I have a loving husband and family so im not on my own but I love a catch up with mates only ...
A. 10 November 2012: You didn't want to argue your case with your friend. You didn't confront your best friend when she said she was too ill to see you, but when you met her at the mall.
Stand up for yourself, that's my suggestion. Take that fight. Friendsh... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to want an online sex buddy?
Q. Is it wrong that I want an online sex buddy? I'd like to have someone friendly to have regular cybersex/webcam sex with, but is it wrong that I want this? I'm a little unsure....
A. 10 November 2012: I assume you mean for cyber sex?
I think it's fine to want an online sex buddy, but why do you ask? It's not like you need permission, is there? If you want it then you do it. Just make sure they're over 18, that's all I can say.
It is l... (read in full...)
Could my boyfriend's past cause him to have horrible dreams?
Q. It may not help that im a social worker my job is to notice this kind of thing but my long term boyfriend has horrendous dreams. These occur probably 60% of the time. He screams and cries and appears so distressed. When hes dreaming he struggles as ...
A. 10 November 2012: Maybe record his cries and outbursts either by sound record or by filming him? Then show it to him the next morning to show him what you have to put up with at night. At this point, it is not only about his health, or your health, but about the ... (read in full...)
My friend and I are jealous of one another. Does that mean anything?
Q. Me and my friend When we don't hang out together and we are texting If I tell her that I'm hanging out with a girl she gets jealous and calls them skanky whores when she hangs with a guy I automatically get pissed and I wanna punch the guy in...
A. 10 November 2012: It sounds like both of you are agressive and territorial. This doesn't mean you like each other. Being agressive and territorial is about not wanting others near "your" ground. You are claiming ownership over each other. But this isn't a loving and ... (read in full...)
I can't stop thinking about my cousin. How can I take things to the next level?
Q. im 24 and my cousin is 37, i cant stop thinking about her. i sent her a dirty text meassage and i said i made a mistake. but she said at first she thought i was drunk lol but then i was sure you sent it to me by mistake. is she interested in me? how ...
A. 9 November 2012: She's not interested in you by the sounds of it. Sorry. If you want to pursue her then you got to do it like you'd pursue any other girl, expect show caution. Many women have restrictions about dating a family member, although this depends entirely ... (read in full...)
My mother went through and cleaned my room without any warning. I feel violated, my dad says "get over it"!
Q. DearCupid Aunts, I need your opinion on something. I came home the other day to find that my mother had gone through my entire room, and cleaned it out. My drawers, all my laundry, several of my purses/backpacks, and private papers, had been...
A. 9 November 2012: Sounds like you and your mother aren't getting along well. She did this to piss you off, that's for sure. She did it because she could. Her house, her rules, you know. As long as you live in her house it isn't "your" room, it is all her rooms, and ... (read in full...)
How do you kiss a girl?
Q. There is this girl that I have been going out with for a while and I haven't kissed her yet. It's not that I don't want to kiss her, it's just that I have never kissed a girl before. People say that it just comes to you, but things like this don't ...
A. 8 November 2012: Keep the lips closed and just press them against hers. Open lips is for the advanced ones. But, always follow suit. If she opens her lips a little, then you can do the same. The kiss doesn't need to last long, maybe just a few seconds. You will ... (read in full...)
Is she only giving me BJ's because she loves me?
Q. Dear Aunts: My girlfriend and i have been together for 5 months. I love to have bj's from her and it turns me so much on when i finish in her mouth,i remain hard and makes me want to f*** her hard right away. We love each other very much, She s...
A. 8 November 2012: Just because she does it differently doesn't mean it's an indication that she doesn't like it. I think I'd be very hurt if my boyfriend tried to convince me I didn't like going down on him because of something I do differently from other girls... Or ... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend have a problem with me wearing hair extensions?
Q. The guy i'm seeing seems to have a problem with me wearing extensions, it's just getting insulting and tiring now! I don't know whether to get them taken out? I got them in a few weeks ago and all my friends compliment me on my hair, even thoug...
A. 8 November 2012: Guys don't hate extensions on other girls. Or even on a one night stand. But yes, I imagine many a guy would dislike them on his girlfriend unless he enjoys her being fake. Which would not be a good sign for your relationship.
Sorry, it's not... (read in full...)
Should I date a guy who gets cold sores?
Q. This is only a quick question but something which is seriously troubling me... Some opinions from you lovely people would be appreciated! There is this guy from work I really like, we really click, if anything was to happen between us I know I w...
A. 8 November 2012: I think if anything is going to happen between you two you should have a talk about this first. Instead of deducting his medical history from a couple of pictures.
Talk to him. If you and him get closer, and things get serious, then talk to him r... (read in full...)
Am I gay? Or bisexual? Or bi-curious?
Q. I've kinda always felt that I may be gay, but I didn't know whether that was just because I looked at guys and wish I had their looks and their body. All through high school, I remember flirting and always being around girls, but never had a ...
A. 8 November 2012: Oh yeah, make it easy on yourself! When you get all confused by labels you start to think you can't do this or that, because you're supposed to be this or that label. But when you are label-free you have no limits. You can do what you want, when you ... (read in full...)
Am I gay? Or bisexual? Or bi-curious?
Q. I've kinda always felt that I may be gay, but I didn't know whether that was just because I looked at guys and wish I had their looks and their body. All through high school, I remember flirting and always being around girls, but never had a ...
A. 8 November 2012: Does it matter?
Just be who you are and do what you want to, rather than label yourself and do what you think you "should" do according to your label.
The only reason you'd have for labelling yourself would be so you had some answer to give o... (read in full...)
Why are some boys unfaithful?
Q. Why do some boys unfaithful? what are they expecting from girls? Is it that SOME of them don't have feelings? I'm sick and tired of searching the right answer.. ...
A. 8 November 2012: Yes, some are without care for other humans. Why do some people steal, lye, kill others? Same question, same answer.
And, no, not only boys cheat. Girls cheat just as much, and for the exact same reasons. ... (read in full...)
Any advice on where to meet guys? Tried hobbies, gym and bars with no success.
Q. I absolutely don't know where to meet guys. At work most of guys are married or involved or much older, plus it's not a good idea to date anyone from work. In Gym where I go to, there is never any interaction. I just work out there 3 times a week a...
A. 8 November 2012: You meet guys through friends. That's the by far most common way to meet new people- through other people. Also, don't be shallow. A "cute guy" can be a dickhead and a "not my type" can be mr. dreamy. If you're picky then it's going to take ... (read in full...)
He's making me choose, him or my dream, what do I do?
Q. Hey there guys/gals. I am in need of help :/ Let me explain: I am 18 and have a boyfriend of a little over a year and known him for about 6 years. We both have dreams and aspirations as many others although he's not very fond of mine. My dream is...
A. 8 November 2012: You don't say he's forcing you to choose. You're said that he didn't like the idea, but rolled along with it even so. That he was CONTENT with it. Content is not the same as opposing it. So far YOU are the only one thinking you will have to choose. ... (read in full...)
I suggested he be tested for STD's before I sleep with him and he took offence...
Q. I am a 23 year old virgin and I'm dating a 24 year old guy,the reason I stressed on being a virgin is that I've waited for the right man to come along and I think he has, and I know it will happen soon.. but now I think he's not the one, cuz he took ...
A. 7 November 2012: Oh yeah, even my (then) virgin boyfriend offered to get tested when we first started dating! So this has NOTHING to do with how many previous partners you've had. ... (read in full...)
I suggested he be tested for STD's before I sleep with him and he took offence...
Q. I am a 23 year old virgin and I'm dating a 24 year old guy,the reason I stressed on being a virgin is that I've waited for the right man to come along and I think he has, and I know it will happen soon.. but now I think he's not the one, cuz he took ...
A. 7 November 2012: If he took offence then he's really immature. When a man loves you he will want you to feel safe and secure, and if an STD test is what will make you feel safe then he will happily take one (or actually, take several, as each STD needs to be tested ... (read in full...)
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