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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2013): I don't think it's normal, unless this 50-year-old guy takes very good care of himself and is really attractive not just as his personality but physically too.I also don't think it would be a good idea to actually date someone so much older than you. Because when you hit your prime, he will be well past his, and you will feel like your life has been held back because he's unable or unwilling to do a lot of things but you still have a lot of life left in you. this is the problem when you try to have a romantic long term relationship with someone of a different generation from you.I think lots of old men want to date young women because it make them feel young again, but that's more to do with their insecurity, which isn't attractive.
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reader, trinity13  +, writes (10 January 2013):
Iwas married to a 17 year old, got married in scotland, we had to split up this december because of the problems with her parents, but its your life do what you think is right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2012): I was (and I still am) the same way. I fell in love with my 52 year old teacher when I was 18. I'm 21 now and I still find men in their 50's more attractive than boys my age (boys are just so immature!) I always thought this was not normal but I there's nothing wrong with it. I think I see the beautiful things in older men such as maturity, wisdom, security, stability, etc. To me, these are the things you need to look for in your partner. I also find men in their 40's and 50's physically attractive. I don't why!
Don't listen to what other people say and don't let other people judge you. I've always been judged for liking older men but I don't care anymore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2012): It is unusual but... hey, if you're not hurting anyone there's nothing wrong with it :)
I'm 40 and my gf is 19. No one - apart from her parents - have anything bad to say about it :)
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (15 November 2012):
 That's the worst case of Daddy syndrome I've ever heard of. Very strange!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2012): Uncommon, yes.
Normal? Well that depends who you ask I guess.
Nobody can help who they find attractive, but, if its a regular occurrence that you find men of such age attractive, then I'd say there's a deeper reason behind this. Like perhaps you lost a grandfather when you were younger and subconsciously you feel comfortable around men that are significantly older than you...
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2012): I've always had a thing for older men and I know it's because my dad died when I was little and it's also why I love facial hair. It's not wrong to think they are attractive but don't try to date men that old now please.
Craig Ferguson, Hugh Laurie both are 20+ years older than me but they are hot! It's all matter of opinion.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (14 November 2012):
 Is this a generic ALL men are attractive or just some?
JUST some is fine.
I'm 52 and I have men from 20 something to 70 something hit on me all the time... I'm cute. I know it.
I find men in their 20s attractive
I find some men in their 70s attractive..
AGE does not have bearing on who is attractive to me...
Now if you ONLY find men in their 50s attractive and you find ALL men in their 50s attractive, then you may have issues that need to be addressed with a counselor...
but one or two men and NOT doing anything about it.. perfectly fine.
and note that just because you find them attractive does not mean that THEY will find you acceptable even after age 18... to be honest at 52 I can find young men (say 25-28) attractive but I slot them as pretty things to look at only... TOO young for "dating"
Age gap relationships are fine but I think that with LARGE gaps of 15 or more years that all parties need to be 30 or older...
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2012): Yes it's perfectly normal. You can't help who you have a sexual attraction for.
It wouldn't be a good idea to act on it just yet though OP, enjoy the fantasy and wait until you're an adult if you want to try it out. Much less of an imbalance and a lot safer for you that way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2012): It is not "normal" but you aren't the only one by a long shot. I used to be that way too but snapped out of it after a very bad experience. (I am 20.) Please don't pursue anything with a 50-year-old right now because if you do, I 99.9% guarantee that he will be using and taking advantage of you, no matter how he swears he isn't, and it will not end well. I found out the hard way. Hope you don't have to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2012): Well there are some older men that are really attractive and get better with age. I like older men but I'm an adult, my boyfriend is 12 years older than me. When I was 16 I wouldn't of thought about men that age though, I don't think it is the norm really but that doesn't make you wierd its just unusual taste. I wouldn't like to think of a man that age with a 16 year old, and I hope men that age don't try it on with you because you're not even an adult. Like the previous poster said bradd pitt, daniel craig and george clooney are hot and that would be normal! But you don't find many 50 year old guys that look like jonny depp everyday.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (14 November 2012):
 Are we talking about real live men at 50, or, say men like George Clooney, Brad Pitt or Daniel Craig (close enough)?
If it's the latter, then no worries, totally normal. If it's the first, then you aren't the typical teenager, but each to their own.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2012): "I'm 16 and I find men in their 50's attractive. Is this normal?"
Is your bio-father present, active and/or involved in your life on an ongoing, continuous basis?
If not, then do you have a step-father, grandfather or other consistent strong male role model present, active and/or involved in your life on an ongoing, continuous basis?
If answers to the above are both "no," then it is not "normal" but an expected and understanable reaction to circumstances beyond your control as it is common for fatherless adolsecent and young adult females to seek to fill the void left by an absent father in ways available to them, generally though crush/attraction/romantic feelings for much older men.
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