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... Send *d206 a private message | | | *d206's profile:Hi, my name is Cat and I'm 22 years old. I live in various cities in the UK since the city where I study and where my family live are different. I'm currently just out of a relationship and enjoying the single life for a while. I don't know that I am qualified to help people but I'd like to try. I've had a lot of experiences in my life and despite being quite young I'm always helping my friends with their problems. I'd like the chance to help all of you too. Feel free to private message me anytime.If you do however, please include some details of your problem as I answer a lot here and can't always remember specific problems. With big hugs, Cat xx |
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I'm shy, have depression and can't pluck up the courage to meet my bf's freinds! Any advice?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend since June (06), and i cannot pluck up the courage to meet his friends. I suffer from depression and i am very shy around new people. We recently moved in together, and out of the blue 4 of his friends turned up one ...
A. 22 January 2007: It's true that meeting your boyfriend's friends is one of the most terrifying things you can go through (apart frm maybe meeting his mum) His friends will judge you and tell your boyfriend what they think but it's the way that he feels that's ... (read in full...)
Lack of female interest has caused lonliness for me and I'm drinking a lot! Any advice?
Q. I'm 24 and I've virtually always been single. The few times I have managed to ask a girl out it has lasted at most a few weeks (clearly they have come to their senses). I also tend to get the "I just wanna be friends" reaction from girls a lot, ...
A. 22 January 2007: Yes. You have rock bottom self confidence. There's so much truth in the saying that nobody can love you until you love yourself. You're also letting a few bad experiences stop you being friends with any girls which means you're missing out. I think ... (read in full...)
I worry he'll stop liking me! How do I stop this pointless stressing and worry?
Q. Hey guys How do i stop myself stressing over something so pointless? The guy i really liked asked me out and we have been going out for three weeks, we get along real well everyone says we are a great couple and im pretty sure he really likes me...
A. 21 January 2007: Sure, it's perfectly natural to be insecure but please try to stop your insecurity ruining the relationship you currently have. I can;t sit here in good faith and tell you he won't stop liking you because maybe he will. Maybe you'll stop liking him, ... (read in full...)
Can you explain some sexual stuff to me..please?
Q. Hi, i feel really stupid and embarrassed asking these but could someone explain what a blow job, hand job, 69er...and anything else like that is? lol thankyou...
A. 21 January 2007: Blow job- using your mouth to stimulate a guy's penis (but don't blow cos that's dangerous)
Hand job- using your hand to stimulate a guy's penis.
69- you give your guy a blow job while he stimulates you. the shape you make together is like... (read in full...)
I am a low priority in her life..is she 'taking me for granted'?
Q. I was in a great relationship for almost two years. I found what I believed to be the perfect woman for me. We discussed engagement seriously. Even though it hasn't happened yet, we were to that point. Once she felt it was a sure thing, she ...
A. 21 January 2007: Are you sure she's not just getting comfortable in the relationship and maybe not trying as hard to imprss you as she once was? Some people when they get engaged spend less time with their partners because they have their whole life to spend ... (read in full...)
Dated men all my life but find I am attracted to females. Why is this happening?
Q. i have been with men all my life but i found myself attracted to a female. why?...
A. 21 January 2007: Well if you believe Freud we're all bisexual. I guess sometimes, at certain periods of your life you feel like you women are a better bet, especially if you've had lots of bad experiences with men. Or maybe it's just a suppressed emotion from your ... (read in full...)
Unrequite love for an ex gf! How do I deal with this?
Q. I'm an 18 year old male, i was with my ex girlfriend for almost 2 years through college and we were deeply in love. We suddenly split up due to university and that her parents disliked me (for traditional values, they had never actually met me). ...
A. 21 January 2007: Go on the date. Often taking the first step to moving on helps a lot. As for more positive steps to getting over that girl, stop going to places where she'll be and set a date in your head when you won't let yourself like her anymore. Sometimes a ... (read in full...)
If a girl fancies you, does that mean that they find you good looking/handsome/sexy?
Q. If a girl fancies tyou, does that mean that they find you good looking/handsome/sexy? Thanks!...
A. 21 January 2007: Yes possibly, or they could be attracted to your personality but it's usually a mix of both.
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Do you think he has feelings for me? Or am I reading into it too much?
Q. I am in love with this guy and I dont have the courage to tell him. Before, I used to be able to call/text him without hesitation, but now i always think twice. Does it mean that I dont have feelings for him anymore, or is it im just too emotionally ...
A. 21 January 2007: Well I do have platonic friends who call me sweetie and hun. Unfortunately the only thing to do here is take a chance and ask him how he feels.
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Why am I attracted to the wrong type of man?
Q. Why am I attracted to the wrong type of man? I've been divorced for 5 years now with 3 kids and working full time in a great job. I'd been with my ex husband for 17 years until he decided the grass was greener on the other side! When we separated ...
A. 21 January 2007: Don't let that attitude get the better of you! It's true that there's a lot of nasty men out there but I've been led to believe there's an occasional good guy too. Maybe you could try looking in some different places for guys or develop a more ... (read in full...)
He's fooling around with my picture..re: sexual poses. What can I do?
Q. Hmm, i suppose i am going to get multiple responses for this but if a lad takes your picture and imports his own picture so it ends up looking like your in a sexual position. does it mean anything? xxx...
A. 21 January 2007: It means he's a perfectly normal guy who's obsessed with sex. As long as he's not planning to put it on the internet or anything!
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She hooks up with guys in front of me! I love her and this annoys me! What can I do?
Q. I have this problem with an ex-girlfriend of mine. We were dating for six months and I fell deeply in love with her. Then one day in May 2006 she just decided to break up with me because I was "chocking" her (not giving her time with her friends, ...
A. 21 January 2007: The thing is, it's not for you to be annoyed anymore if she's your ex. I appreciate she's treated you badly but however you feel about her post break up she's a free agent now and can do whatever she wants.
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My BF broke up with me because an operation might make him lose his testicles!
Q. Hello, My boyfriend made exams and has an inguinal hernia and several cysts and will need surgery where he may loose his testicles and gain Erectile disfunction. He hid everything from me and just broke up with me giving me no reason. Finally he ...
A. 21 January 2007: No, don't believe it's over. I really don't want to sound harsh here but I can't think of another way of putting this across. This is his thing, his problem and his issue. You need to give him the time to work itout by himself and not turn it into ... (read in full...)
Can you get pregnant or catch std from having unprotected anal sex?
Q. Can u gt pregnant or catch sti from havin unprotected anal sex? if u can which ones? are they treatable? Please help xxx...
A. 21 January 2007: You can't get pregnant from anal but you can get most of the STIs you will have heard of, like herpes and aids, both of while are treatable but not curable.
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My sensible friend has gone wild! She wanks off guys, gives a blowjobs! What's up with her?
Q. My friend is 15, and has recently been going out clubbing and to parties alot. She's been kissing random guys and at a recent party she wanked this lad off and gave him a blow job. She's a very sensible girl, and clever and I don't think she'd do ...
A. 21 January 2007: Has something changed in her life to encourage her to change her behaviour? Lots of fifteen year olds do this kind of thing but you said yourself that she's sensible which makes me wonder if something has gone wrong in her life and changed her ... (read in full...)
We can't be together but my bf still loves me! What should I tell him so he can stop loving me?
Q. please help my bf and i have just broken up.i still have feelings 4 him and he tells me he loves me which hurts. we cant be together because i have too much going on in my life. i need advice on how to get him to stop....
A. 21 January 2007: You can't tell him to stop. Tell him you care about him so you're going to give him some space to get over you and then stay out of contact for as long as you can. It's the only way he can get over you.
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My bf trusted me and still--I cheated on him with 2 lads! What should I do?
Q. Hi im 14 years old and have a 17 year old boyfriend. i have being going out with him for a week. Anyway i went to my friends brothers 18th and got drunk, as did everyone their. My bf trusted me and i cheated on him with two different lads. it wasnt ...
A. 21 January 2007: Yes. First thing, don't drink- you're too young to be getting drunk at parties. I fully believe in drinking a bit at home to get used to it before you're 18 but getting drunk as early as you are is destructive behaviour. Secondly ask yourself if ... (read in full...)
He cheated on me with another woman...I took him back. Do you think he's learned his lesson?
Q. I was married for 7 years and then seperated and met a new guy, I have been with him for 4.5 years and have just found out he has been cheating. He met this girl out drinking and they were just texting so he told me. I got her number and then ...
A. 21 January 2007: Well they both have ulterior motives. He might be playing it down to protect you and she might be playing it up so you'll dump him and she can have him. The question is do you honestly believe he's sorry and won't do it again? That's your answer.
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He's been put off sex which has caused me to be more clingy! Any advice?
Q. Hi, Im 17 and me and my boyfriend had unprotected sex last nite. This morning we went to the clinic and got the morning after pill and i had no side effects or problems and im fine. Before my boyfriend ususally goes home in a different town - we...
A. 21 January 2007: Well first of all you only had unprotected sex last night so he's not against sex, just had one day when he didn't feel like it. I think you're worrying about a problem that doesn't yet exist. Don't ask him about it again unless you don't have sex ... (read in full...)
During sex..wife get headaches and feels like she's having a heart attack! What can we do?
Q. my wife feels like she is having a heart attack and gets a severe headache every time she gets really aroused during sex. what can we do? ...
A. 21 January 2007: Headaches close to orgasm are really common and come from the build up in endorphins but the chest pains are slightly more worrying. You should always see a doctor when you have chest pains however minor they are. Get her to a doctor now.
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I'm 21 and married! But My mind tells me I'me too young and missing out! What should I do?
Q. Hi. I am 21, and have been married nearly a year now to the first love of my life, whom I met when I was 15! I have always had eyes for her and only her - until three months ago my mind told me that I was too young and missing out! I have me...
A. 21 January 2007: Stay with your wife. You made the decision to get married and you should now do everything possible to stand by your vows. There will always be temptations, whether you're 21 or 81 but you still have to stick by what you said you would.
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He broke my trust by lying to me! Do I stay or go?
Q. my partner of 4 years has broken my trust buy lying to me.we have a chid together that is 18 months old. i went to visit him last night but couldnt bring myself to spend the night with him even though i wanted to! we have been through a lot but he c...
A. 21 January 2007: It depends on the lie! If it was about something really serious you might need some time to get over it but if it was something small forget it and move on. You have a child together and that child deserves to grow up in a happy and secure family so ... (read in full...)
Bf is concerned that if I get braces-I will look ugly and not be able to give him blowjobs! Any advice for me?
Q. Can I still give a blowjob if I get braces? I'm thinking of getting one, but my bf wouldn't want me to because he says it will make me look ugly and I might not be able to give him blowjobs because it might hurt the both of us. I wonder if I would ...
A. 21 January 2007: Do you need braces? I would advise against them unless you absolutely need them to avoid future problems because they cause a lot of pain. However if you do need them then get them regardless. I can't believe how rude and selfish your boyfriend is ... (read in full...)
Can you be in love at 14?
Q. Can you be in love at 14? ...
A. 21 January 2007: I think when you're 14 you feel like you're in love. Believe me, I certainly did, but it took ages for me to realise that it wasn't love. It was a combination of lust and excitement about having a boyfriend. Then again every fourteen year old is ... (read in full...)
Why on earth did he leave me..just like that? Help me understand?
Q. things were good with me and my bloke hes 22 in im 21 we both fell in love..lately he been having a lot of fights with his parents not sure what they were about but i do know that his mum doesnt like me so it could of been about me...my bf said to ...
A. 21 January 2007: You haven't done anything bad. He's just sick of the hassle with his parents and you. Send him a message and tell him you love him and are willing to give him some space to let things settle and to get in touch when he has. Sounds like he's confused ... (read in full...)
Dating etiquette! When a guys asks you for a date, do you reply immediately or wait?
Q. hey i was just wondering..if a guy you like, like asks you to get together on a date should you say directly yes or wait till next day and say yes? i don't want to sound desperate when this happens in the future. And if he asks one of his friends to ...
A. 21 January 2007: I've always thought asking friends to ask girls out is kinda childish. Tell his friends you like him but you wish he'd talk to you himself. After all, what are you going to do? Do what one of my exes did and bring his best friend along on every ... (read in full...)
His Mother is narcisstic, has OCD and I want to get him away from her! What can I do?
Q. I have a question about relationships with in-laws to be. I would like to marry my BF of 9yrs. I worry about our future relationship with my in-laws. His mother is extreamly minipulative and has Narcissistic personality disorder as well as OCD hoar...
A. 21 January 2007: Do you love this guy? If you do and you both want to get married then do. You're marrying him, not his mother. Moving away is something you have to think carefully about. Even if you do get away his mother is always going to be a part of his life. ... (read in full...)
He was my friend and I told him I liked him. Now he won't talk to me. What can I do?
Q. since i told my crush of a few years that i liked him, he has completely stopped talking to me. is he creeped out? we used to be really good friends - how did this happen? i have to admit that i'm now more comfortable talking to him, as the mutual ...
A. 21 January 2007: You definitely did the right thing in telling him. Apart from anything else not knowing is the worst feeling in the world. He's acted like a total child here and isn't mature enough to be with anyone. It might be sad that you can't chat to him ... (read in full...)
How do I leave my immature bf who doesn't work and lives with his parents?
Q. I live with my boyfriend and his parents. He is 28, never worked a day in his life, does not have a education and is immature. I am 23, I want to go to school and start working again, but I feel held back by him. I do not see a future at all and ...
A. 21 January 2007: Just leave! You're not happy and you have the option to go stay with a friend. There doesn't seem any point staying in a dead relationship.
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We broke up and now he ignores me because I always try to talk to him! Any advice?
Q. Hi, I really like this guy and he used to like me too but didnt want to go out with me, ive tried really hard to move on, but i cant. Now im talking to him more and more but i think it's annoying him and hes becoming more distant. He never replies ...
A. 21 January 2007: He just wants his own space and doesn't want you getting the idea that you might get together. The only real option you have is to accept his need for space and back off. Hopefully in time he might realise he misses you or he might not, but at least ... (read in full...)
My BF broke up with me because an operation might make him lose his testicles!
Q. Hello, My boyfriend made exams and has an inguinal hernia and several cysts and will need surgery where he may loose his testicles and gain Erectile disfunction. He hid everything from me and just broke up with me giving me no reason. Finally he ...
A. 21 January 2007: He's having a really hard time at the moment. I've been in a similar situation. My boyfriend when I was 17 has testicular cancer and broke up with me because he was trying to protect me and himself from the pain. I knew he needed time so I told him ... (read in full...)
He's moving and I will miss him so much! How do I cope?
Q. theres 4 of us and we are all great friends. one of them said that he is leaving to move some where else. that means we wont be able to see each other no more. all of us were really good friends but me and him are closer. what should i do sinc...
A. 21 January 2007: It sounds like he's definitely going but just because you can't see each other every day anymore doesn't mean you can;t stay friends (although I would give him a couple of weeks initially to settle down and make friends in his new town) You'll still ... (read in full...)
His Mom is an alcoholic and he's depressed as a result, causing me to worry! How can I help him?
Q. My boyfriends mum is an alcoholic. She openly drinks in front of others but doesnt think she has a problem and claims that a "few" glasses of wine relax her after work. she can easily have a whole bottle to herself and regularly buys between 4 and 6 ...
A. 21 January 2007: Don't you contact social services. He has to make the decision to get out of this situation himself. What you could do however is suggest that he gets his Dad involved. His Dad has a duty as a parent to protect him and if it's really that bad should ... (read in full...)
I have fallen for my friend, should I take the risk and tell her?
Q. I'm a teenage male who has a lot of mates who just use me. I finally found someone who actually cares about me and I feel strongly about her as well. I have feelings for her and we always joke about things (sexual or otherwise) so i dont know if she ...
A. 21 January 2007: Take a risk and ask her! It won't be awkward if she says no. If it is it'll be you two making it awkward and if her friendship means that much to you you'll be able to snap out of that no problem. The fact is that if you spend your whole life being ... (read in full...)
Violent bf has asked me to come back! How can I stay strong and say no?
Q. I have just split up with my violent boyfriend but he is asking to come back. I told him no but how can I stay strong? We were together for 10 years and we have a son...
A. 21 January 2007: Think of how bad it was last time and think of your son. He has to be your number one priority however you feel about this guy. He needs a safe and happy place to grow up in and I doubt you feel safe or happy with your violent ex.
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She wants to be friends but should I still ask her out on a date for Valentine's Day?
Q. i want to ask this girl i really like out on valentines day. before i went on holiday i asked her out on msn, she said she just wants to be friend's right now. i went on holiday for 4weeks. now i'm back. suprisingly every girl who rejects me never ...
A. 21 January 2007: I think if she'd changed her mind from last time you asked her she'd have changed her behaviour towards you. Is she suddenly touching you more? Talking to you about personal things? If she is she might be trying to show you she likes you now but if ... (read in full...)
Three girls in school I like but I'm not able to take it to the next level..any advice?
Q. Hi, so I've been kinda having this problem for a long time now. This year is my last year in high school and there are three girls that I flirt with in different classes. Now, I'm 100% that they like me by the way they act and talk, but I've never ...
A. 21 January 2007: Why not suggest one of them comes with you to the movies in a group or something? If you have a good time that night ask her if next time she'd like to do something just the two of you.
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Can a girl get pregnant on her period?
Q. Well me and my girl have been together for 18 months and last week on friday 3 days before her period was over i had decided to have unprotected sex with her and wanted to know if you can get preganant while on your period?...
A. 21 January 2007: Yes you can. It's quite unlikely but I know a couple of people it happened to.
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He says he likes me but he stood me up and he ignores me...should I dump him?
Q. Dear cupid ive been going out with this guy for several weeks i fancy him ( a bit )and he says he fancie me however he hardly ever talks to me and theres no physical contact what so ever.hHe manages to talk to my best freind fine .Im not sure ...
A. 21 January 2007: He might just be shy or he might not be into you. Sometimes it's easier to talk to someone's friend that in it to talk to them when you have feelings for them. Ask him straight out if he's interested or not and at least then you'll be able to move ... (read in full...)
I slept with him but havent heard from him since ..why?
Q. i met a guy for a first date.he's 28 and im 25.we got on really well. you could easily tell we we're comfortable with each other, he told my best mate before we met that he wanted a gf.so durring the date we jusy went with the flow, both thinking ...
A. 20 January 2007: He said he wants to be mates to your friend because he didn't want to admit he just used you for sex. Sorry if that sounds harsh but that's what happened here. You're not the first girl its happened to and I'd lay money on you not being the last.
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My girlfriend is going away can i trust her ?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend around 9 months now and we are totally in love. However she has recently decided that she wants to go and work abroad for the summer for around 6 months (shes only 18 so wants to live her life a little which I ...
A. 20 January 2007: There's temptation all around her wherever she is. You seem to have this idea that abroad is full of all these exotic men that are better than you. They aren't. You shouldn't make her try and choose. This could be the best experience of her life and ... (read in full...)
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