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writes:Hi, Im 17 and me and my boyfriend had unprotected sex last nite. This morning we went to the clinic and got the morning after pill and i had no side effects or problems and im fine.Before my boyfriend ususally goes home in a different town - we often have (safe) sex as im not going to see him for another few weeks. But after the traumas of the clinic he understandably didnt want to. But im worried this whole thing had put him off sex and more importantly a relationship with me. Ive been a bit clingy since it happened and have been asking stuff like 'are we ok?', 'you havent been put of sex with me have you...?'My question is how do know whether hes ok about everything without constantly asking, also does anyone know what goes through guys minds when something like this comes up??Any help would be appriciated. Thanks.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (21 January 2007):
 It's normal to be a bit freaked out after something like this, whether you are a girl or a guy. The pair of you should have known better than to have unprotected sex in the first place but I guess you've learnt that lesson now!
I think maybe you feel a bit silly and irrisponsible and this is making you wonder whether he feels you are too. He is always gonna be a bit scared by all this, you know what men can be like when it comes to commitment and babies before they're ready. Maybe it's hit home to him just how easy it is to get carried away and how easy you could get into trouble.
Talk to him. Tell him you feel silly and want to talk this over, it can be a stressful time. Ask him how he feels and once he's told you, stop going on about it and clinging onto him. It will be fine, he maybe just needs a bit of space. I know how you feel but he needs time to think in his 'cave' so give him this. When he comes out he'll be back to normal.
As for you, control yourself next time! Sex is a powerful thing and when it finally hits you just how powerful it can be, it's difficult. Enjoy sex safely in the future until you're ready for all that baby stuff. Don't ruin something so good so soon.
Good luck
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reader, cd206 +, writes (21 January 2007):
 Well first of all you only had unprotected sex last night so he's not against sex, just had one day when he didn't feel like it. I think you're worrying about a problem that doesn't yet exist. Don't ask him about it again unless you don't have sex during a few more of your meetings. Remember maybe he just doesn't feel like it, just like I bet you sometimes don't feel like it. Oh and stock up on condoms or go on the pill so you don't have to take the morning after pill again.
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