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writes:please helpmy bf and i have just broken up.i still have feelings 4 him and he tells me he loves me which hurts.we cant be together because i have too much going on in my life.i need advice on how to get him to stop. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanx 2 every1 i know what to do now
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reader, cd206 +, writes (21 January 2007):
 You can't tell him to stop. Tell him you care about him so you're going to give him some space to get over you and then stay out of contact for as long as you can. It's the only way he can get over you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2007): Tell him that caring for him and wishing him happiness is a good thing and he shouldn't attach himself and his hopes to your well wishes.
There are many forms of love and right now, you are not capable of being what he needs.
I agree that when you have so much going on in your life and you feel having someone to be responsible to when you are treading water would seem overwhelming and would just add to the confusion; that to limit any factors that you can until you get to a comfort zone within yourself and your life is a good idea.
Just tell him you need this from him as a friend and it would be of great help to you.
Make it a rule to not date anyone at this time.
Make sure you get some counselling as well. To have a responsible, reliable, adult who can guide you to making good choices as well as getting you to a stronger mental state and emotional state will do wonders for you now than 10 years from now.
This shows great wisdom and to be humble and say that you need help and set out to get it would be a great asset to you now and years from now.
If he cannot respect your wishes he is not a very good friend and I say that getting parents or a trusted sibling to support you and speak on your behalf would be the next step.
All the Best to you Sweetie.
*hugs*
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