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Satisfied with my relationship but still dream about my ex of 20 years ago!
Q. Last night I had an incredibly intense dream about an ex-boyfriend, and it is still disturbing me many hours later. The dream was so full of LONGING for this person, and in the dream we were figuring out how to leave our current spouses in order to ...
A. 29 January 2007: I'm thinking from the way you describe him that this ex was your first serious boyfriend right? I often wonder myself whether we ever truly get over our first loves. They seem to stay with us in a way that none others do but you said it yourself, ... (read in full...)
I'm 18 and pregnant. Worried I may miscarriage again..how can I prevent that from happening?
Q. I am an 18 year old female who just found out today that i am pregnant.5 months ago i had a miscarriage and I am very frightened it might happen again.Do u have any advice for me far as how to prevent the miscarriage? I know miscarriages happen, but ...
A. 29 January 2007: Hi, congratulations on your pregnancy. Miscarriages are usually tragic random acts and however painful they are it's usually nature's way because there's something wrong with your baby. There's not a great deal you can do to stop it happening again ... (read in full...)
I love my best friend's bf...do you think he likes me?
Q. Okay. I love my best friends boyfriend. Yes. Today we was all out together, Her, her bf, me, my bf. It was great! Then i said to her bf 'HUG ME' cos i scream it all the time lol And he did, but he gripped me so tightly its like he didnt wa...
A. 29 January 2007: Whether he likes you or not I URGE you to think of how upset your best friend would be if you were to kiss her boyfriend. If he had really liked you he'd be going out with you, not her.
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Whenever I go to make love to a woman, I can't get my ex out of my head! I still love her. How do I deal with this?
Q. Hi all. I'm having a hard time getting over my ex; we had a torrid affair for many years until she broke up with me 4 months ago. We've seen each other many times since and had sex on most occasions but I sense that the passion for her is not the ...
A. 29 January 2007: It's not that you're not attracted to other women, it's that you weren't attracted to this particular woman, and perhaps a little that you're not yet over your ex. I'm sure you won't have this problem with your next partner.
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Feeling uncomfortable about the thoughts of first time sex...what should I do?
Q. im 14 and so is my boyfriend. We have been seeing each other for about a week. Im still a virgin bt my boyfriend isnt. Every time i am with him i want to do more than kiss and touch each other but im scared. Hes always tryin to touch me but i feel ...
A. 29 January 2007: First time sex does hurt a bit but not too much. Can I be honest chick? It sounds like you're not ready for sex. When you are worried you won't be scared or uncomfortable anymore. Don't feel pressured into doing anything. You have years ahead of you ... (read in full...)
He wants to meet me but I told him such outrageous, huge lies about myself...how do I deal with this?
Q. hi, i've been speaking to a guy off the internet for almost 2 years, first we text for almost a year then we progressed to talking on the phone, over the past few weeks we've got really close and now this guy wants too meet me, which under normal ...
A. 28 January 2007: You have two choices here.
1. Don't tell him the truth and don't meet him. Write off the entire relationship as a mistake and always tell the truth in future.
2. Tell him the truth and hope he still wants to know you. I think your personality... (read in full...)
Worried about this teacher and my friend. What would a 30 plus year old man, see in a 17 year old girl anyway?
Q. I am concerned about a situation my best friend seems to be getting herself into. There are Three people in this situation: - My Best friend: Who is 17, in 6th form and has a crush on this teacher. - The Teacher: He is in his mid 30’s (...
A. 28 January 2007: Can you try appealing to your friend's moral side? Point out that if anyone finds out about the relationship then the guy will be fired and that maybe she should put it on hold until she's finished school. The thing is that it's actually illegal ... (read in full...)
I love him but having serious doubts about marrying him..what should I do?
Q. im deaply in love with my fiance. we have been together for over 5years. our plans to get married are underway but i am started to get cold feet and have my doubts about becoming his wife. we have our problems like other relationships, but we always ...
A. 28 January 2007: Maybe it would be a good idea to postpone the wedding for a while so that you have time to think.
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She wants to be with me and I want to be with her but her boyfriend found out and beat her up! Should I still go for it?
Q. hi, i have a freind i have only known for about a year, he's 39 (im 21) we met when we started work in the same bar. he started bringing his girlfreind (37) to work on saturday nights and after a few months his girlfreind asked me for my number. i ...
A. 28 January 2007: I think it's for her to decide what to do next. Whatever happens with this guy she's going to need some closure time before she dives headfirst into a new relationship. Let her be your guide.
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I'm having a mid-teen crisis! I want to be his friend but I don't want him to hate me. What should I do?
Q. I am having a mid-teen crisis. I have recently ended a 6 month relationship with this guy that i really liked and i ended it because we never saw each other because we were both really busy, but for the last couple of weeks he had been acting really ...
A. 28 January 2007: To be honest you told him that it was up to him what happened as a result of the letter and he hasn't got in touch which says it all. Write it off and move on. And just for the future letters only really work if someone isn't speaking to you at all. ... (read in full...)
I fancied him then fancied his flatmate and then fancied him again and now fancy his flatmate, yet once again! what can I do?
Q. I dated this guy for 2 weeks and then finished with him as i really fancied his flatmate. I started dating his flatmate and we had a really great time and great sex for three weeks. I still see my ex at least three times a week at uni and it bought ...
A. 28 January 2007: Wow, I'm kind of surprised your boyfriend took you back after you dumped him and went after one of his friends. It seems like you'll lose both of them for good if you dump your boyfriend again to go out with the flatmate. You need to make a decision ... (read in full...)
He fingered me..can I get pregnant?
Q. Dear ANYBODY, I'm really freaked out i am in the prosses fo moving and me and my boyfriend of 8 months new we both wanted to have sex with each other before i left to a city hours away. The whole sex thing was a safe as can be (painful 2) condom i...
A. 28 January 2007: Almost impossible. Sperm can only live at a certain temperature, meaning it could live for quite a while if he had ejaculated into you but if it was on his finger for an hour or so before he fingered you it probably would have died by then. However ... (read in full...)
After we had sex--I found out he injects heroin! Can I get HIV from him?
Q. hi ppl.this is a really serious question. I have just split with my boyfriend and yesterday i found out that while i was with him he was on heroine, and in fact has been injecting for 12 months. I had no idea about this!!anyway i had sex with him, ...
A. 28 January 2007: Okay first of all try not to panic and get a HIV test straight away. When they give you the test they offer you counselling. It's unlikely that you'll have caught HIV from one time sex with the guy but even if you have it's very important to ... (read in full...)
I'm struggling to tell my family and friends that I am bi...should I or shouldn't I?
Q. Hey, i'm struggling to tell my family and friends that i'm bi. Should i or shouldn't i tell them? and if so how? i know the consequences of me "coming out" to them but it feels wrong lying. What do i do?...
A. 28 January 2007: No problem little_miss. I hope that if you decide to tell them that it all works out okay for you. Just know that however they react, all they really want is for you to be happy.
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When is the right time to arrange a second date with someone you like?
Q. i went on date with this girl i met once before. all went well. i really wanna see her again soon but when is the right time to phone or arrange date? also when is it right to tell her i love her? how do i know if she does? any signs to pick up?...
A. 28 January 2007: Ask her about the second date as soon as you like but as for the big L, slow it down. You don't love her after one date, you just like her a lot. If you tell her you love her now you'll scare her off.
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I can't go be with him in London and he can't come to me. Will we make this work or not?
Q. me and my boyfriend have been in a long distance relationship for 1yr and nearly 6months. weve been very happy and have always spoke about our future. we was planning to move in together within the next year or two and also start a family but ...
A. 28 January 2007: It seems to me that if he really loved you he'd be willing to make the move. I'm really sorry but it sounds to me like he's looking for an out. I know you probably won't want to hear this but in a way your parents are right that you're too young to ... (read in full...)
She has a lot on her plate and we broke up! I still want her-should I keep contacting her?
Q. I'm very very sad and heartbroken. My girlfriend broke up with me 1 week ago. She said her reasons were that she couldn't handle the stress of the arguments we have in our relationship because she has alot on her plate right now. She's grievei...
A. 28 January 2007: You haven't blown your chances at all. I think you need to put her first for now though. Her reasons for breaking up have NOTHING to do with you and everything to do with her. She needs support and understanding right now, not someone pestering her ... (read in full...)
Giving my wayward cousin advice about her messed up life has got me thinking---am I a hypocrite? Any advice?
Q. Dear Cupid I have a cousin named Dee..she's 2 years older than me (28) and she has always bounced from place to place..but first let me give you some background.. :) She quit school 3 weeks before graduation and ran off to marry her BF, after r...
A. 28 January 2007: We're all hypocrites to a certain extent. I've often found myself giving advice on this site knowing that in the asker's position I'd probably do the opposite of what I'm advising. I think your feet are more firmly on the ground than your cousin. I ... (read in full...)
He is a severe diabetic! What lies ahead for us in this relationship?
Q. i am having doubts about a long term relationship with my boyfriend. I love him so much but he is a bad diabetic. I am afraid of what is ahead for us and his illness and if i can cope with it....
A. 28 January 2007: Diabetes is totally treatable. I don't think it's a good reason not to be with someone. Do your research and you'll probably feel better about it.
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I've spent 3 hours talking to her but now I think I love her. How do I tell her and how do I know if she likes me?
Q. i went on a date with a girl for dinner. we spent about 3hours together talkin. at the end her brother came to pick her up in a car so she had to go quickly so she just said bye. she texted me when she got home thanking me for the dinner as i paid. ...
A. 27 January 2007: DON'T tell her you love her. It's too soon. Ask her if she would like to go to dinner again before valentines day and then you can bring up her plans for the actual day and ask her if she wants to do something.
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I'm 15 and self conscious about my 32AA boobs. I envy other girls with bigger boobs. What can I do?
Q. I'm 15, and have very small boobs, only a 32AA. I get so depressed when I see my friends and they've got lovely, B, C and bigger cups. I envy them so much I get obsessed and stare at them because I dont know how it feels to have big boobs. It's ...
A. 27 January 2007: At fifteen your boobs still have a couple of years before theyre fully grown and it's totally natural to have one bigger than the other. The freaks are the girls who have two exactly the same size. Don't worry about taking your top off in front of ... (read in full...)
I need tips on 'French-kissing.' I have no idea how to do it!
Q. hello me and my boyfriend have been together for a month now and i think im ready to kiss him (i mean with tongues). how far am i ment to put my tongue in his mouth? do i just put the tip of my tongue on his or do i put it fully in? thanks for the...
A. 27 January 2007: French kissing just comes naturally to be honest. The first few times you do it, especially if you're both inexperienced you'll be covered in saliva which is kinda vile. If you're unsure start by putting just the tip in. There's no right way to ... (read in full...)
Do you think its weird for a 32 year old man to be going out with a 24 year old woman?
Q. Hi there...do you think its weird for a 32 year old man to be going out with a 24 year old woman?...
A. 27 January 2007: Absolutely not. You're both adults. If you were 10 and he was 18 it might be different but you're both grown ups now. Go for it.
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He's no good for me and I need to break out of this cycle...how do I do this?
Q. What should you do if you know that you shouldn't get involved with a guy because you have been there too many times before and he has treated you badly, but for some reason you just can't help yourself? If you see him everyday, and are friends ...
A. 27 January 2007: I know how this hard is. I was obsessed with a guy who did nothing but hurt me and enjoyed the power he had over me. At the end of the day there's only one thing you can do and that's use willpower to tell yourself you don't like him. A little ... (read in full...)
He's the sweetest guy but he's a zero in bed! Should I stay or go?
Q. I am in relationship 15 months with great guy i really love, but in bed he is zero. he is sweetest thing in the world and i can't tell him about this problem or even leave him.i feel that i could cheat, but i don't want it would be humiliating.what ...
A. 27 January 2007: When you say he's zero do you mean completely beyond hope or just can't please you because you can train him to please you by showing him how you like things done. Maybe suggest that to improve your sex life you have a night where you concentrate on ... (read in full...)
I'm struggling to tell my family and friends that I am bi...should I or shouldn't I?
Q. Hey, i'm struggling to tell my family and friends that i'm bi. Should i or shouldn't i tell them? and if so how? i know the consequences of me "coming out" to them but it feels wrong lying. What do i do?...
A. 27 January 2007: It's not really any of their business whether you're straight, gay or bi but if you want to be honest with them then that's completely understandable. Just be straightforward with them. If you're nervous about them making a scene maybe do it in a ... (read in full...)
He doesn'r know I like him but if I date him-would if he doesn't like having sex with me!
Q. i am confused i am in love with an older guy only by 2 years about i am 16 and he is 18 or 19 and he doesn't know i like him yet as i don't know how to tell him and i am in fear of rejection but i am even more scared that if i tell him and he likes ...
A. 27 January 2007: Okay, okay. First thing you find out if he likes you. You're worrying about the hypotheticals.
Second, say he did like you... do you think you're honestly ready to have sex? You sound too anxious about it to be ready. If you are ready and you do h... (read in full...)
How do you hold hands and kiss a girl?
Q. how do you hold hands with a girl? kiss a girl? it just seems impossible. whenever we together etc shall i make the first move?...
A. 27 January 2007: It's not necessarily up to you to make the first move. After all we live in the 21st century but... it seems to be you who wants to do these things. Start with the hand holding and the kissing will come in time.
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Why has my lovely wife lost the same passion, I feel for her? Please help me understand?
Q. I have a wonderful wife and relationship with her... Yet over the past several years she has lost her desire for sex.... Even though we are both intimate and sexually satisified when we make love..... She has seemed to have lost her desire for sex....
A. 27 January 2007: Possibly she's about to or currently going through the menopause. This kills a lot of womens' sex drives.
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I am thinking of working a "sex chat' job..will my bf think worse of me if I do this?
Q. Hi I just want some advice. I'm very much in love with my partner and I would never do anything to break or harm the trust that we have for eachother. I've been thinking recently about getting a part time job to help us get by a little easier, but ...
A. 27 January 2007: Can you try and bring it up in conversation randomly? Like "You know my friend X, well she's just started working on a sex chat hotline." Gauge his reaction. If he's against it then you have your answer but if he seems neutral or interested tell him ... (read in full...)
Friend suggest some pills to help me relax during lovemaking with my bf. What do you all think?
Q. Hi I've written in before, ive recently been trying to have sex with my bf of nearly a year we love each other lots im a virgin and im terrified of the pain and as soon as he tries to go 'down there' even with his finger i panic and tense up and no ...
A. 27 January 2007: Do you think your body is trying to tell you you're not ready? I know you psychologically want to get rid of it but your isn't playing ball. I'm not familiar with aconite and I'm kind of of the opinion that herbal drugs work mainly because you ... (read in full...)
After 3 kids, my body isn't what it used to be and hubby is not as attracted me! What can I do?
Q. I have recently had my third child...and unfortunately my body will never be the same as it was before kids. I have worked out hard and lost all the excess pregnancy weight but still have scars and sags that my doctor says are 'just part of being a ...
A. 27 January 2007: Yep your doctor is right. You need to accept it and so does your husband. To be honest I find it awful that he would say to you that he finds you less attractive now after you've given him three beautiful children. Your doctor has told you that ... (read in full...)
For my b'day, my bf had wine and cake for me but no present! Am I expecting too much?
Q. OK, i was just wondering on peoples opinions on this. It was my birthday a couple of days ago, had a lovely evening with my mates but then I got a bit disappointed. My boyfriend bought a bottle of wine and birthday cake, but no present for me. ...
A. 27 January 2007: I think it's natural to be a bit upset about this. After all most girls wonder for ages what their boyfriend is going to get them and imagine showing off about it to their friends etc. As for not wrapping the present that's just a guy thing, they ... (read in full...)
At school, my gf pretends we aren't going out...why does she do this?
Q. hi i have a girlfriend but she doesn't hug me or anything and pretends that we are not going out wen we are at school plz help...
A. 27 January 2007: It's impossible to tell why she's doing this. Maybe she's not mature enough to have a boyfriend, or she's embarassed for her friends to know or maybe one of her friends likes you and she doesn't want to hurt her. Whatever reason it is remember ... (read in full...)
I go to an all girls school..but I want to meet guys! Any tips?
Q. Its holidays right now and i'm really nervous about going back to school because its a girls only school...i want to meet guys but i'm afraid that since i'll be in this new school for 5 years when i get out i won't have any social experience at ...
A. 27 January 2007: Hi, trust me, you won't be far behind girls who have gone to co-ed schools. Guys are confusing. No girl has them figured out by the time she's left school. I can understand you wanting to meet guys though and you're right that strangers are not the ... (read in full...)
My OCD makes me feel I have to tell my bf personal, weird things about myself..what should I do?
Q. I know it might sound like this is a joke but i really am not joking. I have OCD so i obsess over things and think he has to know every thing about me but more the bad and that is probably because my ex made me tell him everything but anyways, you ...
A. 27 January 2007: Get a little book and every time you have a thought that you know you shouldn't repeat write it down. Hopefully you'll then feel you've got it off your chest without having to say it out loud.
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Do girls masturbate as much as us guys do?
Q. i am 15 year old boy and at school all the boys talk about them w**king all the time, but it seems that girls dont and never have done, is this true....
A. 27 January 2007: Girls talk about it less but yes of course we still masturbate. I wouldn't know if we do it as much as the average teenaged boy though. I'm guessing probably not, but rest assured 90% of the girls you know masturbate at some time or other.
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He loves BJ's and I hate giving them! How do I tell him without losing him?
Q. hi iam 35 and waited my whole life to meet a man like this,that treats me like gold,only problem is he loves blow jobs and i hate it so much,how do i explain to him with out loosing him....
A. 27 January 2007: I think it comes down to compromise. Obviously you should never do anything you're uncomfortable with sexually but what is it about blow jobs you don't like? Swallowing? If it's that don't feel like you have to. Keep a tissue nearby and spit it out ... (read in full...)
Stopped using the pill, periods are late but pregnancy are negative! Any advice?
Q. I stopped using the contraceptive pill (microgynon 30) about 4 months ago. My periods have been a couple of days late every month since i stopped using it, this month its still not here and its more than a week late! I've done a pregnancy test and ...
A. 27 January 2007: When I stopped taking the pill first time round I didn't have a period for two months and then they were irregular for the next six months or so. It's just your body reacting to the change. Nothing to worry about while the pregnancy test is negative ... (read in full...)
He lives 200 km from me..any point in continuing this relationship?
Q. Hi really confused 19yr old. Met a boy new years eve (friend of an old friend) we kissed the whole night. Since then we spend most days talking and flirting online. But he lives 200km away in another city, is there any point in continuing it? thanks ...
A. 27 January 2007: Long distance relationships are HARD, especially when you first start out. However, they can be fantastic if you stick with them so I guess a lot depends on how much you like this guy.
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He still talks to his ex and is now just getting a divorce. Should I end it?
Q. I need some help. I have been dating this guy for about 2 months now. He still talks to his ex almost everyday and he wants me to meet her. He just now is trying to get a divorce because he has been putting it off for so long. why is that? And also ...
A. 27 January 2007: He's probably been putting off the divorce because before he met you, he couldn't accept that that part of his life was over. This doesn't mean he didn't want to move on, just couldn't imagine doing so until he fell for you. I don't think you have ... (read in full...)
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