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Someone keeps hacking into her internet account and she thinks it's me! But I'd NEVER do that! How do I convince her without looking guilty?
Q. i need some advice. someone keeps trying to hack into my friend's internet accounts and i think she thinks it's me. It's the way she says things like "well the person hacking in must be a close friend because they have my password, know when I'm ...
A. 31 January 2007: Why not tell her to change her password and not to tell you what it is? Tell her that it's not you hacking but that by changing her password she'll be able to stop whoever it is. By suggesting this you're showing her you care that this is resolved ... (read in full...)
I love him but I think he's ashamed of me!
Q. Hi, this is kind of embarassing. I have been with my boyfriend for over 3 years, and he hasnt introduced me to any of his friends (he says he hardly sees them because he spends all his free time with me, which could be true). He also never includes ...
A. 31 January 2007: Okay, let's deal with the friends issue first. Remember that there's every chance he's being truthful to you and that he may well just not have many friends left. Or it might not be about him being embarassed about you, it might be that he's had a ... (read in full...)
How could I get him to go down on me?
Q. any ideas on how to get him to go down on me? He never has once in 3 years.......
A. 31 January 2007: Guys say they don't like that but to be perfectly honest with you I don't much enjoy going down on guys either. Why not tell him that you're sick of it being a one way street and that until he starts showing you the same consideration, no more blow ... (read in full...)
If neither of us feel ready for sex, does that mean we don't love eachother?
Q. Hello all! I have bit of a problem, and was wondering if anyone had any advice. You see, I'm going out with someone, my first boyfriend, and I don't know what I'm supposed to be feeling anything. We've been going out for about 6 months but known ...
A. 31 January 2007: No. If you're in a long distance relationship then even though youve been together 6 months, when you count up the number of days you've actually been together it'll work out as way less than that. Maybe if you lived close by and saw each other all ... (read in full...)
I'm having 'pre-threesome-nerves!' I'm scared he might enjoy it too much!
Q. hi there this may sound extreme to some of you but i want some practical advise. me and my partner are planning a threesome with another male and i want my partner who is also male to be fully envolved which he wants to be and this is his first time ...
A. 30 January 2007: Unfortunately it's the risk you take with a threesome. I'm not going to tell you not to do it because like you said you're an adult and you're doing it in privacy but I would suggest that if you're feeling insecure before the deed that you're ... (read in full...)
Help! I'm stuck in a love triangle! Does he really love me, or should I ignore him?
Q. Okay right.Yeah i love my boyfriend but I also love my boyfriend's best mate who is going out with my best mate. But i think he (my boyfriend's best mate) loves me also. But anyway, my best mate's BROTHER has now tried to be secretive. Texting me ...
A. 30 January 2007: Do you really love your boyfriend? I think if you did you wouldn't even be contemplating being with anyone else. As for the other guys who are telling you they love you, no offence intended, but they don't. You can't love someone so immediately. ... (read in full...)
I took the 'morning-after-pill' but it's been a while and my period still hasn't arrived! I'm beginning to worry!
Q. My last period started on Dec 23rd. My boyfriend and I use a condom and had one split on us over New Year weekend. I took the levonelle morning after pill within 16 hrs and about 10 days later I had some spotting for 4 days, it wasn't heavy enough ...
A. 30 January 2007: When you got the morning after pill, whether you got it from the pharmacist or the doctor they should have told you that levonelle often delays your next period. I'm no expert as I only have an over the counter medicines certificate but I think I ... (read in full...)
My gf wants to return to her homeland far away...how do I convince her I love her and want her to stay?
Q. My girlfriend loves me very much, but wants to return to her homeland which is across the other side of the world. how do i convince her that i have true love for her and want to spend the rest of my life with her. at the moment she cannot see me ...
A. 30 January 2007: Absolutely! I was doing TEFL last year and I found it a fantastic experience. We're in a great position speaking English because we'll always be in demand to teach it. The culture may be different but really you get used to it. I was in Spain and at ... (read in full...)
I like older guys! Do I have a 'daddy complex?"
Q. Hi, this is probably going to sound ridiculous but here goes. I’m currently dating a guy who is 8 years older than me (I’m 19). I know it’s a huge difference but that’s not necessarily what my question is about because our relationship is working ...
A. 30 January 2007: Your friends are just jealous that they can't get an older man. Eight years is nothing once you get to your age. Don't sweat it.
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Would it be horrible to break up with him by text messaging while he is in Florida for a vacation?
Q. I had a hard time breaking up with my fiance last week, and felt guilty and gave in and stayed with him. Would it be horrible to break up with him by text messaging while he is in Florida for two months for vacation? I feel like that's the only way ...
A. 30 January 2007: As someone who's been dumped by text message don't do it. It's cruel and heartless.
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Why is she acting normal in person, but blocks me from talking to her online?
Q. I've been attracted to a girl at my school for a little while. Last semester, her and I talked a lot online, and they were fun conversations (a couple of which lasted over 2 hours, and it was nonstop back and forth between the two of us...). In ...
A. 30 January 2007: Personally, when I like someone (as in REALLY like them) I hate chatting to them online. It seems so impersonal and silly. In person or on the phone is so much better. Why not call her when you feel like a chat? It requires more effort but is so ... (read in full...)
This 42 year old guy needs a place to stay-his wife kicked him out-he's hot-should I let him stay with me?
Q. Ok this might sound kinda weird but stick with me. I'm almost 18 (one more month!) and I'm a freshman in college. My room mate is like never here. Basically she's living with her boyfriend but the college thinks she lives in the dorm. ANYWAY im...
A. 30 January 2007: Personally I think this guy sounds like trouble. It must be against the rules of your dorm to have guests to stay for long periods of time, plus your room mate might break up with her boyfriend and want her room back, the room she or her parents are ... (read in full...)
What's the difference between 'friends with benefits' and 'lovers'?
Q. Silly question? I Have seen the term "friends with benefits" being used quite regularly on this site. Can anyone tell me what is the difference between FWB's and lovers?...
A. 30 January 2007: Friends with benefits are friends who have sex but no semblance of a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. Lovers often have a relationship also or are connected to the idea of an extramarital affair.
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He accused me of flirting online when I did no such thing! Is he trying to find an excuse to bail?
Q. i am very confused about my current relationship. my partner of 3 years has become very distant and more secretive over the last few months,today he asked me if i still wanted him, i was pretty shocked by this as i havent given him any reason to ...
A. 30 January 2007: His trust in you has been dented by this anonymous text message but you have to make him see that there's no way you're with anyone else. Ask him to trust you and give it some time and see what happens. If he is using it as an out and you ask him to ... (read in full...)
My gf doesn't want to talk much to me and I like contacting her at least 2 times per day. What should I do?
Q. ok, so me and my girlfriend are back together, thanks to all those who answered. the idea of a break instead of a break up worked out better for her. but now i have another problem. this has been going on for about 3 weeks. she never wants to talk ...
A. 30 January 2007: Maybe she just doesn't have enough to say to you twice a day. Twice seems a little excessive to me. Can't you settle for once a day and a text at say lunchtime to see how her day is going?
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Is a piece of very expensive clothing, a much too personal to give someone else's husband?
Q. I am married to a very handsome and successful man. A neighbor, newly single, gave us gifts at Christmas that were larger than I expected. They gifts for me were items for the house (the price stickers were highlighted so I suspect that they were ...
A. 30 January 2007: I think she was trying to be generous with the gifts. Men are incredibly hard to buy for if you don't know them well and she probably felt she was being thoughtful by giving him a shirt with his car on it. And really even if this woman is totally in ... (read in full...)
My gf wants to return to her homeland far away...how do I convince her I love her and want her to stay?
Q. My girlfriend loves me very much, but wants to return to her homeland which is across the other side of the world. how do i convince her that i have true love for her and want to spend the rest of my life with her. at the moment she cannot see me ...
A. 29 January 2007: Would you consider moving to her homeland? That'd be a gesture that would show her how much you love her and really, if she's been prepared to stay with you here for so long then maybe it's your turn to show you feel as strongly by going to her ... (read in full...)
I ended the relationship but regret it now...how do I get him back?
Q. I ended a 6 month relationship by text and his reply was just ok, there is a great physical attraction on both sides but we have both been holding back emotionally. im now sorry i did what i did how do i get him back at least for us to talk?...
A. 29 January 2007: Ask him out for a drink or something and talk it all out. Maybe he'll take you back and maybe he won't but it's worth a try. And in the future don't dump someone by text or email. As the dumpee in both of these situations it hurts much more than ... (read in full...)
Whenever we want to do it, she says she's on her period! Is a period really every 3 weeks? I feel our sex life is lacking.
Q. Ive been with my g/f for 3 months now(but we've known each other for about a year)and we've only had sex a couple of times(4 in total). It'll be wks in between each time. She keeps coming up with reasons not to, the most common of which is her time ...
A. 29 January 2007: Some unlucky girls do have periods every three weeks. The average is every 28 days which suggests that many girls must hae period lasting less than 28 days. Talk to her. Maybe there's something putting her off sex that you don't know about.
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When I got w/ her, I ditched my mates. Now we've split and all my old mates have new lives. I'm so lonely!
Q. Hi, i know this is kind of not in the same catagory of relationship but i don't really know what to do. I split up from my 2yr g.f about a month ago and well the thing is, when i got with her i ditched my mates which was the worst thing i could do! ...
A. 29 January 2007: This is the biggest danger when you're in a relationship. Start doing some different things and meet new people. It's not impossible, just difficult and remember in your next relationship that you should NEVER DITCH YOUR MATES!
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In order to support my kids, I have to work out of town. They hate me for this and only email when they need money. I'm hurting so much!
Q. im far away from my 2 kids, i love them dearly but i got no choice to be far from them, i have to work to support them for what they needs. the problem is they are now growing from my parents, and they hated me being far from them they dont even ...
A. 29 January 2007: Don't take this the wrong way but when your kids grow up do you think they're going to think we were lucky growing up because we had everything we needed or are they going to think our mom wrecked our lives by not being there when we were growing ... (read in full...)
I'm scared for my friend who has casual sex with any age guy who asks her. She's only 15!!
Q. hi i have a problem its my friend she is well seeing this guy who is 28 years old and engaged and well she knows this and she is only 15 yrs old and shes having sex with him and many others ever since she turned 15 she has being having sex with who ...
A. 29 January 2007: There's very little you can do to stop your mate having sex, save telling her mum which would probably backfire badly on you. I think your priority in this situation has to be persuading her to have safe sex and make sure she's aware of the possible ... (read in full...)
My friend is being negative about everything and eating less since her break up. How can I help her?
Q. Hi there! This is more for my best friend from school who has recently been dumped by her bf. She seems to be doing better, but I'm still worried. She had been dating this guy since the beginning of the school year in September, so she really liked ...
A. 29 January 2007: Breaking up is what you make of it. Don't get me wrong, it's not a nice experience, but you have a choice, whether to wallow in it and let it overtake you or to make a clear decision that it's ok to be sad but not to let it ruin your life. So don't ... (read in full...)
Is the pill free? Is it okay to stop taking it for a while and then start up again?
Q. Do you have to pay for the pill? And is it ok to say, take it for a while, stop for a month and then start taking it again? ...
A. 29 January 2007: No, the pill is free. What do you mean by is it okay to stop? Do you mean you stop and are still protected? It has to be taken continuously (apart from your seven day break) to work properly.
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If I have sex w/ my ex, will that ruin our chances of having a relationship in the future?
Q. I spilt up with my ex in November as he was working long hours and has a child (genuine reasons and nothing between him and ex)he doesn't have the time to commit to anything else at the mo. He said that its not me, and he would ask me out again in ...
A. 29 January 2007: I'm really sorry but it sounds like what he's saying is that he doesn't want to be with you but he still wants all the benefits of going out with you. I think giving him sex would be a total mistake on your part unless you can totally separate it ... (read in full...)
How do I become a bad boy but still maintain my good guy qualities?
Q. How do I become the "bad boy" that women seem to love? I am that steriotypical nice guy that all the girls say they dream about, but in reality they will probably never be with. I am romantic, considerate affectionate and all those traits, but I gu...
A. 29 January 2007: Girls always go for the good guys in the end. I wish I knew you, I can tell you that. So sick of the bad boy thing. All girls get over it in the end. While I reckon that your good qualities are all things to be proud of, maybe theyre making you come ... (read in full...)
My rich parents think it's rude that my unemployed bf doesn't offer to take them out to eat.
Q. My parents were telling me they think my boyfriend should offer to pay for dining out sometimes. They expect him to treat my entire family out. I don't know how to tell him without him thinking how petty my parents are. He is very polite and thanks ...
A. 29 January 2007: The way I see it you have three options.
1. Tell your parents that you understand their opinion but that your boyfriend is currently unemployed and can't afford to treat the family but you're sure that he will when he's in a more financia... (read in full...)
She's married and I slept with her.. I have strong feelings-what do I do now?
Q. I've known this woman for a couple of years and we've always been attracted to each other,but she's married. And i regret to say we have slept together. I still have strong feelings for her, and she for me.What should i do?...
A. 29 January 2007: You only have one option. Move on. Try to imagine how you would feel if you were married to her and she was sleeping with someone else.
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Update on the neck cyst! Doctors were not helpful and told me it was just a fatness of some sort. Antyadvice?
Q. this is an up-date to the cyst problem. i have found out its not a cyst, the doctor said its something to do with muscles, but i dnt know what he means as it does not look like muscles, but some sort of fatness on my one side of the neck. th...
A. 29 January 2007: If the doctors can't do anything about it try to come to terms with it since stressing about something that nothing can be done about can't be good for you. I bet it's not noticeable to anyone apart from you.
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We are both shy....shall I call him??
Q. Dear Cupid, There's this guy I think I might be interested in (he's from a town about thirty minutes or so away from mine). Two of our friends (who are boyfriend and girlfriend) introduced us, and they both think that we should get together...
A. 29 January 2007: YES! That's a perfect excuse to call him. Call and say you're just wondering if he'd like to come since you're worried that ur friend's boyfriend might not remember to ask him and it'd be nice to see him again.
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How do I trust again??
Q. I have been single for three years, and have met the most amazing man. Or have I? I have been in one bad relationship after another, and my last relationship resulted in my infant son dying. My question is, he told me loved me and i love him to, but ...
A. 29 January 2007: First of all I'm very sorry to hear about your son and it's no wonder you're not feeling trusting after that. I think you're a lot like me and you're naturally attracted to guys who aren't very good for you, and then when you meet a good guy you can ... (read in full...)
He's addicted and our future together looks grim--but I don't want to give up! Any advice?
Q. I recently realized that the kind of future i had for my boyfriend and I is only and ideal. . . and it probably won't be anywhere near it. The problem is that I don't know how to deal with it, I don't want to totally give up on my dreams in order...
A. 29 January 2007: If your boyfriend has an addiction you don't want him just to cut down because then it has the chance of coming back. You want him to cut out whatever it is he's addicted to and get help to stay off it. Your relationship can exist alongside this ... (read in full...)
He wants to take a ski holiday on his own with another female! Should I allow this?
Q. Okay here is my problem my bf is 24 and im 31 he is a teacher. He wants to go on a skiing holiday FOR A WEEK in spring break with a female teacher who is 27 just the two of them to do see if the venue is suitable and it will not cost anything. She ...
A. 29 January 2007: He's a grown up so it's not really a question of whether you allow him to go or not because if he wants to go he'll go with or without your approval. It seems to me that if he's intent on going, you being happy and trusting about it is a much better ... (read in full...)
She's scared to end her relationship..I really like her so what can I do?
Q. What do i do when i girl i really like already has a boyfriend but is so unhappy that she doesn't want to be with him no more but is scared to end it as she cares bout other peoples feelings rather than her own? I'm struggling to wait much longer ...
A. 29 January 2007: I know you probably don't want to hear this but you say she cares about other peoples' feelings above her own but she also cares about his feelings above yours if she's continuing to be with him and hurting you. Tell her you're giving her some space ... (read in full...)
He couldn't orgasm! Was it because he was drunk or was I not good enough?
Q. why couldn't my boyfriend come?? on saturday me and my boyfriend went out together, he got drunk, we then went to havre sex in his car, however after an hour he still hadn't come, so he 'had to finish him self off'...was it because he was d...
A. 29 January 2007: If he has ever come with you before then it definitely wasn't you. I've been there, I know how easy it is to beat urself up about it but the other aunts and uncles are right. It's not your fault!
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Is there any way to get rid of neck cysts?
Q. dear cupid i would like to know is their any other way to get rid of a cyst in one part of the neck to even out both necks. i am self concious and do not know how the cyst happened, but when i ask my family they say their is nothing there. e...
A. 29 January 2007: Cysts can be surgically drained and removed in most cases but you'd have to speak to your doctor about it to be sure. The problem with neck cysts is that theyre close to the carotid artery (the one that supplies blood to your brain) so you have to ... (read in full...)
Worried about getting up the duff... any tips to reduce fertility?
Q. I have recently become sexually active, but I have been very concerned about pregnancy. I am not ready to be a mother, and although we are using protection, I can't help but wonder if there is anything more I could be doing to keep myself ...
A. 29 January 2007: Even though you don't mention any of the things you've heard I reckon they're all myths. The only way to prevent pregnancy is to use contraception and you don't want to reduce your fertility anyway, since you might want kids someday. When I first ... (read in full...)
My husband keeps chatting with women on adultfriendfinder!
Q. hi i dont know where to start last year i found out my husband had joined adult friend finder and a couple of other sites he was emailing women arranging to meet them when i told him i had found out he said he wouldnt have done anything i know he ...
A. 29 January 2007: Even though I think what you've done is EXACTLY what I would have done in the same situation, I think your husband will see it as an invasion of his privacy if you were to meet him as whoever you pretend to be when you're speaking. You haven't ... (read in full...)
Got a girlfriend, now an old flame wants to come visit... scared of what might happen!
Q. i have hit a big decision! i am currently in a relationship and have been for the past 4 months. i love my girlfriend with all my heart and have never once in my life before been disloyal to a partner. recently, an old friend of mine got back in ...
A. 29 January 2007: You haven't messed up because there is still time to sort it out. Can I be honest? It sounds to me like your relationship with your girlfriend is worth something whereas what you have with the other girl is just sexual tension. You know it's not a ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend refuses to stop seeing this other guy. Does she love me?
Q. There has always been another man who my girlfriend refused to stop seeing. She said she loved me and wanted to get married. I bought her a $12,000 ring as she promised me he was gone out of town forever.. Three weeks later I found them together at ...
A. 29 January 2007: No u were not wrong! You're well out of that relationship. She had no respect for you or your relationship!
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Satisfied with my relationship but still dream about my ex of 20 years ago!
Q. Last night I had an incredibly intense dream about an ex-boyfriend, and it is still disturbing me many hours later. The dream was so full of LONGING for this person, and in the dream we were figuring out how to leave our current spouses in order to ...
A. 29 January 2007: I'm thinking from the way you describe him that this ex was your first serious boyfriend right? I often wonder myself whether we ever truly get over our first loves. They seem to stay with us in a way that none others do but you said it yourself, ... (read in full...)
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