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41-50,
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writes:I have a question about relationships with in-laws to be.I would like to marry my BF of 9yrs. I worry about our future relationship with my in-laws. His mother is extreamly minipulative and has Narcissistic personality disorder as well as OCD hoarding disorderand I would also include ADD in the mix as well. He was emotionly blackmailed growing up. Over the 9 yrs we have been together I have helped him grow and come out of his shell that all of his friends clamed he was in. I would like to move to the other side of the country as soon as we can to start our new lives together. I feel that this is best for our relationship and our future family. There are many other reasons as well for our relocation. He is overwhelmed with fear and guilt programed, I am sure from the years of manipulation from his mother.So my question is..do I say with him in the town we now live and fight it out so he won't feel so guilty for abandoning his parents (all other 4 of his siblings have now moved away) or relocate?Or maybe even call our relationship quits?!?!I am trying to figure out what is best and I am having a hard time.Thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, cd206  +, writes (21 January 2007):
 Do you love this guy? If you do and you both want to get married then do. You're marrying him, not his mother. Moving away is something you have to think carefully about. Even if you do get away his mother is always going to be a part of his life. Running away won't help that.
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