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writes:hi my best frriend and i have known each other for eight months we are same sex females me black and her white we started a relationship and it has lasted for six weeks everything has been great no fusing no arguing we cuddle and enjoy each other w had sex one time it was our first time because we both are straight and im inlove with her she has bipolar depresssion and lost her job she wouldnt let me help and just distanting from me and came to me the next week and said she cant be in a sexual relationship with a women becaue of her christian beliefs what when wrong the sh tried to comitt suicide on pills and was in the hospital and now dont want to have anything to with me an want to ge her life to gether is it her disorder or she wants out or she need time to get well i love her so much
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reader, cb4 +, writes (25 July 2013):
cb4 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi im back its been a year since I posted but I want to inform my readers that she and I are back together and more happier than ever we both love each other very much she's on meds and their working great she's comfortable with the choice she's made of wanting to be with me and were fine it took time and now we're buying a home together and maybe one day she and I can be married we are so in love and very much happier thanks to ms bondfirl if ur still out there
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reader, cb4 +, writes (11 November 2012):
cb4 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi im back my friend and i are back friends after she was in the hospital for months we been spening time togetherbut now she only want to befriends but i love her and want to be more than friends please someone tell me what to do in hopes of getting her back should ijust give her time and distant myself
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reader, cb4 +, writes (19 June 2012):
cb4 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionbondgirl she knew before she got into this with me if this isnt what she wanted she was so happy until sh lost her job and couldnt pay her bills but i wanted to help but she say no that she wanted her independcy and that she was under a lot of pressure she refuse to go in the hospital and get help for her bipolar dsorder and she took an overdose and almos die now she has to have rehab maybe she thinks i dont want to see her like this but she knowhow much i love and want tobe with her i believe that her beliefs are just an excuse i dont know but i will give her time and see what happens and for her to get well i was her best friend an i know she misses me
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (19 June 2012):
 If she won't return your texts or phone calls, I would probably leave her alone. She may be hurting as much as you, but she may also be completely confused about her life. I am sure the bipolar disorder does not help. If you have someone else you care about, I would let it rest. If she wants to get ahold of you...she knows how to do that. Getting over certain people is really hard, so I feel your pain.
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reader, cb4 +, writes (19 June 2012):
cb4 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionbondgirl again u have been helpful i love and miss her so much we had so much fu together and a part of my life is so empty i want to move on but if she decides later on that she want to try again i would be hurting my other patner and i know i would g back to her becase i lov her and it wolndnt be fair its like im backed into a corner i dont know wat to do she wont return my text or phone this isnt like her we were good in tis relationship we planned our future just weeks ago
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (19 June 2012):
You have a great attitude despite being in a lot of pain from this. I do not know whether this is the right advice, but you could send her a "thinking of you" card just to say you are thinking of her and hoping she gets better. Nothing romantic as that may upset her. Then, I would let it go if she doesn't respond in any way. I will be praying for both of you! Part of me says do not contact her because of her serious situation and because she asked you to, but the other part says I would want her to know I cared, at least as a friend, so maybe a card would be ok. A card would not put any pressure on her, or hopefully wouldn't, and would just let her know you cared.
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reader, cb4 +, writes (19 June 2012):
cb4 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks bondgirl she has been going through alot and ive been there for her but i didnt see that one coming it hurts alot but i just give her time to get better and put it in god hands god make no mistakes and if we are meant to get back together he will let it happen thanks so much if anyone have more advice please post
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (19 June 2012):
I am sorry you are going through this as it must be very hard and confusing for you. It sounds like your friend is not only dealing with a mental disorder but is also struggling to come to terms with who she is and her religious affiliation. She is struggling so much that she tried to take her own life. If you value her as a person,and love her as much as you say, accept what she is telling you. It sounds as if she is going through a very rough period in her life and needs the space to get well again. Love her by respecting her and allowing her the space she needs. I know it must be rough on your end, but think about all she is dealing with.
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