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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Based on the amount of rejections I suffered in the past, I have developed fear and anxiety when I feel like approaching a woman I'm interested in. How do I get rid of these negative thoughts?
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (17 June 2012):
 HI
When you try too hard its easy to fall into that trap of falling too quickly, its because you wear your heart on your sleeve. Even when you think your begining to fall for that woman, you need to take hold of the situation, know that there is all the time in the world for love, the longer you take to get to know eachother, the longer the honeymoon period, hence better the relationship. you can do it :) and remember just be yourself and relax.
Mandy x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you Mandy. Looks like a good suggestion except for the fact that I easily fall in love hence I also have a fear that I might fall for that person. Either way, I'll try that.
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (17 June 2012):
HI
This is so normal and very common so your not alone in this. I would suggest going out with a women with purely friendship in mind, just out for a meal once in a while, or out for a drink or even to see a movie, and let it develop. This way there is no pressure, and you have room to let it blossom .
Mandy x
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reader, Daniel the love doctor  +, writes (17 June 2012):
 It's o.k. if you've experienced negative thoughts when approaching women. Even the most confident men experience rejection and doubt at times. But you can't give into those negative feelings. You are a special person that's worthy of love. And if you believe it... at some point I believe you will obtain it. You just have to keep trying.
Overcome your fears by thinking of more positive things. Recall past experiences where you actually succeeded in getting a woman's number or getting a date. Create a list of personal affirmations that you believe can help you achieve more confidence... and repeat them daily.
Here are some articles that I believe may be a beneficial read for you...
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/need-a-confidence-booster.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-to-approach-a-girlthe-right-way.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what--women-want-most-from-a-guy.html
Best Wishes!
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (17 June 2012):
 The only thing you can do is be realistic about it. Just fake the courage (if you have to fake it), have a positive attitude, and go for the girl you want. Seriously. I rejected a few guys in my time and it wasn't because of them...it was because (1) I was getting over someone else at the time and didn't feel comfortable going out with anyone yet or (2) I just didn't want to date anyone and wanted to do my own thing. Women like men with confidence, so go after what you want and pretend you're invincible. There really isn't anyway to get over rejection except to just start doing what you don't want to do and move forward. It will get better!
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