A
female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid, I'm a freshman and he's a junior. He's had sex with 3 girls I know of and I'm a virgin, he promises he won't hurt me or pressure me into sex. He's lied to me once about how many girls he's had sex with. When I talk to him in person it's kind of awkwrd because there isn't much to talk about but when we text our relationship is so strong. My family and friends all think he's bad for me because he's had sex and he drinks and supposedly does drugs. When he smiles at me he's the only one that has ever given me butterflies. I love his personality and I can see myself with this boy sometime down the road. But I'm not sure if he's worth it? I need help! What's your opinion on all of this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2011): He is a jerk and will break your heart "somewhere down the lane" i being a girl, having been there ...hurt by such dumb guys in younger days when i wasnt mature to undertand,feel like i should come over to you and litrally pull you away from him!!JUST STAY AWAY!!!
identify a boy who is 'good' and slowly date around,playing it safe until you find someone you can trust....stay away from players,bad boys and sex maniacs..trust me at your age you might think they are 'cool' but in reality ,they are just jerks!
its natural that women get attracted to "BAD GUYS" this is just raging hormones and pining for something that looks like its hard to get...bad guys make it seem to you like its difficult to get them and often boast about how many girls they have been with/slept with..and ul feel like "oh lucky them"..its a trick,a bait!
plus you say that a lot of people dont like him.so thats a MAJOR sign for you to run in the opposite direction!! how i wish i could protect young innocent girls like you from being hurt..take care honey..3
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reader, adamantine  +, writes (23 October 2011):
 Don't get caught up just because he's the only boy to have ever given you butterflies. Unless you want to be involved in the alcohol/drug scene too, I'd suggest to not go there.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (23 October 2011):
 Liar ? Sex ? Drink ? Drugs ?...And you are 13-15.
So, guess what our opinion could be....
Heck no ! Are you insane ?
The butterflies you feel are just your young hormones kicking, you are obviously ready to get interested in young males. Just, have a look around and see if there are around other young males who'd be more suitable as boyfriend material. Have a little patience and you'll find them.
Btw, you haven't thought that if he is usually a liar, he must have lied to you also about not pressuring you for sex. Liars always say whatever people want to hear, just to get what they want !
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (23 October 2011):
 If he is a liar and drinks, and is rumoured to do drugs, and your family and friends all think he will be bad for you he doesnt sound like ideal boyfriend material.
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