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Archived questions from: October, 2005 (see latest in Three is a crowd category)

Three is a crowd: Help and advice

Before we were married, my wife had sex with my friend. It feels weird to all of us but her!

This question has 26 answers - newest was posted 5040 days ago

31 October 2005 (M) - When we were younger and single, my wife and I had a very on and off relationship. During one of the "off" times, she had sex twice with my best friend. Time has passed and my friend and I have both gotten married but since that time, our f...

I want the girl I'm interested in to take me seriously...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6960 days ago

31 October 2005 (M) - I have been at university for a month and met a girl in my flat that I'm really attracted to. She has a boyfriend at another university, who she has been with for 3 years. I try to talk to her as much as possible but although we can talk and laugh, ...

My husband has a double-life, another woman and another child!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5079 days ago

30 October 2005 (F) - Hi, I am in the biggest dilemma of my life and need some help. I am 26, Indian, female. I had an arranged marriage 7 years ago when this really sweet guy from UK came to my house in UK and said he wants to marry me with his family. He seemed r...

Two guys, neither wants what I want right now. Do I wait or carry on?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6961 days ago

30 October 2005 (F) - Hi, I am a 28year old girl and have been seeing a fantastic 37 year old man for the last 2-1/2 years and had a really great time with him. The problem being this man does not want the whole marriage and kids thing and just wants to have a good time ...

My wonderful American guy went back to the US and started ignoring my emails...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6957 days ago

30 October 2005 (M) - I had a wonderful relationship with an American man. He also had a partner at home but while in Australia for seven months he had two relationships. Our connection was amazing and we both had never experienced this before in our lives. His pa...

Am I doomed to be in love with my boyfriend AND his best friend?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6178 days ago

30 October 2005 (M) - Hi there...so I am in a real mess right now and I have no idea who to turn to. I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years now and for the last year we have been having a long distance relationship because of university. The last few months have ...

I married my friend, even though there wasn't any passion. 25 years later, I feel empty inside...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6961 days ago

29 October 2005 (F) - Can anyone give me a perspective on my relationship? I was married at 19 after 2yrs engagement to a man the same age. He kept talking about what it would be like to have sex with someone else, and that he might be gay. He invited a friend round, ...

For 8 years I've kept breaking up and getting back with a married man!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6645 days ago

29 October 2005 (F) - I'll describe a very sordid process at the risk of getting a humungous barrage of insults for being an idiot cus that's how I feel...... At 23yrs I was married to a chap who well kept me til he got a stay in the country. He then got violent I divorc...

My partner's pregnant 'fling' is threatening to keep the baby from him!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 6613 days ago

28 October 2005 (F) - My boyfriend cheated on me with this girl as soon as he met her in March. She got pregnant that same month. They both said it was protected and the condom broke. They claimed it was an accident, but now that she found out he was in a serious ...

If my bf was just talking to another girl, like he says, why didn't he mention it at the time?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6961 days ago

27 October 2005 (F) - Tthis guy tells me that he loves me so much and I do (really, I do) believe him. But he left his cell phone in my car the other night and when I was looking at his text messages, I came across a text he wrote to this girl saying "hey I had a great ...

I keep changing boyfriends. I can't decide which one to be with!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6964 days ago

27 October 2005 (F) - I am in relationship with this great guy Mark. We have been together 2 1/2 yrs and we have had our ups and downs. A little over a yr ago I started to fall for one of my friends at work, Dane. We have known each other for 4 yrs at the time and we d...

My girlfriend of more than 2 years ran off with her boss!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6965 days ago

26 October 2005 (M) - I am 37 years old and have been with a lovely 28year old girl for the last 2-1/2 years.We have had our ups and dowmns like most relationships but recently things had being going better than ever. At the beginning of this relationship the girl in ...

I can't figure out whether my co-worker is actually interested, or is using me in some game of her own!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6965 days ago

26 October 2005 (M) - I have worked at my current job for 2 years, and have known and worked with this particular woman the entire time. We work in a factory, and she is on my shift. She also has a live-in boyfriend, and the two of them have a two year old daughter. ...

Should I quit my online flirting, even though neither of us takes it seriously?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 6932 days ago

25 October 2005 (F) - I want to know what others ppl's opinions are on flirting. I am a bit of a flirt and enjoy it, I have always been this way and always thought it was harmless unless you acted upon it. I play an online game with a male friend that my partner do...

He tells me he was "missing" me and that's why he texted that other girl...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6966 days ago

24 October 2005 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. This year we started university and while I stayed at home, he went away. We see each other most weekends. I went up this weekend however and I know it's wrong but I couldn't resist looking in his ...

Should I act on my newly-discovered feelings for my friend Rick?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6967 days ago

24 October 2005 (F) - I am a 21 year old woman, and have been married for 8 months. My partner and I have been together for 4 years and have a 2 year old son. About 12 months ago we started to spend time with a new circle of friends, Michelle and Rick. I started ...

My guy didn't seem to care until I started dating his friend. Now they both want me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6967 days ago

24 October 2005 (F) - I have been in love with this guy for a long time but he expresses no interest in me, so I began to go out with his friend who likes me. Now the guy that I am in love with begins to sweet talk me and take notice of me. I don't want to hurt his ...

What - if anything - should I tell my boyfriend about his ex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6968 days ago

23 October 2005 (F) - My boyfiend split up with his ex when she left the country for her career, about 4 years ago. Him and I have now been together for over two and a half years. All is going brilliantly. Recently I found out that she was paralysed in a horrible ...

Met a new guy who gives me butterflies... but I don't want to break up with my boyfriend!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6968 days ago

21 October 2005 (F) - I love my boyfriend dearly, and we have been together for a number of years. Recently, I met someone that I have become very attracted to and have been flirting with. I would never cheat on my boyfriend so I know nothing will happen between us but I...

This girl seems to care more about her ex boyfriend than about my feelings...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6969 days ago

20 October 2005 (M) - Over the summer me and this girl became very close. We would talk every day and we hung out a lot and eventually I started to have feelings for her. All of her friends said she always talked about me and likes me but there is a problem. She and her ...

Another girl says she's pregnant with my bf's baby. He says it's not true. Trust him?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 6765 days ago

20 October 2005 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for one and half years. In beginning it wasn't very good. He cheated on me and all we did is fight. I was away for a while and he said that's when he fell in love with and has been faithful since. That's w...

I discovered I'm pregnant... and the fact that my boyfriend fancies my best friend!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6971 days ago

20 October 2005 (F) - I have been friends with my boyfriend for about ten years; however he has said that he has always been sexually attracted to me. About a year and a half ago we got it together officially and it was so wonderful, we moved in together after six ...

How do I choose which man I love the best?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 6301 days ago

19 October 2005 (F) - I am having a troubled decision to make. I moved about 1.5 years to new job whilst with boyfriend of 3 years. I then met a guy at new job and really fancied him, made stupid excuse to current bf that it wasnt working and been seeing new guy for ...

The boy I like has a baby and a relationship with someone else, but I think he wants me too!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6693 days ago

19 October 2005 (F) - I have liked this boy since 10th grade and now were're in 12th. He has a baby by another girl, but their relationship is off and on. In reality, I know they are going to be together cause of the baby. Now my mind is telling me to let go, but my ...

I feel awful for dumping him, even though he already has a girlfriend...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6972 days ago

19 October 2005 (F) - I've liked this guy for 3 years and he's apparently liked me for that long too.... We snogged 2 months ago and he was really sweet asked for my number and asked me out etc. but then he disappeared. I found out a few weeks ago the reason why he ...

Did some swinging two years ago and met him again recently. Now I think I'm in love with him!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6964 days ago

19 October 2005 (F) - My partner and I meet a couple 2 years ago (swinging). The guy (37 at the time) and I(18 at the time) had a fling (I really enjoyed it). We lost contact from 2003 until Jan 2005 when the guy and I got in contact again. We met up, him and her and ...

My ex seems too busy to meet me, but not too busy to meet an online acquaintence...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6971 days ago

18 October 2005 (F) - What would you make of my ex-boyfriend's behaviour? We split in March of this year, after a six-month relationship, as he had a lot of 'baggage'. Recently, we have discussed reconciliation, but not on a serious basis to begin with, as 'baggage...

Would it be wrong to meet up with an old high-school friend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6973 days ago

18 October 2005 (F) - I am married. I love my husband very dearly. I came in contact with an old high school friend fact we were friends since diapers. We have been E- mailing each other since our 20th class reunion and we do some friendly-no-meaning flirting but I had ...

My lover's wife is abusive and hateful, but he can't leave her because of the kids!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 6895 days ago

18 October 2005 (F) - I've recently started seeing a guy I met at work, we get on so well and just seemed to click the first time we met. The trouble is, he's not single. He desperately wants to leave his partner but he can't leave because of the children. He is their ...

It can't ever work out, but I'm in love with a married, older woman...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6972 days ago

17 October 2005 (M) - I'm 17 and I have fallen in love with a 22 year old married woman with a 2 year old kid I used to work with. She has also fallen in love with me. We have seen each other quite a lot since I left my previous job. My heart constantly aches and so ...

In love with my best friend's mate... and we're both in other relationships!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6942 days ago

17 October 2005 (F) - I'm in love with my boyfriend's(A) best friend(B),who is also one of my g/friend's (C) boyfriend. I'm so confused, this happened quite unexpedtedly. My heart keeps on telling me we should be together, but my head's saying its impossible. I know he ...

Planning on meeting my online lover soon, but my husband feels lonely and left out

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 6969 days ago

16 October 2005 (F) - Dear Cupid, I am a 35 year old woman in a 12 year old relationship, 10 years of which I have been married. My marriage has been a happy one and I consider my husband to be my best friend. However, there is a problem. 3 months ago I met a woma...

Both my best girl mate and me fancy my best boy mate!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6935 days ago

15 October 2005 (F) - Hi everyone, I'm 13, and I have been best mates with this boy since playschool, 11 years. A week ago, I realised I fancied him, REALLY BADLY! So I told my other best mate (female)and she said she fancied him too! Now I don't know what to do, beca...

Why do I keep chasing men who aren't available?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 6921 days ago

15 October 2005 (F) - I can't help myself. I always seem to go for guys that are unavailable or out of reach in some way. I don't know why I do it but I wish I didn't. I recently fell head over heels with a guy I have been working with for a couple of years. We got fr...

The guy at work has a girlfriend, but I think there's a mutual interest between us...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6976 days ago

15 October 2005 (F) - There is this guy at work. He is one of those rare, nice looking, amazing personality guys. I have noticed lately that he looks at me differently. When I walk in a room, he is looking at me, when he walks past my desk, he stares, smiles or ...

He took advantage of our arrangement by sleeping with another girl AND me...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6969 days ago

14 October 2005 (F) - I dated my boyfriend a little over a year, but ended it because I didn't want to commit to him. Later, we decided to become "friends with benefits", if you get my drift. Then he started seeing another girl at the same time. I only recently ...

My ex-teacher shares his romantic life with me, and I can't stand it!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6969 days ago

12 October 2005 (F) - I'm madly in love with my ex teacher and it's killing me. Recently he got married and he emailed me telling me all about it, when I just don't want to hear it! He says we can't be friends and yet he tells me his life story and I do the same. Th...

I still care for my daughter's husband, but he's been in jail for a while...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6979 days ago

12 October 2005 (F) - I am in love with my daughter's father who is in jail. He's been in jail for about a year now, and during this whole time I have been faithful to him, but I am now having feelings for my childhood friend whom I have known for 10 years. What should I ...

My best friend has started chasing my boyfriend!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6980 days ago

11 October 2005 (F) - I've been seeing my partner for two years and recently my best friend has started texting him constantly, often using phrases only used by a lover/partner. I asked him about it after I couldn't stand it anymore and they both said I was just bei...

Engaged to my partner, but I can't stop thinking of another guy...

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 6034 days ago

11 October 2005 (F) - I've been with my partner for 18months and we are due to marry next year. I love him loads and want to be with him, but I have recently bumped into an old friend who told me that he'd always had feelings for me. Now I can't stop thinking about him ...

Can't tell if the boss is coming on to me...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6980 days ago

10 October 2005 (F) - Dear Cupid My boss, who is older than me, has been giving off very confusing signals! When we have been alone he has been very close but nothing more. This evening as were leaving he said "We always seem to leave together; people will talk...

Afraid that my ex will find someone else, while we're still friends...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6980 days ago

9 October 2005 (F) - Hi. I have a question concerning how to take my ex. We have been broken up for 3 months. For a while we hardly talked, now we are starting to date once a week and talk on the phone daily, which I am very happy about. We both talk (as friends)...

My guy left me to be with his pregnant ex. Should I just move on?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6948 days ago

8 October 2005 (F) - I have been with this guy for 7 years off and on and we have 2 kids together. We separated about a year ago and he started seeing this girl he had cheated on me with before. This girl became pregnant, and me and him got back together. For 9 months...

Stay with my very possessive guy? Or try to have a go with the new man who keeps SMSing?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6985 days ago

6 October 2005 (F) - I'm 21 year old, going out with this guy I lost my virginity to in 2002. I love the guy but he is too busy to spend time with me let alone to call me. I've tried telling him to let go but he just become too possessive and tells me our contract will ...

My man promised that he was going to leave his wife, but he went back to her! Is it me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6974 days ago

4 October 2005 (F) - I have just broken up with the love of my life, whom I have been with for 2 years. He is married but he promised he would leave, which he has done several times. He always goes back for the children. This time I confronted his wife and he now says...

She broke it off with the other guy to be with me, but then he sweet-talked her back!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6987 days ago

4 October 2005 (M) - There's this girl that I met at work about a month ago. We started out as friends because she was "talking" to this other guy who is a loser...I'm not just saying that, he is anyways.... So we have been talking a lot and we have so much in common. ...

How can I control the thoughts about my husband's friend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6987 days ago

3 October 2005 (F) - I have a problem in that I have become extremely attracted to my hubby's friend and cannot stop thinking about him (I know its stupid). This has never happened before and every time I try and forget about him little things remind me of him (I do ...

Did I go too far in agreeing to a threesome? What if my husband cheats?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6408 days ago

3 October 2005 (F) - I have been in relationship for 6 years now, have 2 children together. I made a mistake and agreed to have a threesome with a stranger (woman) but he never had intercourse with her. That was over 3 months ago. We thought it would spice up our rela...

Do I stay in my bad relationship, or make a break and hope the love is as strong as I think it is with my online woman?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 6177 days ago

3 October 2005 (M) - I have been in a bad relationship for 14 years and about 4 months ago I fell in love with a girl online that lives in another country. About 3 weeks ago the online girl was diagnosed with ovarian cancer...I had been contemplating staying in my bad ...

For the first time since I was 13, I have a crush on someone!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6989 days ago

1 October 2005 (F) - I have been devoted to the same person for 15 years. We love each other as best friends, yet there is not much passion and romance between us, ever. He just isn't interested in that sort of thing - romance, sex, etc, never has been. I've been ...