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writes: I am having a troubled decision to make. I moved about 1.5 years to new job whilst with boyfriend of 3 years. I then met a guy at new job and really fancied him, made stupid excuse to current bf that it wasnt working and been seeing new guy for nearly a year. I have still kept in touch with ex and now don't know if I still want him. I cry most nights as I know I really like them both but I know I have to choose. I can't make up my mind and I cant seem to focus on what I really want. Is there anybody that could help me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2007): I'm in the same boat...my ex is a guy that's been there through a very difficult point in my life, but the new guy and I have great conversations and makes me laugh. I'm definitely torn between the two and lie awake trying to figure out which one would be better for me in the long run. I'm still looking for that "sign" that'll lead me in the right direction.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2007): Dear All,I was the original person seeking advice from this question. I can now say that i was a fool and fell into the trap of LUST. My boyfriend who was of 3 years was seeming dull as the new guy complimented me and put me on a high. After a year thinking i was happy with the new guy i knew in the back of my head that i was not happy at all hence the question.I broke it off with the guy and spent time on my own as things got nasty between my x and i. I am and have been back with my x (the man of 3 years) for a year and a half now and things are stronger than ever. We were both young and silly and i have regretted the past but accepted that mistakes happen.Can i please offer advice that your current partner may not be the perfect partner and someone else out there may excite and make you feel a million dollars and rest assured if you told your partner you need to feel that extra love then things will work out. I nearly lost someone and something so special for nothing and i am one of the lucky ones that can safely say i have a strong relationship again and things are looking up now as we are both very open with each other now.Take care x
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2007): I am not quite sure how you will know which man is right for you. When you figure it out, please post your method! I could use some help my self!!!!! :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2007): I have recently experienced the same situation. I made my choice in the following way: I wrote down negatives and positives for both men, met up with each of them on two sperate days close together so time apart wouldn't cloud my judgment, I talked in depth to both of them about feelings/future plans etc and then decided which one I wanted to be with. As it turned out, the decission wasn't difficult as I wanted to be with the man that I knew inside out for the last 5 years and felt secure and happy with and still loved, over the guy who was 'new', exciting and sexy and that I hardly knew at all and truthfully lusted over as he was considered exciting.
If you choose to decide which man, you also have to be prepared to walk away with neither. Hopefully this won't happen to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2007): well i think that you should follow your heart. your ex-boyfriend was he really the one or is this new guy the one? It also depends which one really knows who you are which one took the time to get to know you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2006): I have the same problem
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2006): Hi ,If you need to choose one first!!! Try to know which man can best suit in your like and who can understand you better and lets you to be in freedom.The man who means to you much more than Sex he should be the right one.
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reader, Kay-the-Cloud +, writes (22 October 2005):
You have to decide because it is not fair on the two men involved. Love is very unpridictable, perhaps you should go out on a date with the both of them (on seperate days) and the one who ultimately makes your heart flitter is the one you should choose, but do not leave it too long otherwise you will have neither of them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2005): your an emotional being and your emotions feed on many things especiallly communication. if you live in another state or atleast far away from you first man, cut communication, and increase time you spend with this other guy. you'll forget him... dont pick his calls and tell him outrightlly that you love someone else.
good luck
elias
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reader, pope +, writes (20 October 2005):
Im sorry i cant make this very simple because its not me who can tell you what to do i can only point you in the right direction only youre heart can decide. You cannot love 2 people at the same time its impossible. You can however love and lust someone so you need to decide which one you love and which one you lust
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