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writes: I am 37 years old and have been with a lovely 28year old girl for the last 2-1/2 years.We have had our ups and dowmns like most relationships but recently things had being going better than ever. At the beginning of this relationship the girl in question wanted me to marry her and have children with her, but I thought this was too soon to know if she was the one for me. I have never been totally sure about marriage and kids and I think recently this has become a major problem for us.The last few years with this girl have been the best time of my life and she has shown me how to live again. She started a new job about 3 weeks ago and the manager has been showering her with compliments ever since and has now declared his undying love for her and said that he wants to leave his wife of 17 years and 3 kids and run away with her.I had a text the other day from my girlfriend saying she felt the same about him and he had left his wife and they were going to live together and have kids. I am absolutely devastated and at my wits end it feels as though the world has fell out of my life. I can't bear to talk to her about it and she says she still wants to be my friend, but I can't see how things will be the same anymore.I blame myself for this situation, I should have swept her away sooner.The problem being I have a business that's not going too well and money is tight. The new guy is earning big money and treating her like a princess. This is really cutting me up as over the last 2 1/2 years we have had so much fun together and now I am so lonely.I am secretly wishing it will all be a flash in the pan and she will come back to me but im not sure.Any advice would be helpful and I'm sorry for rambling on; I just had to get it out of my system.Thanks for any replies
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2005): Well if she really loved you then this wouldnt have happened..yes youve had your problems but still no problem is too big to deal with and sort through..this is not your fault you cant think that if you had given in and put your own thoughts and feelings aside that things would be different because im sure this guy still would have had an effect on her anyway.
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reader, pops +, writes (27 October 2005):
Grieve over the loss, and learn from it when you can sit down and analyze it. Both of you were at fault, or you didn't see that she wasn't really in love with you. You will survive this, although you are hurting now. Get busy doing something else, so that you keep your mind busy and off this shocking loss. You will find a woman who really loves you, and if you learn from this, you may not make the same mistake with a new girlfriend. Think of this as her loss.
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