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writes: I have been with this guy for 7 years off and on and we have 2 kids together. We separated about a year ago and he started seeing this girl he had cheated on me with before. This girl became pregnant, and me and him got back together. For 9 months he has denied this child to me. Well Sha went in labor today and he told me he had to go. He left at 10am this morning and is still gone but says he wants to be with me. I'm hurting really bad. I'm afraid this child will come between our relationship and our kids. Do I leave and deal with it or should I just go away?
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reader, S_J_K_J +, writes (12 November 2005):
I understand that you have children with this man but we all know thats no reason to have a relationship with someone...I think you should ask yourself what you want and take it from there. Weigh out the pros and cons and don't settle for anything but what you want. Hope I could help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2005): Girl I went through the exact same thing. Leave him alone I know you want to work it out because you guys have children together but if he did it once he will do it again. I would know my baby's father cheated on me twice once with a girl I didn't know and with his other baby's mama. He got both of them pregnant and I still took him back I got pregnant next, and he knew he had a good woman being me. I was there with him when he didn't have anything and he chose to go cheat with other girls. Do you know where he is now in jail suffering from all the bad things that he has done. And those so called girls that he cheated with ain't bothered about him. now he's wriwring me telling me how much he's messed up and how sorry he is and how it took for hi, to go to jail to realize that he had the perfect woman. So like I said girl leave him alone because every dog has it's day. There is somebody out there better for you he could be right under your nose don't let him get by. I almost did because the perfect man was right under my nose and he's my childhood friend. but when my baby's father gets out he's gonna have a surprise he thinks he is coming home to me but I've found a home with somebody else me and his daughter. The only relationship you two should have is the one relating to your two children.
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reader, pops +, writes (8 October 2005):
Move on. Any guy who will cheat on you will do so again. I know this is going to be hard on your children, and on you, but he has made his choice. Say good by and good luck to him. Maybe he will grow up some day. Don't take your disgust with the father out on the child when and if you meet some day. You will need to take a long look at your relationship some day, after you get over the grieving at the loss of this long time relationship. When you take stock, you will need to decide which of you did what to each other to see your relationship end. It ended before he cheated on you, and not with the birth of the new child. Assess and assign blame where it belongs. Learn what your mistakes were and learn from them. When you find someone new to love, you will be better prepared to have a successful relationship with him.
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