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writes: My boyfriend and I have been together for one and half years. In beginning it wasn't very good. He cheated on me and all we did is fight. I was away for a while and he said that's when he fell in love with and has been faithful since. That's what he has been telling me. The other day I found out some girl is saying she has his baby. He said there is no way possible because he has never been with her. Then he said he has been with her but not in the past two years. So should I talk to her and find out or just trust him? Help me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2006): I am going through the exact same thing. It sucks so bad because I love the guy and this girl is saying she is pregnant with his kid. He says he slept with her a couple of months prior to us getting together, we've been together for almost 7 months now. Anyways she claims that she is 4 months pregnant with his kid, I told him that he never did anything for me not to trust him so we will wait until the day that child is born and if he wants me in his life HE WILL take a paternity test. If he is the father he all ready knows that we are through because I am to good of a woman to put up with a cheater. This girl because of all the heart ache and drama she has caused for our relationship is getting beat up after she has the kid and of course when the kids not around. I am mad and either way if he is or is not the father this girl will get the suprise of her life, she was "supposedly" my friend, some friend huh??? Oh and to the person who says no one should be left pregnant, you are right HOWEVER if my man did cheat on me with her she deserves everything she gets for being a two faced homewrecker. That of course is my opinion :)
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reader, smilentherain +, writes (25 October 2005):
I'm going through the exact situation with my bf except the woman is pregnant now and he admits to sleeping with her. I've spoke to her and she is 100% confident it is and claims he told her he didn't need a dna test. But, he's telling me he has his doubts. I'm in love with him and want to be with him still. If it is his baby, should I forgive him and stand by him or just move on with my life?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2005): Simple..get a paternity DNA test done. For your own peace of mind, you need to get to the bottom of these accusations. Not knowing if he has cheated with her or not-will always be at the back of your mind. You need a reinstate a semblance of 'trust and faith' in this guy, so you both can put this to rest and carry on with your relationship, in a healthy, happy fashion.
Yes, he did cheat on you once, but you forgave him of that and as a couple you both took the opportunity to fix what was wrong and managed to make your relationship work. But now, with this rumor of another girl and a baby that might be his, you are having doubts and one can't blame you. So I can understand your anxiety and uncertainties about all this.
I would not suggest that 'you' talk to this girl but rather, have him ask her to agree to a paternity test. In all honesty, for the sake of this child...if your bf is the father, he has some enormous moral and financial responsibilities to this child. And if this child is under 9-10 months old, (you do the math) then it will be proven he did cheat on you, then you have some serious re-evaluations to do in regards to your relationship with him. I wish you luck dear...it's not going to be easy, so stay strong.
Hugs,
Irish
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reader, robinlovescena +, writes (21 October 2005):
 RUMORS!!!
RUMORS ARE RUMORS. YOU CANT BELIEVE EVERYTHING THAT YOU HEAR. I WOULD TRUST UR B/F. IF HE HAS BEEN FAITHFUL FOR YOU IN A WHILE, THEN I WOULD BELIEVE HIM. HE DOES" LOVE" YOU AND YOU SHOULD BE ABLE TO TRUST HIM EVERYONCE IN A WHILE. IF HE SAYS HE DIDNT DO IT, TRUST THE FACT THAT HE DIDNT. IF SHE DOES END UP HAVING A BABY, SIT HIM DOWN, WITH THTAT GIRL AND TELL THEM TO EXPLAIN WHAT HAD HAPPENED AND THEIR POINT OF VIEW. tRY MEDIATION.
~ROBIN~
AKA ADVICE GURL
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reader, pops +, writes (20 October 2005):
The gestation period for most humans in about 9 months, so if the baby has not been born yet, and you are sure he has not been with this woman, leave it alone. However if this kid is not at least 2 years old, then you need to have a long conversation with this man. Ultimately, he is going to be responsible financially for this child, if it is his. The blood tests, including DNA testing they can do today will be able to tell if he is the father. If he is married to you when he finds he is the father, his income available to support you and your family will be severly impacted for a number of years. YOu do have an interest in knowing the truth. If he is still cheating on you, you need to know why? What does he get from other lovers that he does not get from you? Or is it just the thrill of another conquest that has him acting so immaturely?
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reader, Jami_23 +, writes (20 October 2005):
I would talk to her see if she can tell you when her due date is and try to calculate when she got pregnant so you can try to see if your man was sneaking around at that time, if you do decide to belive him tell him you want a paternity test as soon as its born or your out! Nobody deserves to be cheated on or left pregnant, Good Luck!
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