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writes: Tthis guy tells me that he loves me so much and I do (really, I do) believe him. But he left his cell phone in my car the other night and when I was looking at his text messages, I came across a text he wrote to this girl saying "hey I had a great time the other night and so I was thinking we should do it again, call me" ..umm, immediately I thought they went to the movies together bc it was the same wk that he said he went to the movies with some guy friend of his. Anyway I confronted him and he said yeah, he hung out with her at the campus' gameroom. All they did was talk about the class they had together! Is this believable? Then he said he didn't tell me bc he didn't think it was a big deal. But usually he tells me things if they aren't a big deal. And also, if that,indeed, is all that happened, why write such a personal text message, you know? I asked him that and he said he was just being friendly, but honestly, why does he need to be friendly with other girls? I don't know. I'm still with him, but his story just doesn't add up and it's making me wonder if I made the right decsion. What do you think?? Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2005): it doesnt sound like you trust him now, because of that text! and i dont blame you! but if he says it was nothing and you want to stay with him, you need to believe him! but just be carfull xxx
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reader, missbunbury  +, writes (28 October 2005):
 Being friendly with other girls is fine, but if I'm honest, I think that message sounds a little bit more than friendly. Ask him whether the two of you could get together with this girl and "her boyfriend" (say it innocently!) and see how he reacts. If he's fine with that, do it and see how they are together. If he refuses to let you meet this girl, then alarm bells should be ringing.
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reader, QOTU +, writes (28 October 2005):
 You REALLY need to confront him about this... somehow or another, you have to see if he is lying or not, because - I'm sorry, but - this DOES look fishy.
Thats all I'm going to say.
~QOTU
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2005): Well you need to make a decision either you do or are going to believe him or you are going to retalk to him regarding this issue..i cant understand your concern and i would be the same as you if it was me..when a partner tell you everything then keeps one little maybe innocent thing from you it makes you wonder why he did.
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