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writes: I love my boyfriend dearly, and we have been together for a number of years. Recently, I met someone that I have become very attracted to and have been flirting with.I would never cheat on my boyfriend so I know nothing will happen between us but I think I would like it too, and I'm pretty sure the guy in question feels the same. It is the first time since I've been with my boyfriend that I have felt like this about someone else, and I am really unsure about what to do. I don't want to hurt my boyfriend and I don't want to break up with him but when I'm with this other guy, I get butterflies. Please help me figure out what to do!
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reader, Kez1984 +, writes (23 October 2005):
I was in this situation a few months ago and I left my boyfriend for this guy nothing happened immediately we had broken up for 2 months and now im seeing my new man and I've never been happier and im not looking back. go with your gut feeling if he makes u feel special and u know he has feelings for u go for it darlin.
I thought I could sort things with my ex but i realised havin feelings with someone else meant that perhaps i didnt feel as much for my bf as I thought.Maybe it is the real thing with u guys maybe its a break u need some time to yourself. Good luck with whatever u do!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2005): Butterflies have a short lifespan, hum. What feels like love to one person may be nothing more than attraction to another. Lust is a very powerful, intense feeling of physical attraction toward another person-which is this other guy. Love is based on caring, friendship, commitment and trust, as well as physical attraction. We feel safe, protected, secure, content-which is your current boyfriend. You are looking at that other guy through rose-coloured spectacles and forgetting what made your present boyfriend stand out from the crowd. How you feel about your boyfriend is unique to you. You need to identify what is missing in your relationship, decide if you can fix it or move past it, and then decide if you want to put the work into getting things back on track or move on to fresh pastures. Good luck
Hugs, Irish
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (22 October 2005):
 I found myself in the same situation as you not so long ago. I had a boyfriend who I was very happy with, we'd been together for 2 years and I met someone else, Sam*. At first, it started with just flirting but soon, I couldn't control my feelings for him. I fell out of love with my boyfriend and ended up with this new guy.
I guess the moral here is follow your heart. Me and Sam* are still together and very happy planning our lives together. I know this won't happen in every situation but you know how you feel. Can you honestly see yourself with your boyfriend forever? You can't let chances pass you by, this new guy may be the man of your dreams.
I can't tell you what to do, as I don't know your situation. Just be careful and take your time. Don't cheat, lie or disrespect your boyfriend but don't rule out moving onto someone else. I believe there's only one person for us out there and you can't let any chance of finding that person slip away. Good luck and be happy.
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reader, Kay-the-Cloud +, writes (22 October 2005):
You ultimately have to decide, it seems that you are aware that you cannot see this person and cheat on your bf, so it's either you finish with your bf and take a chance with the new relationship or you reside yourself to the fact that you can only be friends with this person.
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